FRK What is the MINIMUM level of freak that you'll deal with in the bedroom?

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  1. Sam Gamgee

    Sam Gamgee Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. OT Supporter

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    So, I consider myself to be very "open" sexually. I'll try anything...

    But, I'm dating a new guy. And he's perfect. Completely my physical type. He's funny, got a great sense of humor, and he's hot.

    Plus, he's 25, so he's got the sex-drive of a fucking rabbit!!! (We had sex three times in an 8-hour period... I didn't sleep at all Saturday night).

    But, here's the deal. He won't do anal. It's all foreplay, kissing, rubbing, handjob, blowjob...

    And it's fun. I'm certainly pleased in the bedroom. But, I wonder if this becomes a long-term relationship if I'll miss anal sex (since I love it so much).

    And it got me wondering. What is your minimum level of freak that you'll tolerate? What won't you give up?
     
  2. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    Tigre has been my only freaky partner, tho i did find out that my ex started getting freaky with th egf he got after me. I had kind of tried to steer him inthat direction when we were together but he was rather weak in that regard and i still had no idea what it was that i actualy wanted. Any whoot, in a along term relationship i will NOT tollerate a sub male. He can switch, but 75% of the time i need him to be dominant. That's my one sexual requirement. the rest can be worked on if the communication is right (which in a good relationship needs to be there anyway).
     
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    TigreTek omega member OT Supporter

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    :love:

    i think i should slap you around some more this week.
     
  4. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    Please Sir?
     
  5. TigreTek

    TigreTek omega member OT Supporter

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    done. it's on.
     
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    it all comes down to how freaky you and your partners have been in the past, no?

    and whether u think u can make them MORE freaky, or if they are going to be steadfast in their prudish ways....

    for me, it's not so much a minimum level of FREAKYness, as much as a minimum level of libido. If the girl isn't going to be down to have sex on a daily basis, (minus those days that are very hard, or tiring, or they have a huge deal to wake up for in the morning), then she's outta here. these type of things require sleeping with a person for at least a few weeks though. gotat get used to one another.

    Or if shes the kindof girl who REFUSES to ever watch a porno, or REFUSES to either give or receive oral sex? outta here....

    anyone who is horny enough will do. freakyness comes later......if youre horny enough, i figure you'll do almost anything when the time is right.
     
  7. Acesn8s

    Acesn8s The Deadman's Hand

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    My freak is pretty much non-existent these days. My wife doesn't seem to have a freaky bone in her body . . . except for mine.

    I actually avoided dating her for about 3 years because of this. I came to realize that I cared more about her then my interest in BDSM. Besides, I have the rest of our lives to tempt her to the kinky side.
     
  8. Peyomp

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    Anal with a woman is kinda a litmus test for me. If she won't do it, she's probably too 'up tight' in general. It needs to be an option at least once in a while. If a girl will do anal, she's probably into enough other freakdom that I won't get too frustrated. But my main thing, that I need to feel fulfilled is... in between sweet, clingy, caring sex I need... to bite, be bitten, smack, get smacked, scratch, be scratched, snarling, shit talking... I need 'mean' sex. If its nice all the time, I start to feel unfulfilled. Soon I start feeling like a stud horse... I've figured her out, I go through the motions, and she gets off and I orgasm, but don't 'get off' in the sense that I feel fulfilled and relieved. Its pretty much always worked out like this, actually, in the end. The girls that are into the freakdom are not long term potential mates. The girls that are potential long-term mates are boring in the sack. I dunno if its a rule in general, but it seems like it sometimes. With a man... I'd be okay with taking a long while to move into anal territory, but it would be hard not to fuck someone that I was with every day.
     
  9. gorilla

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    Wait...huh? I might sound like an ass for asking, but I don't mean to.

    I would consider anal intercourse with homosexuals to be normal, not freaky. Isn't it? Is this a stereo type? Is a gay man refusing to have anal sex, refusing sex in general? (Not counting oral and such.)
     
  10. Shadygirl

    Shadygirl Love is Life and Happiness

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    Not for nothing but maybe this is all new to him and he is still getting used to the idea? Does he not want to give or receive or both? Has he had anal before? Maybe he needs to be worked in??? In which case, have fun! I think you should just talk to him about it and see what he says, communication is always the key to any succesful relationship.
     
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    I just needed to be grabbed at; bit and scratched. If they do it lightly, it shouldn't be too hard to get them to go harder.
     
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    Like, he wont at all? Is that he wont do you? Or is that he wont let you do him?
     
  13. xela

    xela So say we all!

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    There are plenty of women who are great in long term relationships who are freaky in the bedroom. What an generalization. :hsugh:
     
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    Shadygirl Love is Life and Happiness

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    I didn't want to be rude and say anything but I agree his statement made no sense. I've been with my SO for 3 years now and he is the first one that has seen my "freakiness". He made me feel comfortable enough to go there, he never complains of our sex life being boring....I wouldn't let it be, I love sex and all of it's kinks.
     
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    xela So say we all!

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    Exactly! Because of my long term relationship and our comfort level with each other I can let my freaky side come out.
     
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    I'm sure there are, which is why I said that I didn't know if it was a rule in general. I just haven't been with one yet.
     
  17. Peyomp

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    Did you catch this part?
    ;) Re-read what I said, where I indicate that this is my personal exprience and not a rule in general, and then see if it makes sense.

    But you kindof fit what I'm saying... I couldn't wait 3 years to awaken someone's inner freak.
     
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    I dunno if this counts, but my ex was very religious. And he believed that sex was a sin... okay, he didn't believe that SEX was a sin, just pre-marital sex. So every time we would have sex, he would feel really guilty and angry with me. Then he would ignore me for a week and go pray in a closet or something.

    THAT I could not deal with. But with my husband now, even if his dick got cut off or he became paraplegic, I would never ever leave him. But the sex is a NICE bonus, that's for sure
    :mamoru:


    ..does that answer your question? I guess it just depends on the situation. If I were you, I would invest more time with this guy. If he is perfect in every other way, I think it would be worth the sacrifice, plus you could always ease him into it over time.
     
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    I dunno. I don't think I would let out my inner freak with just anyone right away. I would have to know that I could trust them first.
     
  20. Peyomp

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    Will he take a toy to your ass?
     
  21. Sam Gamgee

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    Not really.
    Many gay men feel the same as many straight men about anal sex: EXIT ONLY.

    For the guy I'm dating now, he's in the medical field and he's had classes about bacteria and sexual diseases/issues. Plus, he's a young'n, so he's got some trepidation about the first guy to stick his cock up there...
     
  22. Sam Gamgee

    Sam Gamgee Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. OT Supporter

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    Both... At this point, he wants nothing to do with the ass region on either of us.

    But, you're right. He did say that he's just unsure of what would go on back there and if he'd even enjoy it. So, there's a small window of opportunity there...

    Time will tell, I suppose. And it's up to me, I guess, to decide if I want to invest the time.

    As it stands now, he's quite an amazing guy. So, I'd like to stick it out... and see if I can stick it in someday... :o
     
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    Sam Gamgee Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. OT Supporter

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    both....
     
  24. naughtie

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    Well if he wears a condom, it won't be so much of an issue. I am sure you already went over that, tho.

    :mamoru:
     
  25. Sam Gamgee

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    Great points!!!

    Yes, he's totally worth it. And, I'll tell you, his lack of back-door-entry interest is made up by the fact that he's ready to roll around and get off at the drop of a hat.

    Plus, he's got a "thing" for older, slightly overweight guys (which is why he approached me). So, that's a plus!!! (seeing as I'm 10 years older than him).

    I'm definitely going to invest more time. He's a sweetie... Here are some pictures:

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