What is Love?

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  1. fixthe fernback

    fixthe fernback New Member

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    Oh baby, don't hurt me
    Don't hurt me no more

    seriously though, what is it exactly? I don't think I've experienced it ever... :o I'm talking about romantic love here. How will I know what it is when I experience it?

    I'm not talking about sex here, I've had it, but I don't recall having any feelings that could be called Love, just a strong attraction to her physically :)rofl:)

    I feel like the biggest fucking loser posting this thread :o. But I'm bored, so wtf
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    There has been so many threads on this subject....Apparently we are both too lazy to look them up though.
     
  3. Viper

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    I came in here to post this. lol I'm also bobbing my head right now. :o

    Anyways, my definition of "love" is like a span of feelings you have towards another person.

    It ranges from very simple, puppy-like infatuation on one end of the scale to what the greeks called "agape" on the other end of the scale.

    Most of us land somewhere in the middle.

    The most basic form of love is a "feeling" or an "act" of caring for another human being as you care for yourself. A desire to see this person happy. A desire to bring them joy. And deeper forms of love: a willingness to sacrifice your own needs/wants to make them happy, even if that means watching them walk away and letting them go.
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

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    :rofl: I started bobbing my head as soon as I read the title
     
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    love is a farce
     
  7. huntz0r

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    A combination of physical and emotional attraction, a feeling of intimate connection, and a deep concern for the other person's well-being which often outgrows concern for your own.
     
  8. NaviQ200

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    you should have your own definition of love

    And a fine poet and a badass rocker once said:

    "Love comes to those who seek it" Jim Morrison

    Maybe you haven't been seeking it...
     
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    Taker 找死吗?

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    /thread?
     
  11. kiri

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    you will know when you're in love.
     
  12. danewreed

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    when you think one thing, person is better than the others you've seen.
     
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    I dunno it's probably too verbose for some :)
     
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    Also it doesn't mention the euphoria
     
  15. iwishyouwerebeer

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    Or he'll just become infatuated and assume that's "love" :mamoru:
     
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    Or it won't be a phase and he'll be right :mamoru:
     
  17. fixthe fernback

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    I loved someone once. i loved her body and I loved making out with her and sexing her up (she was very animated... shame we never went out long enough to act out her sexual fantasy... handcuffs :eek3:). I was never in love, then, right? That was just infactuation?
     
  18. iwishyouwerebeer

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    I don't know about "infactuation," :mamoru: but it sounds like you really liked her a lot and just had great sexual chemistry :dunno:
     
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    It's just semantics. There's love and there's luuuv and there's love. Your one rigid definition of "< X MONTHS = INFATUATION; > X MONTHS = LOVE" isn't necessarily what people mean when they say "love."
     
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    Which is to say I fell in love with a girl (the one I'm in love with right now) after a couple weeks, and it was quantitatively and qualitatively different then than it is now, but it was love then and it's love now. It's also infatuation.

    The notion that the infatuation has to end is a limiting belief. So what you feel in the beginning - since it CAN last forever - still qualifies as love.

    Most of us here in the vag. are too jaded or normal or boring to realize that. But it is a limiting belief. Like "I can't get the hot white girls because I'm an Asian." As true as you let it be.
     
  21. Ichabod Crane

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    well, that's a tough question. here's what i think, though. this will be all over the place...the things that seem little matter the most (can you have a good time just watching tv together, or just talking? can you see yourself being with them for a long time? do you trust them? do they make you feel better when you're feeling like shit? does she know some of your quirks but put up with them anyway? is your basic life philosophy the same - i mean the fundamentals. if you were having a tough time, emotionally, physically? would they take care of you.

    when the shit really hits the fan would you want this person next to you? certainly there is an element of physical attraction as well.

    you will never get a written letter from God or anyone saying " This is love." You will feel different about this person.

    maybe write down some of your thoughts about her on paper. this might help you figure stuff out if you can "see" feelings visually
     
  22. BedBunny

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    Yep, first thing that popped into my head, "A Night at the Roxbury" and that song. :p

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  23. M.E.

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    love BAH! almost 7 billion people on the planet spread out over thousands of miles and your supposed to find love...its called settling for convience.
     

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