SRS What is love?

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  1. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    How do you know when its love you are feeling?
     
  2. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    Care,for all is like a bonsai tree
    To love is to care about something, that you want that something to be preserved. Wether it be person or an item.
     
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    RedDawg Well-Known Member

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    love is when you want the best for someone even if that means not being in their life anymore
     
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    Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, oh-oh

    Ahem.

    Well it starts as an overwhelming infatuation, but if you want it to last, you have to make a choice and work at it.
     
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    Megab OT's CPhT

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    dawt.
     
  6. JohnJohnJohnson

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    Not necessarily. That's love + intelligence + insight, not simply "love."
     
  7. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    It isn't "I like you a lot." There's a different flavor. I can define differences: yes, it's like "I like you a lot" x 100, but it elates or scares you in a way that love/liking of a great friend doesn't.

    Where does the love come from? First of all, there are usually things about the person that are loved in a manner of respect. Personality attributes that are revered: Strength. Independent interests in life. Irresistable cuteness. A sense of fun. Intelligence. Big things.

    Second, there may also be things about the person that are a matter of random preference! That person's specific voice, laugh, energy, how they act around someone who looks up to them, body movements. Little things.

    Physical beauty is sort of in both categories, since their face and height is not within their control, but since some of their physique is a product of their diligence.
     
  8. ebbnflo

    ebbnflo REAL- LAOT Hermit

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    Hmm.... Well, I have found these answers really interesting, and I look forward to seeing more.

    However, I, myself, cannot comprise an answer to that question.
    (really USEFUL reply, eh???)
     
  9. Toasty

    Toasty Naked people have little or no influence on societ

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    I think I agree with these points. I'll add to that....

    One of the best feelings in the world is when someone you have feelings for, in all the above-mentioned ways, returns you the same.

    That's when you know you've finally swung your hammer hard enough to ring the bell. No puns intended :wiggle:
     
  10. SpectraRedZ

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    I dont think it is something that can really be described in words. It has to be felt.
     
  11. toddjohan

    toddjohan As seen on ABC's 101 Ways to Leave a Game Show

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    I think love is when you honestly and seriously want the best for the other person...

    Not being jealous, or mean or bullheaded.

    Enjoying the other persons company, not being jealous, caring for them and them doing all those things right back at ya...that's when you know it's right.
     
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    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Love is a many splendored....

    I concur with all of these responses, and I'll add one more:

    Love is knowing the worst thing about someone, and they knowing the worst thing about you - and it's okay. You accept them and love them. It's liberating. :)
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Hm I disagree with this one. I think that can be found with or without love. Certainly without romantic love.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I don't think I've ever had a feeling I couldn't describe, so I'm not sure I'm with you on this one. In fact, I think I pretty much described what it feels like for me in that post.
     
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    QFT.
     
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    I have this feeling of love before and to me its basically is that you want to take care of that particular person. Or like you will do anything for that person. From male point of view though.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I think wanting the best for someone even if that means not being in their life anymore is a result of love, but does not define it or explain how it feels. Additionally, I believe it might be possible to want the best for someone even if it means not being in their life anymore without loving them. In fact, it's probably easier to want that if you don't love them, since someone you love has a quality of compelling you towards them.
     
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    love is really subjective, it means different things to different things. generally if you love someone, you care for them, blah blah. but it's a feeling everyone has to discover for themselves to know what it is, and what it means to them.
     
  20. Mars Princess

    Mars Princess They hatin'

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    I don't think there is any one point where you KNOW you are in love. I believe love develops over time. Try not to look for any one sign that you are in love. Just enjoy who you are with and let it be :)
     
  21. A chemical reaction in the brain which is caused by subliminal suggestion, either by someone else or yourself.
     
  22. kayy-so

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    love is bullshit

    love is something you want..something you think you need.

    when in the end you'll be alone anyways.. he/she will cheat and your whole view of love will change. that when you will realize.
    we were made to reproduce.. not to have feelings. feelings dont exist. someone decided to tell us when we were little that being hit on the hand hurts. but if we were told that it doesnt hurt thats the way it is supposed to feel. then we wouldnt know any different

    love is a word.
     
  23. Mars Princess

    Mars Princess They hatin'

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    Love is something people want. Love is something people THINK they need with another person, but where people fuck up is assigning all these GRAND feelings and emotions to love. That's why you find so many people dissapointed with their various encounters with people they want to love or are sharing love with

    Love is something that develops. Even though it can be felt between two people or a person and an animal, love can be expressed for oneself or come from a person, even if it is not returned.

    But ya dude, you sound bitter. I thought i was bitter :)
     
  24. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Ya. People want what feels good.
    I don't know about grand feelings and emotions, but I love my s.o. passionately, and wonder if that qualifies as fucking up? lol.
     
  25. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I don't know if this was supposed to be purely metaphorical, but getting hit on the hand hurts because we have nerve endings that send pain signals to the brain.
     

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