What do you mean by "working out?"

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  1. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    People talk about relationships not working out. Republican dating a democrat, that'll never work out. Atheist dating a Christian, that'll never work out.

    It bugs me because, what, exactly, is this Working Out?

    Enjoying yourself along the way, even if it's 5 days long? Is that "working out?"

    Or is monogamous marriage forever what "working out" means to you?

    Or 1 year of level 8/10 happiness?

    Or what.
     
  2. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    I'm guessing people mean that it will never last.........as for a time commitment, I have no idea.
     
  3. Thelonius

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    To me it means that both people got what they wanted from the relationship. If you have a 5 day fling and both people understand what it is and enjoy it, then I'd say it worked out.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    right but what supposedly qualifies as "lasting?" unto death? when is the official Worked Out milestone.
     
  5. Bob Brown

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    I'd go with until death for me.........like the one :run:

    I really don't know to be honest, now that you've posed the question. Now I am curious. Make a poll?
     
  6. Falconer

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    If something "isn't working out" it means it's time to end it.

    A relationship is "working out" until the moment one person decides to end it.

    You can be unhappily in a relationship that is not working out.

    But if both people are happy then it is "working out."

    Having a fight doesn't mean it isn't working out.



    Man it's late and I'm tired and I can't formulate what I'm trying to say. Basically as long as both people wish to continue the relationship, it is working out. The moment one person no longer wishes to continue the relationship, regardless of if they have broken up or not, it is no longer working out.
     
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    JJJ your posts are too philosophical for me :p
     
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    Working out = compromise, and putting the other persons needs first once in a while.
     
  9. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    So there's no time limit. You can have a relationship last 5 days and if one person compromised in that time we can say it "worked out."
     
  10. JohnJohnJohnson

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    I'm just pointing this out because it's "one of those things" that people say without thinking what they mean.

    Cuz they want to say something advice-y.

    When you ask somebody a question, I find, their first impulse is not to give you the most helpful or the most accurate answer; their first impulse is to sound knowledgeable.

    I am like that too. I like to give advice in and of itself. So when people come looking for advice, sometimes I have a lot of stuff to say, even if I never had personal experience to draw upon. Maybe from all the romcom ads I've seen. I don't know.

    It's particularly true in the dating world. I find I have a lot of advice-y rhetoric, phrases that aren't mine, *particularly* in the relationship world, where you can say almost anything you want, and yet never risk it being disproved by any pesky empirical data.

    One of Those Things that people like to say, I believe, in order to sound advice-y, is that a relationship will or won't "work out."

    Meaningless gibbering word-poop.

    I am 99.9% convinced that anyone who says this has no idea what they themselves mean. It's one of the millions of cliche relationship proverbs, floating around, that come to our lips, for whatever reason, when we are asked to speak about dating, intended solely to make the speaker sound knowledgeable without actually saying anything of substance whatsoever.
     
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    JJJ I <3 your posts but you dig way to deep into it. LOL

    "working out" is a quick and easy way of ending a conversation. When someone asks me how things are with so and so and I reply, "Eh, they didnt work out". It doesn't mean anything more than that, It means shit didnt work. Her and I did not compute. I left it at "didnt work out" because I dont want to divulge all this pointless jibber jabber about my now, meaningless ex.
     
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    These.
     
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    JJJ, you are putting far to much thought into a phrase that is nothing more than a colloquialism.

    :hsugh:
     
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    working out to me is 4 days a week at golds gym, 6 meals a day, 8 hours of sleep, with the proper nutrition and 80s style body building t-shirts.
     
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    I wish :hsd:
    :bowdown:
     
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    whats there to wish about? make it happen
     
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    Working on it broski.

    Been following my food/diet for about 3 weeks now. Working out lightly, start at the gym w/ a 'real' training partner on Monday :bowdown:
     
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    ive only ever used the term when i have said it wasnt working out, or didnt work out. its a quick and casual way of informing people what happened without giving details. it means either he or i, or both of us, was not happy in the relationship and its over

    when i say that another couple will not work out, its because i feel that one or both of the people in the relatinship are currently not happy, or will not stay happy long enough for them to be together for ever.

    being married or together until someone dies does not automatically = working out unless both parties were happy in the relationship to the end
     
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    its official at 312 days.
     
  21. Dio Seijuro

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    "Working out" means being happily together. Length of time doesn't matter, the point being that if the relationship comes to an end unhappily, then the relationship is no longer working out.

    In other words, to predict a relationship will not work out is to say that it will end unhappily.

    On the other hand if you have a relationship for 5 days and it ended the way you wanted and nobody was unhappy, I think you can't call that "not working out".
     
  22. JohnJohnJohnson

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    I don't think anything of the phrase, but other people SEEM to put a lot of import into it!

    It's the punch line to their romantic Arguments.

    "Don't do it because it will never work out."

    Meaning... :rofl: ...nothing.
     
  23. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Dude I love your AV. But I am drunk. Maybe she's fugly. I'll let you know what I think when I'm sober tomorrow.
     
  24. Alaya

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    Sort of building on what Falconer was saying, "working out" for me would just mean the relationship is still doing well, both parties are happy, enjoying themselves, whatever it may be. I've never thought of it in terms of some sort of "end goal" like marriage or what not. Just that, it's working at that very moment. It's no longer "working out" when one or both parties are not happy with the relationship and no longer want to continue... whatever time frame that may be.

    :dunno:
     
  25. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Ok. Now I am being totally anal. And all that. Silly me...

    Did a relationship "work out" if 98% of the time there was happiness?
     

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