What do you do when she calls you someone else's name....?

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  1. Reign

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    I mean, it's not completly as bad as it sounds. The guy, we'll call Andy, doesn't even live in this state. However, she did used to have a major thing for him. They had a major falling out recently (month or two ago), but she still liked him alot. They still talk and it's come up before. She says they're just friends.

    Anyway, we were fooling around and just playing around, I'm we'll say Ben, and like my heads near her crotch and she's being all playful and saying "Nooooooo". Only she says "Andy, Nooooo". I just sit up immediatly and go "What?"....

    We then spent the next half hour sitting there with her pleading that it meant nothing and that he's completly just a friend and all that. And I truly did trust her before. That he's nothing to her anymore.... I truly want to belive her because I like her alot... I couldn't even bear to hear her cry, it hurt too bad. She just texted me pleading for me to forgive her. I don't know what to do.... I truly do like her, alot. But... I don't know what to do... all my closest friends are currently gone (it's spring break) so I have no one to turn to right now since their Cells are off.
     
  2. Mirage

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    Wow your life sucks :sadwavey:

    But umm you really should ditch the girl.
     
  3. TeknoPunk

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    ummmm if she is saying another guys name when you are intimate she is clearly not thinking of you... sorry bud but you sound like you are a second choice.
     
  4. ClaireBear

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    Think about it... you're with someone for a long time and suddenly they're out of your life and "replaced" by somone else... its hardly surprising people use the wrong name from time to time...

    Its actually rather common... it doesn't mean she's still really into him or not into you... its just a mistake...
     
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    true considering it was pretty recent.... but if it keeps happening I would feel weird.
     
  6. ClaireBear

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    I went through a 3 week period or calling my ex...

    "Dar-adrian!!!!"

    During the nasty!

    I'm loud.. I like to show my appreciation... sadly in the heat of the moment my ex-ex's name would simply just come out!.. Totally unintentionally... i wasn't thinking about him or wishing I were with jom... its just habit!!!

    I'm sure I'll be calling my next sexual partner

    Adri-something!!!!

    :mamoru:
     
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    I've done that and felt like a big jerk.
    It happens to the best of us.
     
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    If she calls you Brad Pitt, I guess it would be acceptable.
     
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    I dunno that would make me question how good of friends they were. I dont belive it's anything to break up about cause he's really not around and it sounds like she really is sorry.
     
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    Also, it's not like she's sleepign with him.
     
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    At least it was "Andy, no" and not "Andy, yes!"
     
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    It happens. I think of my ex sometimes even though I hate her guts
     
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    i totaly agree with you clairebear, i clicked on this thread thinking everyone would be "omg dump that skank bitches ass and find someone better!". i for one have many times in the past have thought of another girls name when thinking of another girl entirely. and occasionaly have said the other girls name. never while during sex or foreplay or anything though. but just because she said some other guy's name doesn't mean he's on her mind. it's more like a reflex thing. in her brain the name andy is tied to a guy who she was really close to. so by reflex she said his name. now if you two were having sex and she was liek "ohhhh, andy! andy you're incredible! oh andy, andy!" then i'd suggest you move on.
     
  14. low20

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    i had a relationship for 5 years with someone....then we broke up for about 4 months...in the beginning of my new relationship, i almost slipped once or twice...its just a habbit, your used to saying that name to a girl whom ur being really intamate with....its not that she was thinking about Andy, but maybe just ued to saying his name more....i dont think its means to be worried, tho id be super pissed if it happ[ened to me too
     
  15. Kinks

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    the only reason this one is different is because the girl probably still has a thing for this guy, and it's a trust issue.

    My ex liked two guys at the same time (one was me, obviously :rolleyes: ) - but it made me paranoid that she'd turn one day and run off with the other guy. In the end, something even more pathetic happened :rofl: but I wouldn't go out with someone who showed signs of being interested in someone else. It's just not worth the constant worry. Would much rather be able to trust that they'll still be around next week :)
     
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    Bartender I worked with told me something slightly different happened to her sister.
    Her sister's name was... say "Susan." She was fooling around with this guy. During which the guy blurted out..."Imagine if Susan knew..."

    What would you make of that?
     
  17. Fearan

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    Apart from the name issue, if she was with him for a long time and they decided to "take a break" for a few months, you're being a doormat. She's on the rebound.
     

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