LGBT what do i do closet crew?

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  1. Navvik

    Navvik Active Member

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    Ok so on the heels of my return trip from visiting my boyfriend, i come home to a rumor spread by someone in my family that i'm gay. so the next day i'm at work, and my brother strolls in and corners me, demanding to know about my alternate lifestyle. i tell him, and he's cool with it. so the next day i'm awakend by my brother and he tells me that our family is in the living room and they want to talk to me. so i get up and go into the living room and all of my immediate family is there. thus begins the "your not a homo its just a phase" intervention dealie. and in the end when i told them it wasnt a phase, they dismissed it and insisted that either the devil has a hold of me, or that i'm confused about something. and as of this posting, theres talk of sending me someplace to get cured. so... advice? dealings? plots? plans? schemes? anything would be welcome really.

    cliffs: read the whole damn thing you lazy bastards:mamoru:
     
  2. XPX

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    I'd move out, I'd rather live alone and forget I have a family than live with a family that doesn't accept me for who I am and doesn't understand that not all gays are the same.
     
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    how old r u? i vote move out too. haha "cured."
     
  4. Navvik

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    i'm 21, and on an update note my parents just finished force feeding me the nature vs. nurture method, along with likening this whole problem to having an anger problem, or havnig a drinking problem. but anyway, i'm packing my stuff as we speak and soon i'll be moving in with my boyfriend 1500 miles away. i intensely dislike my family at this point, and am currently fighting the urge to kill myself. i've been drinking, and i want ot cry. there, no more emo for right now. i'm gonna go do something productive.
     
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    that shit won't solve anything. right at the point your life takes one of the best turns, your getting depressed? your moving out of your parents lives and into YOUR life! that should be exciting! i know it sucks when family doesn't accept you, but, thats their problem. now you get to make YOUR life, and i'm sure over time everything will patch up. once they see its not a phase, and that you truely are happy. just, chill for a minute and realize this as a good thing.
     
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    If u even attempt suicide on me... so help me, god himself couldn't save u from me kidnapping u!!!
     
  7. Navvik

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    since its too alte to edit my post i'll just say this, i would like to die. but i cant, aside from enjoying my life when morons dont fuck it up, theres someone special in my life now:love:. and ill do anything to be with them. and i'll be with my boyfriend soon, in person, at his house, free from my parents estrogenical treachery
     
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    Before you do anything rash like moving 1500 miles away,

    Stop and take a breathe
    Find a local friend where you can stay for a few nights
    After removing yourself from the situation either contact your parents on neutral ground or with a friend/mediator to assist you
    Talk to them, explain who you are, how you feel and how their actions are hurting you... remind them nothing about you has changed, only their perception of you has changed.
    If they are conservative religious find a minister who is more liberal to be an ally with you...depending on where you are, I may be able to put you in touch with 1.
    If after all that, there is no reconciliation with your parents/family, then look at something more permanent... that could be your bf's, a local friends, some other option.

    Now is not the time to act irrational or in haste, remove yourself from the situation and then deal with it once cooler heads have prevailed.

    IF you have the urge to kill yourself and you are serious, PM me NOW... I will help you get the help you need.

    Blessings,
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    I'd follow MapleLeaf advice on the "local friend" and "breathe"....moving out may be the solution but you dont want a drastic change, just let your parents know that you are ready to take responsibility for your actions and that you truly feel a homosexual.
     
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    spiffy_badrock I'm sorry, if you were right, I'd agree with you.

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    I agree with maple, but in your position, because you have everything set up to move out, go through with it, I would just send letters home, and keep in touch, so they dont think you've left them out of spite. They probably wont read them, but it will say you're still willing to speak to them and willing to work with them when they come to their senses. Just my two cents.
     
  11. Sam Gamgee

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    You're 21. It's time to move out anyway... especially since there is such conflict.

    I'd go with Mapleleaf's suggestion too... It's a good plan of attack... and might be easier for you in the long run.
     
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    well as it stands, jan31st is going to be my escape date, unless it becomes bad for my mental health to stay here any longer, at which point it will be sooner. also, sorry about the other day, my baby called and i completely spaced one everything else.
     
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    so where are you staying now?
     
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    Since he lives 1500 miles away, have you met him before? :) Probably a stupid question but one has to ask.
     
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    If ur at your BF's place now...>good for you. Reading between the lines I believe your family is full of the Christian hate their so hypocritical about.
    You should also be aware of some posters here advising you to heed the advice of a other people that suffer from the God delusions.It's an infection that very few of the indoctrinated ever recover from.
    If your family was so oblivious to your gayness....where were their heads all this time?...I feel for ya man...but staying at home is a receipt for disaster....dump their sorry asses & get on with your life.
     
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    still at home. as far as updates go i had a looooong talk with my parents. and basically i'm gonna move out and do my own thing. they bid me farewell. and i'll be moving as soon as we sell the house. i'm not speaking to them much right now because they still think they can change me back to "normal" and i still have to listen to them gripe about how they failed raising me. they're still my parents, but i dont like them much i guess:rofl:. its a horrible thing to say but my life is my life, and not theirs, sao i'm going to blaze my own trail :)
     
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    got that really sucks. If you can, i'd move out.

    Without sounding mean and no offence but i really wouldn't wanna live with a family who thought of me like that.
     
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    You know what? Although there might be some people who are giving very logical advice and it wouldn't hurt to follow it, only you know what is best for you.

    I know that when I saw you and b-sama-san together, you two looked very happy and I'm sure that the both of you will be very happy together if you were to move here.

    I think that moving away from your family will be a good thing, even if it's for a very long time because it'll give them the opportunity to actually think it over and see how irrational they have been towards you. Because the truth is, is that you didn't need that shit. What you needed from them was their support.

    We cannot say whether or not you will have a success here where you know people love you for who and what you are but I do know that we will try our damn best to support you in any way humanly possible because we care that much about you. You have been through so much, and you deserve at least a day of true rest.

    I know how it is to be in a family that is abusive like that and I had to pull myself away from them. I moved out, and although there are moments where I miss them dearly, I know I'm doing fine. I'm doing more then fine, and I know you will too.

    I know that you have a lot of us that will support you and help you.

    We will be your pillar.
     
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    ^_^ i rub joo, and all of your housemates. and when you said pillar i had this uncontrolable urge to giggle. :o
     
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    also, in yet another update. i came home from work today, and looked at my pc. Lo and behold a porn folder was open. at the time of my previous post in thie thread, i thought nothign of it. so i went upstairs to tell my dad i was moving and that i wanted to absolve myself of my current religious and various duties. so when i come upstairs he starts railing at me about the "filth on my computer" and demanding to knwo where i got such things and if thats all i use my computer for. then it dawned on me,for most of my teenage life, my parents have bullied, intimidated, and basically scared me into doing whatever they wanted, regardeless of its moral content, which is i guess the reason that i dont trust them. at any rate i'm no longer bent out of shape about this whole situation, i'm more along the lines of being kind of sad that they dont accept me for who i am, but its my life and basically whatever, thanks closet crew for all of your kinds words and encouragement. i will keep everyone updated as to my escape from hellishness. merci beaucoup!!
     
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    spiffy_badrock I'm sorry, if you were right, I'd agree with you.

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    Passwords FTW! ;) Anyway, take care, if there is anything I can do to help, feel free to email/PM me.
     
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