What are your type five must haves regarding a S.O.

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  1. Bear Klaw

    Bear Klaw Guest

    never seen a thread like this, and it seems to interest me!

    What are the top 5 must haves a man/women must have for you to commit to them in a serious relationship...

    For me my top five are...


    1) Doesn't believe in marriage
    2) Is either an atheist or agnostic
    3) Does not smoke cigarettes ever
    4) Approves weed usage weather she does it or not, and if we were to get a house, would have no issues in me growing it
    5) Has at least one main hobby that involves psychical activity(like running, or biking) This is key for you guys who's s.o has gotten very fat since you first started dating.
     
  2. AlcoLOLic

    AlcoLOLic New Member

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    1. Believes in marriage
    2. Is a Christian
    3. No cigarettes or drugs
    4. Excellent communicator
    5. Myers Briggs Compatibility

    ...everything else falls into place after that.
     
  3. rpmorri

    rpmorri So many idiots...not enough bullets

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    1) Pulse
    2) Vagina
    3) Tits
    4) Ass
    5) Mouth

    ...well, SOMEBODY hadda say it. :rofl:

    Seriously, tho...

    1) sense of humor
    2) bright
    3) happy
    4) cute
    5) independent
     
  4. Drilldo

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    1. Caring (loves animals and kids, would make a good mother)

    2. Sense of humor (my life revolves around humor)

    3. Loyal (I have had umpteen bad relationships and dating experiences and I need somebody who's loyalty I don't question)

    4. Practical (I can't stand people who can't think past their next drink or shopping spree, I need a girl who works for her money, doesn't need it to have fun and isn't into me because I have it)

    5. Beautiful to me (doesn't have to be a porn star by any means, but I have to find her attractive)
     
  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    1. Sense of humor-If you can't make me laugh, or appreciate my humor then we will never work out.

    2. Good communication skills-Knows how to express when they are upset, why they are upset, tackle issues together.

    3. No baggage-there's nothing worse than a guy with tons of emotional baggage that he then drags into our relationship.

    4. Honest-I hate liars. Just tell me straight up what you are thinking/what you have done because I can take it unlike some girls.

    5. Good in bed-Duh, I don't want to be with someone who sucks up my sex life
     
  6. konrad109

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    Not in any order

    1. Cute/Feminine
    2. Knows how to act bratty and get what she wants, but is still caring most of the time.
    3. Funny and lighthearted. e.g. Doesn't mind me farting, and will laugh at the good ones.
    4. Doesn't need constant attention or to gossip excessively.
    5. Likes being a little dominant in bed.

    No smoking, drugs, excessive drinking or partying too of course.
     
  7. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    I can't sit here and name you five things that I must have regarding SO.

    I can name one. Compatibility. You know, being happy waking up every morning with what you have...not getting tired of her. I mean, it's a give/take system, so I go with however it plays out. There's no rule book to people. I do like an easygoing girl though. One with self respect, someone compassionate, asdl;fkhasdl;jhadrs
     
  8. Drilldo

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    Word, you mean like that chemistry/synergy feeling where you are just happier when they're around?
     
  9. busydoingnothing

    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    1. Sense of humor
    2. Creativity (writing, drawing, painting, music)
    3. Similar tastes in culture (music, film, books)
    4. Can communicate on the same level
    5. Physical attraction
     
  10. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    yeah something like that :wavey:
     
  11. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    1. same crazy sense of humor as me
    2. won't cheat
    3. honesty
    4. athiest or agnostic
    5. doesn't smoke cigs or drink a lot
     
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    1. Respects and supports me, and gives me freedom and encouragement to be myself.

    2. Clear communication

    3. Awesome sex with firey chemistry. I LOVE kissing, must kiss like an angel.

    4. Honest and trustworthy

    5. Humour! Makes me laugh!

    6. Someone who makes me think outside my square and stretches my mind and teaches me new things!
     
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    honest
    intelligent
    not superficial/not a golddigger
    laughs at my dorky jokes
    no drugs/heavy drinking
     
  14. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    damn...I guess I'm too picky cuz I can't boil it down to just 5.
     
  15. skitcy

    skitcy uhm title! ok

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    1) Honesty & communication this alone will solve 99.9% of all problems
    2) No freaking drugs, no smoking and minor alcohol use ( I myself use alcohol very little )
    3) Fun :)
    4) Athletic and Outdoors, I do lots so it wouldn't be very fitting
    5) IS A GIRL, no man voice, I may say I hate the makeup but that's really just a lie and flirt.
     
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    1) Honest - I rather hear the hurtful truth than sugarcoated bullshit.
    2) Sense of humor - This is a given; without this, it all goes south.
    3) Ambition - This is meant in the sense that they would not sit on their ass all day, expect things to come to them, or so cynical (I'm a cynic, but there's a limit) to think nothing good will come out of something. Get your ass up and just do something.
    4) Self-conservation - In other words, takes care of themself, doesn't let their body or mental/emotional health go to waste. Good hygiene, all that jazz.
    5) Understanding - She can deal with the fact I don't want to fuck them. :p (That's asking a bit much probably)
    6 because 5 isn't enough) Intelligence - Something smarter had better exit their mouth than what so-and-so was wearing at some award show.
    7 because well yeah...) Attractive - Let's be honest with ourselves here; I love a great character and personality, but it would be nice to wake up to a pretty face

    Smoking, excessive drug/alcohol use is a big no; that'll get you pushed out of the car in the bad neighborhood.
     
  17. ArthurPewty

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    I can name several things that I'd like to have in a relationship with a woman, but I also find myself surprised when I meet someone who differs but I still find attractive.

    Five things that are important to me/ would like to find in a woman: humor (more in perspective than someone who can tell a joke or who breaks into guffaws all the time), Christian, challenges me to be a better person, passionate (in many areas of their life), and good conversationalist (this is less a characteristic of a person and more of the relationship, but it's something I appreciate so I thought I'd throw it in).
     
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    1. Someone who is honest
    2. Someone who is not just my girlfriend but is my best friend
    3. Someone who is enjoyable to be around
    4. Someone who can take/dish out sarcastic jokes
    5. Someone who has a goal in life
    6. Someone who knows the difference between whether and weather :mamoru: sorry kotchy
     
  19. ahtnamas

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    1) Intelligence, ability and willingness to get into long conversations about obscure things, philosophically inclined would be a nice bonus
    2) Scientifically oriented, or Athiest/Agnostic
    3)Kind-hearted, caring for other people, not selfish (re: in the rhetorical situation of 10,000 people dying, or them dying, the answer should always be themselves)
    4) Politically concerned... mainly just not being an apathetic idiot
    5) Faithfullness in a relationship and patience and willingness to work with another human being. I want a best friend and a boyfriend.
    6) Not wanting to raise children in the fucked up world of the US in 2007
    7) Artistic, or at least willingness to appreciate art, MUST LOVE MUSIC, of any kind is OK. Willingness to be introduced to new music is a bonus, they don't need to like it, but I'd like to be able to share music I love with someone I love, if just to show it to them once.
    8) Someone who can take heavy sarcasm.
    9) Honesty.
    10) Caring about health at least mildly... not neccessarily for physical attractiveness reasons, but for perpetuating the longevity of the relationship.

    This is all for someone who I'd plan on being with for a long time, if not for the remainder of my life. Of course, I'm willing to work with somebody, so these aren't "requirements" per-se... just a list of things I'd like to see, if given the choice. Yes, I'm picky.

    :wtc:
     
  20. Falconer

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    Oh wait... you said top 5. :rofl:
     
  21. Yail Bloor

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    High interest level in me, not what I can provide for her materially

    Not materialistic: happy living a simple lifestyle

    Does not nag or bitch very much. Does not get angry and try to start fights frequently.

    Respects my privacy and freedom

    Loves and wants sex as much or more than I do

    I was fortunate to find all of these traits in my wife :)
     
  22. Bear Klaw

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    good ideas guys
     
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    In no particular order:

    1. Sense of humor - I love to laugh and I want someone to share many laughs with. Also must be able to laugh at themselves.
    2. Cute - I want a man who I can look at and have a sexual desire for. Nobody else has to agree, but I do.
    3. Drive - Has to be motivated to work, clean the house, take care of chores, etc.
    4. Has a high sex drive - I want it all the time
    5. Honesty/Loyalty - Can be honest with me at all times, and has loyalty to me and our relationship
     
  24. sportsjunkie

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    in no particular order:

    1.) Doesn't do drugs
    2.) Has a stable job and making a sufficient income
    3.) Wants children
    4.) a guy who isn't looking for another mother (as in doing his laundry, cooking, or cleaning all the time)
    5.) someone who isn't cocky (as in a big ego)
    6.) Attractive
    7.) someone who can make me smile, laugh and see the world in a different light
    8.) Loves sports/likes to be outdoors
    9.) Not a religion freak
    10.) someone who can satisfy me sexually

    i had to do top ten...
     
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    YES! that's exactly what i'd want...
     

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