What are your thoughts on this?

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  1. jtrem

    jtrem Active Member

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    I have been talking to this girl for a while and obviously like her, problem is she has a boyfriend and I understand that which is why I don't act on this all.

    My friends and I were at the bar and needed a ride at 2 and one of my friends called her and she said she wouldn't pick us up. I ended up texting her on the walk home and she asked me to get her so she could come over and hang out. We get to my house and are all hanging out, I ask her if she wants to go to my room to watch a movie and so we did. We end up in my room just hanging out on the couch watching Forgetting Sarah Marshall until 5:30 in the morning.

    I didn't make a move on her because I would have felt like a dick, but I believe if we ended up in my bed I would have because I feel like it would have been a green light.

    Once 5:30 hit and the movie was over I was exhausted and asked her what she wanted to do, she says she is going to walk home and I told her she could stay. She said she wanted to but couldnt and I ended up driving her home. Clearly when I dropped her off at home it was awkward because we both wanted something to happen, but it didn't.

    Would you guys stick around to see what happens? I know that her and her boyfriend are struggling which is another reason I am not making a move because I don't want to be the reason they break up, what would you guys do or how would you have handled the situation different?
     
  2. Baited

    Baited Fur Ballin OT Supporter

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    there will be 2 views on this
    some say to find a different girl and if they break up then she will probably call you

    others will say to go for it, it's not your fault he doesn't make her happy

    but if you do go for it and she cheats on him instead of just breaking up why won't she cheat on you :dunno:
     
  3. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Ethics of being the "cheatee" are case-by-case, IMO, so no general rule applies.

    Everyone else in this thread will either tell you "It's always ok," "It's always ok except if she's married," "It's always ok except if she is married with kids," and, rarely, "It's never ok."
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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  5. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    I would have said GOODBYE once I knew she had a BF but thats just me. I won't fuck around with another mans woman, whether they are struggling or not.
     
  6. Spaceering

    Spaceering I bite.

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    it is not a good idea to stick around.

    If you decide to, provide an update about how it goes. Already doubting so much before hand will lead to interesting results, possibly.
     
  7. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Obviously its never ok.
     
  8. CorpseStreet

    CorpseStreet New Member

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    Find a girl who doesn't have a boyfriend :dunno:
     
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    waiting for her break up at this point is already too late.

    you already over stepped a boundary by hanging out w. her in your room until 530 w. sexual tension in the air.

    either way the view of her will be... if she does it to him, she will do it to you.

    if the bf knew what she had done w. you up to now he'd be pissed.

    my motto.... which many disagree with.... is.... you might as well fuck her!

    why be a dick w. no pussy when you can be a dick WITH pussy?
     
  10. Viper

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    This alone makes her sound like a bitch. :hsugh:
     
  11. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    forgotmyname Active Member

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    No offense but based on what you just said, I am inclined to think that you are imagining things.
     
  13. jtrem

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    She had been drinking before and then offered the ride after we talked to her...I thought I would get these responses, just seeing how well i know OT!
     
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    I really don't know what you want from us. :dunno:

    You already know what most of us are going to say (that you're wasting your time).
     
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    Good stuff, appreciate it!
     
  16. giz

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    I went as this girl's date to a christmas party night. one of her coworkers was hot (captain of the Utah Jazz dancers :bowdown:) and was eyeing me all night... right in front of my date and her boyfriend :rofl: it was so obvious, my date made it a point to tell me how materialistic she was and how badly she treats her boyfriend (plans on breaking up with him sometime after christmas)

    anyway point is, no matter how many signs she was throwing my way, I made a choice to not respond because she has a boyfriend. if she likes you, she'll dump him and come to you.
     
  17. giz

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    unless she is the dance captain for an NBA team. then she probably won't come your way :rofl::(
     
  18. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Obviously it's not obvious :rolleyes:

    I'm aware of the arguments on both sides.
     
  19. Aronomy

    Aronomy Get your COME ON!

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    If you're under 30, it's okay, she will likely go through many more guys anyway. If she's older, and has a serious relationship going, then leave it be because her time for having kids is running out. (If she's interested in having kids).
     
  20. giz

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    :ugh:
     
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    I'd say you tell her straight out that your not looking for anything until she's single. That way you really get to know whats up.
     
  22. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    Seems to be the theme of the holiday season. [​IMG]
     

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