SRS What are your conversations with people about?

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  1. familyguy101

    familyguy101 New Member

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    My conversations with people are 5-10 seconds long. I usually say 2 sentences, then the other person goes, and then I rebuttal, and then the other person seems bored so we go quiet. It's usually some stupid ass boring topic too. Usually work related. I wish I could change the topic to something interesting, but I don't know much about things, and I have no recent (last 6 years or so) life experiences to talk of. Regardless, I usually hate every second of the conversation. Do you enjoy your conversations with others?

    What do men talk to each other about?

    What do women talk to each other about?

    What do men talk with women about?
     
  2. kgeorge

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    I largely dislike conversations.
    I wont answer the other questions in case i don't like them because i talk about the wrong things.
     
  3. crunchy_black

    crunchy_black OT Supporter

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    video games, porn, the fat chick i banged last week. How i do crappy wheelies on my motor bike.

    Talk about what you want instead of shitty work related stuff.
     
  4. Fotenks

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    Even if you don't care what's going on in the conversation, just jump in with some bullshit.

    Like today I was getting my haircut, and the lady cutting my hair was talking with another stylist.

    Stylist: My daughter wants to get contacts, I don't know why, she looks fine and they're expensive
    Me: I wear contacts, they have their ups and downs
    Stylist: Really? How long have you been wearing them
    Me: About two years.
    Stylist: How comfortable are they? I'm worried I'll buy them for her and she'll stop wearing them.
    Me: sometimes I get irritation in my left eye because I have astignatism. The contact is shaped weird and it has to float upright. Sometimes when I'm laying on my side watching tv it blurs up a bit. I never ever notice my right eye though
    Stylist: Really? My daughter has astignatism...
    Me: It's something you can get used too... it might do wonders for her self-esteem
    Stylist: Yeah, maybe for her birthday. [rotates me to face mirror] Look good?
    Me: Yeah, it looks great.

    Paid for the haircut, told her to have a nice day, and left :dunno:

    Wearing contacts is a very minor life experience.... you could live under a rock for 6 years and there is still stuff to talk about :dunno:

    If you don't like conversations, then you just might be a hardcore introvert :dunno: But I would say no, since you posted this thread. You obviously have the desire to talk to people if you made this thread. Maybe the problem is rooted deeper, like social anxiety? Usually with anxiety disorders, you feel too nervous to think straight when in conversation, and can't think of things to talk about. A person could read a speech script 1000 times and memorize every ounce of it, but then go on stage in front of people and not remember a sentence because of an anxiety attack. You think you might have anxiety problems?
     
  5. Blahaboxxx

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    talk about sports, tv shows, books, movies etc. tell them about something they are clueless about. or ask questions and get them to tell you about something, even if you know about it, you can build common ground from there for future conversation.

    as for not knowing about very many things... learn!
     
  6. Scootin

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    Just go with it...unless you're a horribly boring person you can always associate something from your last story with something new. Don't plan anything past the opening sentence, because then you'll just sound awkward.
     
  7. Darketernal

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    Talking isn't supposed to be used as a tool of self torment. The way you use talking is purely just that 'torture', you don't enjoy talking and you don't like talking to people. Honestly the following works.

    Just get winamp and listen to comedy central radio an hour every day, you'll laugh your ass off and you'll see a totally different perspective on how talking can be used as in a way how its meant to be used, namely a tool in which you can make your life more enjoyable.

    To make other people and yourself smile is really a wonderfull thing.
     
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    If I'm at work, I'll talk about my upcoming wedding, our land-buying plans, bitch about my current position (which I'll be out of very soon), or talk about whatever issues the friend I'm talking to is having with something - like my one friend's bf and things he does/doesnt do, etc.

    If I'm out, whatever comes up with whoever I'm talking to.

    With the fiance - anything under the sun.
     
  9. kEVOgt350

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    I can't stand small talk. If it's someone I just met then a little bit of small talk can be interesting to find out what kind of person they are, but in any other situation there has to be some kind of substance or I get really bored. Usually the only conversations that can maintain my interest are topics that I know about and they WANT to know about (or vice-versa), or debateable topics with no definite answer like do people have free will.

    The only way you can hold a successful conversation is if both parties are interested. Ask them how they define themselves and what interests they have. Of those, pick one that you know a lot about or relate to and go with it. Once you get a conversation flowing, most people will steer it where they want it to go. Try to see where they're going and fuel that direction adding your own opinion on the way. Often times this could lead to a dead end. Just keep in mind everything they have mentioned up to that point and hopefully you can revert back to something they brought up earlier to keep the conversation going.
     
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    Women to women - sex
    Men to men - sex
     
  11. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    What do men talk to each other about?
    Sports, Women, TV shows, Movies...just to name a few


    What do women talk to each other about?
    Men, fashion, hair, shoes, work

    What do men talk with women about?
    Movies, Music, work, Pets, family/friends...Just a matter of finding out what you have in common with each other
     
  12. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    I don't believe that...Everyone has experiences from something in one way or another.
     
  13. Jacy

    Jacy red lipstick brigade

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    it depends on whom I'm speaking to--it's not gender that determines what i speak to someone about..more so just what we have in common with each whether it's interest in art and design or fashion and grooming or music and films... or interest in human behavior, personalities, dating, etc. aside from that, i talk to people about what's going on in our lives, future plans, etc.
     
  14. the Whoner

    the Whoner Let me rub your gennies

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    Try throwing out a compliment to that person. If they have a nice shirt, tell them so. Ask them where they bought it. People love to talk about themselves, and if you can get them to open up about something they like, they'll take. Theres always 2 sides of a conversation, and some people are just better listeners than talkers. Besides, people will bring up something your interested in, so not only will they be engaged in talking with you, you'll find something in common, outside of work, and quite possibly make new friends.
     
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    it depends on the person really. with some friends i can talk up a storm about absolutely anything, yet at the same time, there are other friends whom i can't ever seem to get past the old "what's happened with you recently?" surface level stuff with.

    with acquaintances (classmates, coworkers, etc.), i usually just talk about current environment-related stuff (what's happening at school, work, etc.).

    and with total strangers, i usually try to strike up conversation with whatever i just happen to notice in the vicinity (what they're reading, wearing, etc.) with varying success.

    but the conversation is only as fruitful as the interaction between the people. i may be able to talk about a certain topic nonstop, but if the other person isn't responding (verbally or nonverbally), the conversation's going to lose its momentum really fast. there's just a lot of give and take.
     
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    if its not about work, then I don't really speak to anyone.
     
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    I have been talking to more and more people lately. I don't exactly know what started it, but I just have. I must say it does make me feel better. I think i'm going to keep this up.
     
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    I have this problem too, I never know what to talk about and then the situation just gets silent and weird. My friends are used to and they know I'm very shy but it's hard to meet new people.
     
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    i just find that i'm able to carry a conversation better with a stranger when it comes about naturally and really when i least expect it to. forcing small talk really doesnt do it for me, and i can usually see whether or not it's going to go anywhere pretty quickly
     
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    I hate conversation, I am not really all that good at it and its always about the same old crap stuff. :sad2:
     
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    Getting George Bush out of office and pulling the troops out of that shithole.
     
  22. the Whoner

    the Whoner Let me rub your gennies

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    good for you! :h5:
     
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    1. Cars, gadgets, women.

    2. My boyfriend didn't get me flowers for my birthday; I got a 2 new Coach purses and some DKNY sunglasses; OMG have you seen Kelly? She got FAT!; My husband's an asshole and doesn't do shit for me; Becky told Tiffany that Katie's a slut and Tiffany told Katie that Becky told her that she's a slut; my fiance didn't get me a big diamond, I think it might be fake. Does it look fake? My mom think's he's a cheap bastard.; Hey did you hear Donna's pregnant? I don't think it's his either; My boyfriend didn't get me flowers for Valentine's Day either, do you think he still loves me?; Kristie likes John, but John likes Marie. Marie is a lesbian, no way!; How many calories does this have?; Hey lemme borrow your lipstick; Did you see Veronica? OMG she got fat too.; Does this make me look fat?: I got 8 new pairs of shoes today, a red pair, a blue pair...; Whatever!; So Jane said Jenny and Brian are going out now; Hey there's a sale at Macy's; OMG I am so not going over to her house, she has 8 cats and it smells; EWW!; Paul said hi today, do you think he likes me?; Look at my hair, it's fried!; My mom hates my boyfriend, but I love him...

    3. Nothing - because we do all the talking :big grin:
     
  24. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    :rofl: Guys that don't make you do all the talking are FTW! :bowdown:
     

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