Well, fuck. GF's probably joining the Air Force.

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  1. Climbing Cracker

    Climbing Cracker I am the Devil. And I am here to do the Devil's w

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    You know, I made a thread in here approximately a year ago about ending a 4.5-yr relationship. To make a long story short, we ended up working things out. Things have been 7/10 over the past year with some bumps, etc, but overall pretty damn good.

    She graduated college finally, and now she's kinda stuck in a dead-end job. Economy's in the shitter and she really just cannot find a job. She's pretty set on joining as an Officer, and honestly, if I were in her shoes, I would to. The lifestyle is extremely appealing to her. She's the GI Jane type.

    We talked it over one evening and I believe her joining is inevitable, so does she, and we both know that will be the death of us. She's gotta do what she's gotta do, but wow...it's one thing to end a relationship because you can't get along, but this is something else completely. We're not in disagreement over anything, but life is taking us in different directions. I have a stable job, but do not make enough to support another. Besides, she needs to live her own life an make her way through. Neither of us are stereotypical people, i.e. Me the breadwinner and her the housewife, so that probably wouldn't work out, even temporarily.

    I guess I'm curious if anyone else has ended a long-term relationship with "the one" for the sake of a career?
     
  2. snoodles

    snoodles New Member

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    military SOs can make it hard on a relationship. it'll be hard on you, but it'll be just as hard on her as well. i've never had to end a relationship because of a career choice *yet*, but i'm in the midst of working one out because of my military officer pursuit.
     
  3. Climbing Cracker

    Climbing Cracker I am the Devil. And I am here to do the Devil's w

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    our consensus was to just call it off. unless by some miracle we could work something out. :dunno:
     
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    I guess it really depends on how far you are really willing to go to make it work. If she truly is "the one" then this is just a career decision...though of course possible deployments and such can make things crazy. I guess it depends on commitment level.
     
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    I dont see why her joining the AF is the end of your relationship. If you feel it is, then she obviously isnt really "the one". My two cents.
     
  6. Climbing Cracker

    Climbing Cracker I am the Devil. And I am here to do the Devil's w

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    I just have a worst-case scenario playing out in my head. I'm imagining attempting a meaningful relationship with someone a world away who I have minimal contact with. Call me a pessimist. :dunno:
     
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    You've got to ask yourself these questions (from personal experience)

    1) Are you going to marry her? Does she want to marry you?

    2) Are you willing to give up your career to follow her career?

    3) Are you willing to play second-fiddle to the military in her life?

    4) Are you sure about the first three?

    If there's any doubt, then stay friends. If there's no doubt on both your parts -- marry her before training begins.

    If you're really young (less that 21-23), then move on.
     
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    If she was the one, then things would work out
     
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    Well she isn't always going to be a world away, on deployments yes, but other than that she will be somewhere in the Us most likely.
     
  10. Joshua

    Joshua ambition over everything OT Supporter

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    You look really young. Unless you're been in other LTR's and you're absolutely for sure about this, it is best to split. I only know one military couple that worked out personally.
     
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    no, but moving every two years is hard, and it's a real possibility she'd be out of the country for a year or two.


    he can kiss his career goodbye if he stays with her.
     
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    ok, you won't be moving every two years, Officers usually have tour lengths of 3-4 years and sometimes longer. The Airforce realized moving people every two years was retarded and expensive.. secondly.. she should never be out of country for more then 6mo. she will be Air Force..
    It completely possible, and I should know...
     
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    is it really that different from army/navy (for officers)?


    always toyed with the idea....
     
  14. Climbing Cracker

    Climbing Cracker I am the Devil. And I am here to do the Devil's w

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    depends on her career, I guess, but yeah you're right.

    I'm 28, she's 32. I'd probably try to give it a fair shot before totally calling it off. I'm not one to give up without at least trying.

    Yeah honestly, I'm not going to move, or risk losing my current job.

    :cool:

    touching her toes..?? she isn't in the military...yet.
     
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    if you really feel she is "the one" then it doesnt hurt to try it out. she wont be gone forever. if you both want to stick through this, you will find ways to make it work. one of those ways may require you moving to where she is, and if you are not willing to do that for her, then maybe it wasnt meant to be afterall

    good luck
     
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    radfad88 The Batman-O-Lantern

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    just don't be a dick about it like my bf was when i joined the army.. she's doing what she has to do for her own career and future. you're either in or you're out, don't make her feel bad about her decision.
     
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    Were you the one who made a thread about it, with the BF who didn't support you with it?
     
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    This.

    Unless she doesn't want to continue the relationship while in the military. It won't be easy at all but people make it work.
     
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    radfad88 The Batman-O-Lantern

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    yep, now ex BF.
     
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    Military marriages are never easy but Officer, AF & your age gives you some advantages. If it is what you really want and you are willing to make it work, then go for it.
    You are ahead of the game because you already know it's not going to be easy!
     
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    I'm in the same boat as him, though not an asshole. My SO left 3 weeks ago for BCT and AIT. :hs:
     
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    You'd be going from a great relationship to feeling miserable 90% of the time. It's tough to handle. Since you don't have a commitment already, it makes it easier to walk away. It'd be different if you were engaged or were planning on proposing.
     
  23. Climbing Cracker

    Climbing Cracker I am the Devil. And I am here to do the Devil's w

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    Well, we broke it off. We were both so tired of trying to make this shit work. Honestly, I'm happy. I don't feel anymore stress or pressure, it's nice. Went out, flirted relentlessly with some women, and enjoyed it. I have a ton of time to focus on myself and what I want without trying to please someone else. I'm single for the first time in 6 years...feels good man.
     
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    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Climbing Cracker I am the Devil. And I am here to do the Devil's w

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    i used to spend stupid amounts of money at Mons Venus in Tampa :coolugh: :embd: :2001:
     

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