weekend trip with gf v. issues

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  1. Project X

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    my gf and i planned a trip to the beach this weekend.. we dont get much chance at getting intimate or anything because of work and we live at home with our parents. turns out she is having her period now and its being a little weird.. shes not bleeding alot and seems like it might go into the weekend.. i know she cant control it but we've been talkin about the trip for awhile and i get furstrated in our aim convo and she sees that her bein on her period and the fact that we might not be able to do much is making me upset... this makes her mad thinkin that its the only reason why i wanted to go.. which it isnt but it was somethin i was lookin forward too.. we were planning on meetin up tomorrow after work to get some stuff for the trip and get some porno so we can watch it to get in the mood and now she says forget all that cuz i just wanted it to be sexual with her..

    i dont even know where im tryin to get at.. i just had to vent.. i wish i didnt get kinda upset or furstrated so we could get the porn and it might make us get in the mood to try stuff anyways.. and her period may have passed on by the weekend too.. now im screwed and shes bein bitchy.

    fact is that ive been with her for 2.5 years and shes had many sexual partners and she is my first.. i just wanted to finally be able to be initimate with her after awhile.. we dont do stuff often so i didnt think i was out of line. shes makin me feel like all i want is sex when i was the virgin when we started datin and was 2 years older then her.

    fuckin ghey
     
  2. Yail Bloor

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    Why doesn't she want to have sex with you?
     
  3. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Why are you screwed? Are you or her one of those pussies who won't have sex if her cunt is bleeding? Period sex is fun, it's natural lube :naughty:
     
  4. Project X

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    she just feels that thats why i wanted to on this trip.. she wants us just to spend time together and have fun.. we did talk about doin stuff this weekend but shes on her period so she wouldnt feel comfy doin a lot of stuff if she was still on her period..

    the fact that we had a little fight tonight over this and that she doesnt wanna get any porn kinda makes me feel that we wont be doin that much.. i was actually lookin forward to watchin porn with her and doin shit..just makes it more fun..

    i know we can still get the porn and talk about this stuff.. but i feel like she already made her decision and will still think about this durin the weekend and feel like all i wanted to do is have sex..
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    tell her to grow up

    when you get there have a couple of drinks so she'll stop being so uptight and bitchy and she won't be worried if all you want to do is have sex
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    No wonder she thinks you're only in it for the sex. It'd be one thing if you had just planned this trip and were excited to have "alone time" together. But when you tell her that you had planned bringing porn...it just seems staged and constructed by you. I have no problem watching porn, even if it was with my SO, but I would be a little put off if he was making some big deal about watching porn too.
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    :werd: You shouldn't need the porn to get in the mood. You should be able to easily turn each other one, especially if you are on vacation and having fun.
     
  8. Project X

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    it wasnt my idea.. it was hers too.. shes likes watchin it with me and wanted to get a movie for the trip.. we talked bout other stuff we could do there have fun be on the beach.. it wasnt just about sexual stuff...
     
  9. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Exactly. It shouldn't be expected, like having sex is areuirement of the trip You already know it's going to happen, you're supposed to let shit unfold naturally. Then you got her all worked up and she got her period which is just frustrating as hell for a girl when it happens at a special time.
     
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    i never said we had to have sex.. if you read above i said that we both agreed to the adult movie.. shes likes watchin them with me and it was both of our ideas..
     
  11. Yail Bloor

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    maybe that's the problem

    it is normal for you to desire sex with your girlfriend

    why should you have to apologize or be made to feel like you are doing something wrong for expressing and acting on your desires?

    quit walking on egg shells when it comes to sex and your relationship
     
  12. Project X

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    we'll see how things go.. i havent talked to her yet..

    i get kinda pissed cuz its like when i wanna get intimate with her i cant.. in this case it was her period but she still says stuff like thats all i want out of this weekend which isnt true..

    and for her its like shes had sex with quite a few partners and done a lot of things but its ok for her to experience all tha with them but not with me..
     
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    you need to be honest with yourself and realize that sex is a big part of this weekend

    i'm still trying to figure out why she doesn't want to have sex with you

    most likely those guys wouldn't tolerate her holding out on them, so if she wanted to stay with them, she had little choice but to submit to what they wanted
     
  14. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    Sounds like she doesn't want to have sex to me :dunno:. One of the girls I was sleeping with, if she had her period, I just would not eat her out.
     
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    Don't buy into her shit. You are a man. don't fall into her "all you want is sex... waaah waah waaah"

    Im a man, of course i want sex. I want sex this morning, i want sex tonight, i want sex again tommorow. and thats how it will always be because im a man and thats how its supposed to be. If thats ever not true, that should be a big deal because that means im sick, exhausted, depressed or dead.

    that being said, girls thinking that they are being "used" for sex is a big turn off for them and you should go through some trouble to avoid them getting that impression. even on here you have given the impression that really you would be perfectly happy to bang a hole in the mattress if it was all the same. The fastest way to make a women not want sex is to be desperate for sex. its unfortunate but true.
     
  16. Project X

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    she doesnt want to have sex with me right now.. or be intimate (oral and shit) because shes on her period and isnt comfy.


    im not desperate for sex and i just posted on her cuz i had to vent cuz the whole thing literally happened right beforei started this thread.

    we did in fact plan this trip around her period... i dont know why but sometimes it is late for her and this time it wasnt heavy at all the first few days so it hasnt gone away yet..

    i just took her comment personally when she said all i wanted out of this weekend was being intimate.. which isnt true... i wanted to get away from work and stress and be with her.. being intimate such as showering together or oral..sex.. would just be something extra.

    the whole thing about the movies.. i would have just brought them but she wanted to get them too so that she could help pick it out.
     
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  17. HuskiRuski

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    i think it's pretty simple. girls like it when guys have "work for getting sex with them." this doesn't mean buying her stuff or anything like that, but it means they like to be chased and for the sex to be somewhat spontaneous and fun.

    if a guy has planned a trip, bought porn, and made it very apparent that he wants to go on this trip to have sex, the girl will be turned off because "half the fun has been taken out of it."

    i'm not saying i agree with this. hell, any sex is sex for me and i'm pretty satisfied with just going somewhere for a weekend and fucking. but for girls, especially girls in long term relationships with the same guy (a relationship that can become "predictable"), the pressure of having to have sex on a certain weekend can be a turnoff.
     
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    i didnt plan sex and i didnt plan porn or anything.. the porn was both of our ideas.. your tryin to say it would be my fault which it isnt.. i just hope that we have a good time this weekend and that yes her period is over so that there is that possiblity of something taking place.
     
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    we've been together for over 2 years... so yeah we've been intimate before..

    im 24 shes 22..

    i know what i gotta do. thanks for everyones input.
     
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    this isn't about whose fault it is. you obviously didn't mean for her to get pissed. i'm just giving you advice for the future: make sex interesting and not simply something that the girl feels she should do because she's with you.
     
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    :rofl: I think everyone is overlooking the fact that you are dealing with a girl on her period. Odds are she is pissed at you because she is one giant raging hormone at the moment. I wouldn't sweat it
     
  22. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Seriously. I'm on my period and I was ready to kill someone last night over my bf not calling me when he said he would. It's the one time a month I'm super emotional/irrational
     
  23. Devoidarex

    Devoidarex Rexversusu v.2.0

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    I always laugh at girls who act surprised/insulted that, among other things, guys want to have sex with them.
     
  24. littlemonster

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    Generally, if I'm coming up to or on a period, I tend to get grumpy. And I for one, can 100x worse if it's late, or particularly light.

    But, I can also add that it looks exactly like you're pissed off, simply as you can't have sex. Whether that is or isn't the case, becomes completely irreleven if she's over hormonal, and thinks that's it.

    If you've been in such a long relationship, I'm guessing her period carrying on has happened before, so maybe you should've just not expected to be able to have sex.
     
  25. Yail Bloor

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    Those of you who are solely basing this on her period obviously missed what I quoted above.

    She doesn't want to fuck him in general. This weekend is just another of many times recently she has denied him sex.

    And based on the first part of his original post, her bleeding isn't going to be very heavy or may possibly be completely gone by the weekend.

    She's using it as an excuse, that much is clear.
     

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