Was this intervention ok?

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  1. Mugen92GS-R

    Mugen92GS-R New Member

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    Back story:

    My GF has a best friend who's a guy. They dated ~4 years ago for about a year... anyways, I'm not worried about her cheating on me. Thats not the topic. Me, my best friend Eric, my GF and her best friend were all out to eat a few weeks ago. The topic of gas prices came up (I'm a graduate student in economics) and my GF's best friend ("Joe" from here out) basically said some incorrect things, and I corrected him. We were having a debate, and thats what happens in debates. I didn't say it harsh, I didn't rub it in his face... Thats that... right?

    Apparently he feels like I was being an asshole, and now whenever he hangs out with her, he basically tells her not to bring me along. I don't care if these two hang out without me, but the feeling like she has to choose is really making a stressful situation for my SO. So after 2 weeks of this, I sent this text to 'Joe' earlier:

    "Hey man, if you're gonna continue being (my SO's) best friend, and I'm going to keep being her boyfriend, we're going to have to work whatever this is, out. Otherwise, we're just creating a mound of stress for her, and being selfish in the process. I don't care if you two hang out without me, but don't MAKE her choose."


    I don't see anything wrong with this, but I MIGHT see how someone would say this is taking action without being asked to. Thoughts? Was I the responsible one here, like I think I was?
     
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  2. AtheistUnicycle

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    I think you did the right thing. The problem isn't between you and your GF, it's between you and Joe.
     
  3. fray

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    are you female?
     
  4. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    what makes you think the poster is a lesbian?

    ibmencan'tbecivilized
     
  5. fray

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    just wondered

     
  6. Mugen92GS-R

    Mugen92GS-R New Member

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    :rofl: My bad.

    Oh well. I tried to resolve it. He just replied "Choose what? I just think you're a douche and a bro."

    Really don't know where to go from here :rofl:
     
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    That's a shitty situation man.

    What is your girlfriend's take on things? It sounds like she thinks you're important or she wouldn't be telling you all the things that he is saying.

    Try calling him up and having a civil discussion with him? Just explain to him you enjoy a friendly debate every now and then but weren't trying to make him feel like an idiot or anything.
     
  8. MattThom01

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    you've done all you can.
     
  9. Mugen92GS-R

    Mugen92GS-R New Member

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    I really think the same. Other than maybe trying once more on the phone or even in person to resolve things... but I'm not one to let someone call me a douche so openly without getting a little flustered.

    I just hope this doesn't boil down to a situation where he tries to get WAY too much in our business.
     
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    :eek3:
     
  11. fray

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    I almost feel like if you try too much, it's going to make it into a bigger deal than it is. He's going to see you putting effort into it, and assume that you must've meant to be offensive if you're trying to hard to correct it or assume that he is more important to your gf than he is (i.e., you're trying to fix things with him so that you're not on the outs with your gf).. something along those lines.
     
  12. Mugen92GS-R

    Mugen92GS-R New Member

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    Yeah, I'm not going to try to make things better with him. I'll talk to my GF in a little bit and let her know whats up I guess... shitty.
     
  13. jmezz

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    What a little crybaby faggot.
     
  14. Mugen92GS-R

    Mugen92GS-R New Member

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    IMO, I think he still likes her. We know he's horrible at telling girls how he feels, and he's never liked ANY of her other boyfriends... why else would he be throwing a fit? He thinks he'd be better for her than me. I told her this is what I think and she said maybe, but she doesn't think so. Obviously she wouldn't... all girls who have best guy friends refuse to believe that they're only their FRIEND because they want to be with them.
     
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    Trust your girlfriend to do the right thing.

    You've done all you can. Now all you can do is sit back and let her see what a shithead this guy is.
     
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    Wow, what a little bitch.

    People get corrected all the time... especially with something as touchy as politics and economics. Often both of those thing tie into deep personal beliefs so people get offended you correct/question their statements.

    He needs to grow up and be a man. And if he's forcing your g/f to "choose" he's not a very good friend to her. Hopefully she sees that.
     
  17. dan7532

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    Not always the case, but yeah, more often than not.
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  18. Timer

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    Joe sounds like a douche. You sound like an ass for arguing.
     
  19. idesofmarch

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    He sounds like a dbag but in that situation I probably would have just texted him and apologized for "being a dick to him". Normally I wouldn't let someone walk all over me like that but in this case it's probably going to net the best results.
     
  20. justinruns

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    Poop on her chest. Then tell the other guy to go home... I do it all the time.
     
  21. Vysion

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    He wants to have more than a platonic relationship with her just he's too much of a pussy to make a move so he's waiting for "his chance". If he's just friends with her then he needs to either get along with you or back off from another man's girl. Girls are just too blind to see the real motives in their guy friends.
     
  22. JohnJohnJohnson

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    Because correcting someone = attacking them.

    Awesome communication ethics you've got there.
     
  23. Timer

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    Who was this directed to?

    All I'm saying is that just let the tool speak, who cares.
     
  24. ASoT

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    If it was my girlfriend, I'd make her choose. There's no reason your girlfriend should be hanging out with a dude who will jump at any chance to talk you down. Your girlfriend should have enough brains to not be cool with that.
     
  25. Alexqzilla

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    Sounds like Joe's going to create drama then move in for the kill
     

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