Was it a bad idea to tell her I like her?

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  1. M.A. Malone Esq.

    M.A. Malone Esq. OT Supporter

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    Met girl. Starting hanging out. Found out she's really cool and have a lot in common. Continue hanging out 1 on 1 (drinks, lunch). Not really sure where her head is at. Get fed up and I decide to do this (paraphrased):

    Me: Hey, just wanted to see if you wanted to go see a movie with me on friday.
    Her: Oh yeah! I really wanted to go see Couples Retreat.
    Me: Cool. You know why I'm asking you to the movies, right?
    Her: ... no?
    Me: It's because I like you. And I want to get to know you. And I want to take you out.
    Her: ....
    Me: You had no idea? I felt I was being pretty obvious.
    Her: ... I had no idea. But I know now.
    Me: Yeah, well you know. Do you still want to go to the movies on friday?
    Her: Yeah!

    No need to tell me the pauses are not a good thing, I realize that.

    Was it really a good idea to express the words "I like you." I've never been one to say that, but I think it needed to be said for other reasons that I don't feel like typing.

    Go. :hs:
     
  2. Amanda Ann

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    I think it's best to let it out in the open than to keep it in and hope she would pick up the clues. I feel like you didn't have anything to lose? :dunno:

    Best case scenario, she really does want to go to the movies with you and keeps giving you the opportunity to feel each other out. Sometimes can come of it.

    Worse case scenario: She doesn't feel the same way about you, so you count our losses and walk away. At least you would know sooner rather than later when you have more emotions invested. And, at least you wouldn't be playing the 'does she...??' or 'what if' game.
     
  3. M.A. Malone Esq.

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    My loss. :hs: She's really awesome.
     
  4. peoplescar

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    wow way too direct, its not bad that you told her though... i don't think you really need to say it like that though. its like your explaining the terms of a contract to her. you could have picked a better time to explain yourself like after dinner or when you are having a deeper conversation. :dunno:
     
  5. M.A. Malone Esq.

    M.A. Malone Esq. OT Supporter

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    What I don't get is, I ask you out. I ask you to get drinks. You ask ME to drinks. We go to lunch. Then I ask you to the MOVIES! And you still can't get the hint?!
     
  6. M.A. Malone Esq.

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    No matter what you say, you can't change how she feels. Midaswhale get it out there. It's not like you professed your love for her or something, you were just upfront about being interested in her. No harm done, IMO.

    If she doesn't like you, she'll probably tell you and you won't have to waste your time with her. If she does, then you've opened that door and intimacy won't be far behind. No matter what, you've done yourself a favor.

    Fuck beating around the bush and playing games.
     
  8. peoplescar

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    Explain this reaction...
     
  9. peoplescar

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    btw was this a text message?
     
  10. M.A. Malone Esq.

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    At first I was like: Fuck. this guy must be really smart. I've never heard that word before. I better pay attention.

    Then I was like: :squint:
     
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    :mamoru: I am smart though :squint:
     
  12. M.A. Malone Esq.

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    Saddens me because I know its true, I just didn't want to hear it. :o

    And this was a phone call.
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    That text/convo honestly creeped me out....
     
  14. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    :mamoru: At least she still wants to see you after that. There are much better ways to express your interest, but like the others said- better you do it the wrong way than not at all.
     
  15. M.A. Malone Esq.

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    :rofl: why?
     
  16. peoplescar

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    don't get too bent out of shape about it. if you are going to hang out again just tell her:

    "sorry about being so direct earlier i just wasn't sure how to say it, I really would like to get to know you better" etc. etc.

    honesty is the key my friend. :cool:
     
  17. iwishyouwerebeer

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    :uh:

    Should have been handled far better on your part, but congrats that she seemingly likes you back.
     
  18. M.A. Malone Esq.

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    Had to cancel our date last week and was actually going to try to have lunch with her today and do pretty much that.
     
  19. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Friends do all that shit. She probably figured if you wanted to be more than friends you'd have stepped it up a notch. Try flirting. :mamoru:
     
  20. just_another_on

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    Just go back and read that... its like... 'So you know WHY im asking you to the movies, RIGHT?" :squint:

    And shes like, 'Uhhh, to watch a movie? No why'

    And then its like, "Its cause I fucking like you chief, got it?"


    :hsugh:
     
  21. vodkacollins

    vodkacollins New Member

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    that convo sounds like it was a little awkward, but its not a bad thing you told her how you feel. i think its silly to waste time and try and drop hints without actually being open and honest with people from the get go

    if she doesnt like you, you can move on and not waste any more time trying to hint at the fact that you like her. i think this is a good thing
     
  22. peoplescar

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    you are the man :rofl:
     
  23. M.A. Malone Esq.

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    Fuck this thread. :o
     
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    :h5: :rofl:
     
  25. peoplescar

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    don't worry man you'll make it right :bigthumb:
     

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