FRK want to try new things with GF.

Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by Japan Four, Apr 4, 2008.

  1. Japan Four

    Japan Four Guest

    gonna get to the point.


    Sex is getting dull with my GF already, I like to change positions alot. but we have pretty much only been doing it in 2 positions. I personally like hold a girl up, sometimes press her against the wall, and most of all, excite and suprise.

    Is it smart of me to just pick her up and go for it? like pick her up and change the position? I havent been with her that long. I dont know if shes completely comfortable sexually with me.

    should i just go for it? and hope she accepts me?


    I guess i just need to hear external sources about this. help me out FS! :)
     
  2. RougeOgre

    RougeOgre FS Librarian and MOD

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    Talk it out. Everyone has preference and some people just aren't as experimental as other. Good Luck!
     
  3. Lovely Atlantis

    Lovely Atlantis Luscious Lovely Lady!

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    If all you're wanting to do is switch up the positions, I don't think she should have a problem with that. Like rouge said, it's best to talk though rather than just throwing her up against a wall. Say things in a positive way though. Don't complain "we never have sex in different positions". Instead, maybe when you're in the midst of foreplay whisper in her ear "I'd really like to do you ____ (insert position or way here). Would you like that?"
     
  4. Bubba Atlantis

    Bubba Atlantis New Member

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    what do you mean by dull. I mean there is a difference between bad sex, not adventerous sex and not wanting repetative sex. Which is it because each has a difference answer in my opinion
     
  5. Japan Four

    Japan Four Guest

    i mean its only this.


    oral, missionary and from behind. and its very slow and unexciting
     
  6. Bubba Atlantis

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    Okay, so it seems like there are several problems there. First it seems you two are not on the same wavelength in what you wish to get out of sex. You are finding it very slow, awkward, and boring. This is more of an issue than simply trying new positions. Are you both fairly young? many past partners?

    The key will be communicating with your partner as to what you are wanting out of your sexual experiences. The last thing you want to occur is for there to be resentment of one another as a result of sexual deficienies. First you need to understand how SHE views sex currently and how she sees things progressing over time. At that point, you will be able to talk about different ways you can spice things up. In addition, this may not be an option for you but, if you are into pornography and she knows this and is comfortable (or interested in it herself), you can use it as a tool for sex. You can say 'hmm, it would be fun if we tried that'.

    Also, depending on your ages and home structures (hence why I asked), a simple way to spice things up is to move your sexual acts to various places within a home (or out of the home :naughty:).

    Do remember that the fact that sex is boring (in your eyes) is not her fault...it is BOTH of your fault. Lovely and I had this issue for a bit. She was on medication that killed her sex drive. When she went off the meds, I was used to having no sex (or very little) and thus I had that expectation. Thus, without knowing, I tended to sabotage her attempts to engage in sexual behaviour because I was upset with her about prior events and also felt that it would not lead to what I wanted, because of previous situations. Therefore you need to change your mindset about sex and do not place all the pressure or success or failure on your partner. If you continue to have the mindset that sex is going to be boring and repetitive, your experiences will continue to contour to those expectations. You make sex what you want it to be. :)

    When it comes to sex, it is always both partners fault and the only way that you can resolve any problems that you have is to have an open dialogue between the parties and go from there.

    Don't fret though, your problem is not abonormal, rather common actually, and can be rectified if both parties are willing :)
     
  7. jestre

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    ever talk to her about it? suggest new things?
     
  8. tekniqs

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    you gotta communicate man. You don't want to out of the blue just throw her up against the wall, it might kill her mood, although i'm sure there are others that would become excited at the thought of it. What me and my gf do is suggest things during the act like what atlantis posted. we'd be in missionary then i'd say..i wanna try this position...or this place. so far she hasn't declined any of my suggestions! =)
     
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    slowly add in some new positions but don't just throw her against a wall and rape if you don't think she's that comfortable w/ you yet. or just talk to her, she may be into that sort of thing ;)
     
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    Man I just want to say that is well thought out and a very informative post im pretty open about what i want in bed and it gave me pause to think.
     
  11. Bubba Atlantis

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    Thanks :wiggle: I try to help out when I can :) I am a bit disappointed that the OP has not responded...but oh well. The post is there to help anyone who wants it :wavey:
     

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