Want to have sex with this girl but.. virgin,viagra?

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  1. Killuminati

    Killuminati New Member

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    I'm 22 she's 24. I'm a virgin but I'm to embarassed to tell her. I've never even really tried that hard to score.. I could have done it a couple of times in the past but never went through with it. Is something wrong with me? I'm a shy person.

    Anyway, I was thinking of getting some viagra samples delivered to my house. Will I stay hard longer? I don't want to nut really fast and look like a loser. I swear this is a serious post. Will she be able to tell I'm a virgin?
     
  2. Daddy O

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    Whoa - slow down....seriously. IF she's pushing you too hard and you do not want to do it, then don't. Tell her you respect her too much (hey, that worked when I was a kid).

    Viagra is not something you want to fool with, and neither is full contact sex this early in your relationship. Take it slow, relax....try petting, kissing and heating up the car before you go too much further. Then try the use of your hands for stimulation....in other words fill her expectations with your hands and then your mouth BEFORE you move to the big guy. When it comes time for that, you'll already know what to do and will feel comfortable with it.

    Seriously, relax and take it slow...............and don't forget the condoms.
     
  3. The Mafia

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    Viagra won't make you blow later.

    It'll only make you get hard, or stay hard for longer. If you already ahve a high sex drive then it will do nothing...
     
  4. tominos

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    QFT.

    and she'll definitely be able to tell if you're a virgin or not.
     
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    Yeah man, forget the viagra. You're 22, NO NEED. Everyone is a virgin at some point, and just because you've waited doesn't mean you're broken. She will not care, you would be suprised at how many girls find it extremely attractive in a guy. Especially if they already wanted to fuck.

    If this is a serious relationship, definitely tell her asap. Don't ask how many guys shes been with...just explain to her that you havn't felt right about it, but feel that she is special to you...bla bla bla (bullshit bullshit). Fill in how you want.

    If this is just a girl that you like, then get to the point that you feel it's about to happen, tell her you're a virgin, but make her WANT to TEACH YOU what to do. What feels right, what she likes, etc. If she is not a boring ass librarian, she will most likely take this as a huge compliment, and be more than happy to learn you in the way of sex...at least to start with.

    But please, calm down, and don't worry about viagra, or coming too fast, or whatever. She will understand.
     
  6. Kinks

    Kinks Sup. OT Supporter

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    Just tell her you're a virgin because you haven't found anyone worth sleeping with yet (the implied compliment will make her happy) and that she'll have to show you the ropes the first couple of times.

    Don't make a big deal out of it, whatever happens happens (some people blow early, some don't even finish their first time.. you never know until you try). The best thing about having sex for the first time is you know it'll be better the second time :big grin:

    You do NOT need viagra until you're 75 and have a raging hot woman with huge tits gyrating in front of you, you're all excited but Mr Happy is fast asleep. Viagra will not cure a psychological complex.
     
  7. RedVsBlue

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    untrue...not all men suck their first time, and not all men blow early their first time.

    I wasnt one of these lucky lucky men :rofl: But from conversations with women I hear they exist. :dunno:
     
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    Also most women at that age like to break in a virgin. Especially if its a long term relationship...that way she can teach you how to do things her way.
     
  9. pctony

    pctony Alyson > *

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    just bring more than 1 condom.
     
  10. MattThom01

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    Honestly, the best thing to do would be to bring up the subject of sex when you are comfortable with it, and talk to her about it. Having sex before you are ready/comfortable with it is a BAD idea for anyone. I'm not saying you won't be nervous, you'll be nervous/excited/antsy...but if you go before you are ready, you will be nervous/doubtful/worried etc. There's no hurry. If you're not ready, you're not ready. If your partner is pushing you too much, you need to either talk about it, or end the relationship, so that she can go find what she wants in a partner, and the same for you. And there would be almost no way to hide that you're a virgin..but that matters not at all.
     
  11. Zaffir

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    If you aren't comfortable with telling her you're a virgin, you aren't ready for sex with her.
     
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  13. RockChick

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    Well, I was just thinking it could be just as awkward taking a viagra pill and having a 12hour erection that might end up with you in hospital as you having sex with her and getting off within 5min.

    Tell her... relationships are based on communication and honesty... wait, is that even a relationship?
     
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    It's no big deal if you blow early. Just make sure to get her off before hand and go for it. I think it's hot when my boy unexpectedly blows his load because it makes me feel hot. And yea, girls are all about their egos.

    You should still tell her youre a virgin though just because of the whole honesty thing but just play it off. Be honest.. you havent found the right girl, the right time etc etc. Virgins are hot, male or female. She'll be excited to be the first girl to make you explode and yea, that is pretty freakin hot.

    PS Viagra is a definite no until you are old and cant get it up. You have no problems getting hard.. Viagra will keep you from orgasming it will just make things awkward when 2 hours later you guys are sitting there and you are STILL hard after a 5-10 min sex session... and then the trip to the ER because your erection STILL hasnt gone down after 6 more hours..
     
  15. shiba

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    She's going to know you're a virgin once you start pumping like a jackhammer and making funny gurggling noises in your throat, then start shivering when you orgasm.

    besides as a great man once said. "I didn't come too quick, you just weren't fast enough!"
     
  16. Killuminati

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    I just feel really embarassed about it. I don't know why. I guess society and the whole stigma of the thing. So viagra and enzyte would be a bad idea I guess. You are right I've never really felt comfortable enough. I just don't want her to look down on me. Think I'm a loser or something. Well, I guess it's a good thing but still.. She kind of asked me on a text message when was the last time I had sex I told her it's been a while. I guess I shouldn't lie to her. If she asks again I'm just gonna tell her i'm very unexperienced which is true. She has been in an unhappy relationship for a while.
     
  17. RockChick

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    If she thinks you are a loser cos you are a virgin, move on... shes not worth it then.

    And no, lies dont help.
     
  18. The Acclude

    The Acclude Makin' love is cool, but sometimes she needs her h

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    Watch 40 year old virgin. You'll have a good laugh and find that it could always be worse. Don't pill pop, because you're gonna be terrible anyway. No one knows what to do, but if you watch lots of porn your techniques may improve.
     
  19. BlaXXXima

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    Good advice in this thread. Sex is probably the MOST nerve-wracking thing you will experience in your life. Don't expect to be great or even good going in. DEFINITELY talk to her about it first. Let her know that you've never done it before, are REALLY looking forward to doing it, but are nervous about it because you don't want to look like a chump, and you want to make her feel great and to enjoy it. All of that will make HER feel more comfortable as well (assuming she's not some bitchy whore), as women are JUST as nervous as we are.

    The best way to approach sex for the first little while is with a sense of humour. You're going to do silly things like blow your wad early, lose your wood, frig up the condom process, accidentally stick it in her butt (yah!!), and all sorts of things that would make you uncomfortable.

    But the beauty of it is when you are with someone you care about, and it's not just bang-bang-bang, you'll get over these minor hurdles pretty quick. Your first few times with anyone are usually going to be pretty awkward, but the more comfortable you feel with someone, the less you'll worry about things.

    Some other good advice on here relates to not going straight for sex, but doing all the build-up stuff first: making out, touching, lying together, undressing each other, and then moving on to licking/eating out, etc. All of this will help you feel more comfortable with what makes each of you excited and turned on (likely all of it will).

    If you want to, maybe even try showering or taking a bath together before you move on. It's a great way to explore each other's bodies, without the pressure of having to hump. And it helps to get rid of any annoying smells that you might have accumulated that day :big grin:

    Just be honest with each other. Sure, you'll be nervous, and so will she. But having a sense of humour about it will definitely help get past the things that your nerves will control more than you think. Don't be upset if you drop your knot in 30 seconds. You can get wood again. And if you lose your erection, that's also just nerves. Relax, and expect that it will come back.



    We've all been there in some way, shape or form. I've been in more than a few embarrassing situations, and always came out fine. Realize that people have been having sex for millions of years, and that it's really just a natural thing, and will take some time to get comfortable with, and you'll be fine.



    Post pics of the chick, btw. :big grin:
     
  20. Killuminati

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    Please don't flame me, but if I told you guys that this chick is married and I work with her would all your advice go out the window?
     
  21. Daddy O

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    No, not at all.....she's probably looking for some young meat....for her husband. So, on second thought, yeah I'd take the Viagra if I were you. Trips down the Hershey Highway have a tendency to make you go limp..er, so I've heard.:mamoru:

    So, will this appear on the Internet also? Make sure you send us the address. Something about a good "B" rated porn movie just before I watch Desperate Housewives really gets my blood going.

    BWAHAHAHAHAHA.
     
  22. Kinks

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    And here I was thinking it was supposed to be fun... boy have I been wrong all this time :mamoru:
     
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    affende Resident 4X4 Elitest Prick

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    QTmfT!!!!!
     
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    R KriLLz Uncomfortable in my own skin.

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    get really drunk and let her molest you.
     
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    LMAO

    Well, I recently talked with her about it and she said that she wouldn't because the last time she go tcaught cheating her husband threating to take the kids away from her. But, I"m gonna grab her ass at work tomorow even though I know I will want more. She she she wouldn't care so why not.
     

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