FRK Virgin Sex Addict

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  1. Lavender

    Lavender Easter is my favorite holiday...

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    I know more about sex then most of my non-virgin friends. And lately I have been almost wanting to get it over with, yet I have believed all my life sex shouldn't be until marriage. I am very kinky and I know if I weren’t a virgin I’d be a sex addict. And a lot of the stuff I think about isn't very what people might call "normal". I do other things, and I enjoy it a lot.

    But is it worth it to just lose your virginity to just anyone, or should it be for "love?" because I see all of these posts and everyone tells me how amazing sex is. And I have educated myself thoroughly on sex, and with a lot of it I even know what it would feel like. But is it wrong to put behind a belief I’ve had all my life, in order to explore me?
     
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    my advice, and this is what i did, is find someone you are in love with, then you will have the opportunity to experiement with them and try many new things to see what gets eachother off...

    plus love just makes sex feel more real and more intense in my opinion...
     
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    hey you arnt the only one dude...

    Virg. here that is Very kinky......i have been very tempted to just get it over with, but i know its going to be alot better if i wait for the right person
     
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    It's nice to know I am not alone. :hs:
     
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    grimstone magic murda bag OT Supporter

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    sex is more than just physical. you get to have a very intimate experience with someone. it doesn't have to be with someone you love to make it special. i was a sex freak before i lost my virginity too
     
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  10. LuvlyLicker

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    yeah, definitely wait at least until you are \in love. if your moral beliefs say wait till your married, hten wait. if you don't you'll feel all shitty about it all the time. and you definitely won't enjoy it. good luck waiting! :)
     
  11. Lavender

    Lavender Easter is my favorite holiday...

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    i just dont know if i would feel shitty or not. because i love the sexual sensations so i dont think i would feel all that shitty, but i want to wait because i know how amazing it would be with someone i really love. uh im confused.:dunno:
     
  12. LuvlyLicker

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    trust me. you will if it conflicts with your morals. if it does, avoid it at all costs.
     
  13. sushibug

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    not sure if this is related or not, but taking my wifes virginity was a really great feeling. i feel like i have something really special because she hasn't been with anyone but me. anyway, you can only learn so much from books and pornos.
     
  14. Moonlight

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    wait for the someone u love and care a lot for
    or else u will regret it if u did it with just anybody cuz u were "curious" and ud wish u had waited...

    sex should be about love... and not just meaningless shag...
     
  15. Lavender

    Lavender Easter is my favorite holiday...

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    do u think your sex life is better because you were her only?
     
  16. Skizza20

    Skizza20 Robster craws? What the f*(& are robster craws?!?

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    When I was in highschool I started dating a girl when she was a sophomore and I was a junior. We had known each other for a long time, and right from the start we had an amazing relationship. There was no doubt for either of us that we were in love, but we decided to wait for marraige to have sex. Don't get me wrong, we had a GREAT physical relationship full of everythign I could ask for :naughty:, but no sex just yet.

    Just before her senior year her family moved away and though we tried to stay together, the distance was too much and we broke up. By this time I was in college and, eventually, I started dating a girl there. This girl and I ended up having a long relationship, and we had sex a WHOLE lot. We had a great time, but we were missing the kind of connection I had with the girl from high school.

    When I graduated from college I ended up getting back together with the first girl, and we still had that amazing connection that was nothing other than love. We had always had those kinds of sparks when we saw each other after we had broken up, but the distance wasn't something either of us could do. Anyway, this time we ended up having sex, and even though I had slept with my girlfriend in college, THIS time I learned what it meant to make love to someone. I was her first, and even though I had had sex before, she was really my first too. Sex is completely different without love. I can't say I'd change the way I had done things, because I'm not sure I would have really appreciated how special sex with someone you love is without experiencing it any other way.

    In either case, I just thought I'd throw that out there. It's different for everybody, but for me sex without love is just like any other kind of sexual activity with someone you don't really have that connection with. It's not bad, but it's not as good as it could be either. And OTHER pysical contact with someone you love is even better when you have those feelings, too. ;)

    CLIFFS NOTES: Sex is just sex until you love the person you're sleeping with :naughty:
     
  17. Zardoz

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    Look I did alot of spanking the monkey and stuff but did not lose my virginity until I was 21. Don't get in a rush. You are young and can take your time. The first girl I make love to it the girl I married. I think you can hold out till the right moment with the right person.
     
  18. MilTownSHO

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    I've had sex with 4 girls (I'm 19) and only one has been really great and actually meant something.

    That should be the only one, can't take back what's done, so I don't regret sleeping with the others.

    But when you really care for someone, its SO much better!
     
  19. Eugene Wildwood

    Eugene Wildwood Foxbody for life!

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    There is fucking, and making love. Im sure you can tell the difference, Just decide what you want that will make you happy.
     
  20. Kinks

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    Your (full) explanation was very well said :bigthumb:

    (not that I'd know, I've only had sex... but one day :x: )
     
  21. JordanClarkson

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    I wanted to wait until marriage too. I thought it was special, but then I realized that sex is not what makes a spcial relationship special. For me, just meeting someone I really connect with is better and more special than sex.

    Sex is great when you get what you're looking for. If you want it to include the feeling of being in love, then it'll be best with someone you love. For me, I just like a fun and relaxing atmosphere, not too serious. Sex with the one girl that I loved was never all that great because there were too many rules. It was much better just dry humping
     
  22. Tex

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    Your beliefs are your beliefs. If it feels appropriate for you to change your belief on something, no matter what, then it can not possibly be any more legitimate to do so.
     
  23. Lavender

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    it helps hearing other people say its ok to wait. deep down i know i want to wait, but its so hard when the people around you tell you how amazing it is. i really am going to wait. all of you were so helpful. thank you :)
     
  24. HopasaurusRex

    HopasaurusRex Okay, now what the fuck do you want?

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    I knew I was going to wait until it felt right, and I found that person early(18). There was a lot of awkward sneaking around/backseat of the car action, but it was great learning with someone I loved. Then we broke up for a few years and dated other people. Now we're back together and being with her is unbelievable. Don't get me wrong, I liked having sex w/ my other girlfriends, but no one compares to my baby. I guess I was lucky.

    I'd agree with everybody here that you should wait. Maybe not for "love" per se, but for when you feel comfortable enough with another person.

    The only reason I would hesistate to 100% say "wait" is that you might find that person, lose your virginity, then it all falls apart/doesn't work out and you're hung up on them and fucked (or not, lol.) Also, the more sex you have, the better at it you get.

    It's not a simple question. I just went with what felt right, and what I really wanted, not just getting laid. Be patient, it'll work out.
     
  25. sugarnspice19

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    Definitely wait for someone that you love. My first time, I was in love, and though the physical feeling wasn't the most amazing (first time awkwardness, inexperience), the connection I felt with him at that point was more intense than anything I had ever felt. Of course, a series of events let us different ways, and we both moved on. My second sexual relationship began solely out of physical attraction, and though the relationship is amazing now (I wouldn't trade it for anything), I do wish that I had waited until we were in love to have sex. It's been said before in the thread, having sex and making love are two entirely different things. Making love totally blows sex out of the water. I used to think that I would wait until I was married to have sex, but in reality, finding someone that you truly love is all that's really necessary. If everything works out perfectly, that person will be the one for you. If things don't work that way however, you probably won't regret having sex with someone you actually loved, rather than someone who was just horny.
     

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