Virgin question.. going limp

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  1. bob121

    bob121 New Member

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    I'm a 21 year old male and as the title states, still a virgin. Recently I have been seeing a girl and its gotten serious to the point where we have tried sex. However, last weekend when we first tried it after making out for a while at my place, I put on a rubber and went limp just before insertion. No sign of it changing either!

    Have no problems getting or maintaining an erection under other circumstances.. even when we're making out I'm usually hard.. so wtf :eek3:

    Any ideas.. anything to try?

    She put on a good face of understanding and I love her for that.. but its going to get old soon if it keeps happening.


    Thanks for any insight!

    Ciao,
    Bob :)
     
  2. IreLynx

    IreLynx New Member

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    Have you ever used a condom before? I would assume it's common for alot of peoples' first time using a condom resulting in going limp. Maybe try wearing a condom during forplay so you get used to it and in staying hard with it on?
     
  3. Bigsnake

    Bigsnake OT Supporter

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    only tried once now?

    It's most probably all in your head... Try to relax and try it again next time.
     
  4. 127.0.0.1

    127.0.0.1 New Member

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    Same thing happened to me the first time I had sex. She played with me a little bit, and I jerked off a little bit, and it came back. If you have any condoms, you could always try to put one on when you're at home. If you don't have any problems, then you just need to calm down.
     
  5. bob121

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    Tried on, yeah - but not actually 'used' one before :o
     
  6. bob121

    bob121 New Member

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    yeah, just the once.

    Thanks..
     
  7. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Practice putting on a condom in her absence.

    I also know that some people ask the woman to put the condom on, which makes it hotter.
     
  8. bob121

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    Tried the jerking off approach for a little while, but it wasn't happening :o

    No probs with it fitted at home.. guess I just need to calm down!
     
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    Apothis New Member

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    I had my first time at 21 as well and had a similar problem. Some people probably wouldn't even count it as losing my V, but I count it damnit. Anyway, I had some technical difficulties myself. I was all excited and horny, but when it came time to bring it, I couldn't get as hard as I needed to be, couldn't penetrate more than about an inch, and the more I thought about it the worse it got until we just gave up. At least you're lucky enough to have a girl who "understands". Mine downgraded me to "just friends" status the next day.
    :wtc:

    It should get better with time and practice though.
     
  10. Kinks

    Kinks Sup. OT Supporter

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    practice wanking with a condom on so you get used to the idea..
     
  11. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    welcome to the realization that sex is nothing like in the movies ;)

    Shit goes wrong all the time, and limp dicks happen. Just go with the flow and dont worry about it. The more you think the smaller it will shrink :)

    Good luck though
     
  12. Wild Country

    Wild Country New Member

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    Don't use a condom and pull out
     
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    127.0.0.1 New Member

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    worst idea evar. the last thing a virgin needs is to be impregnating a chick
     
  14. jab1983

    jab1983 40/40 crew failure with less than 1 week to go...D

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    When i first had sex I used a condom and Litteraly after 10 seconds of having the condom on we started having sex, so i guess there was no time for it to go down.
    <Edit> We had fourplay for 20 minutes before hand (handjob, fingering, blowjob, eating out) then she said "we don't have all night your mom isn't going to be gone for ever" so I got the condom put it on thought it felt weird and I got ontop of her and we had sex.

    BTW she later joked that It felt weird and I had crappy rythim :wtc: STUPID CUNT COULD HAVE BEEN ON TOP :wtc:

    I remember thinking at the time......(man condoms must suck this doenst feel all that great, I guess its better than my hand but ehhhhh)

    and within 2 minutes of thinking that my next thoughts were.....(Oh shit im going to cum, OH FUCK IM NOT EVEN A FIVE MINUTE MAN :wtc:)

    She had told me that for a virgin I would last a long time when we had sex, This was because she given me head for 35 minutes and had to finish with a handjob because her jaw hurt the week before......:mamoru: I showed her:mamoru:
     
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  15. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    If you are going to be such a damn fool, then don't spread your own ignorance.:ugh:

    Thanks
     
  16. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    Sounds like a stupid bitch. BTW, most virgins dont last 2 minutes, although some last forever. :dunno: Just different for everyone
     
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    This problem is actually pretty common. I think it's a combination of nerves and the condom feeling weird/different. Question to the topic creator: are you circumsized? If not, make sure you pull the foreskin all the way back before putting the condom on. Otherwise, it will probably feel really strange and make you go limp.
     
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    PostingWorld Da Man with da plan

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    limp with a condom? I've played around with condoms quite a bit and by god I never go limp, it helps keep the erection if anything.
     
  19. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    you are 1 in a million, be happy.
     
  20. michaele36

    michaele36 New Member

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    i dont think it has to do with the condom. i think ur getting nervous. try having a drink before.
     
  21. alex__

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    And STDs!!
     
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    why didnt she suck your cock to get you hard?she has to be blamed a little for not trying HARD enough..
     
  23. DubbyDoo

    DubbyDoo New Member

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    i member the first time i got ass and i couldnt even get off i dont know what was wrong with me she gave me a mix of a bj and hj for what seemed to be a good 40mins then she told me to pull over so we did hopped in the beat seat and had sex got her off a few times but i couldnt get off sucked lol but was fun
     
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    damn dude same with me i think it gets me like excited i guess lol
     
  25. Rush

    Rush Butch > Tomash

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    i remember my first time i tried to have sex with a condom, that happened. You may just not have really been in the mood, try having her jerk you off for a little bit first.
     

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