Vag Interview with Falconer

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  1. Falconer

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    Name Falconer (lol, sorry)

    Age? 27

    Gender?
    Male

    Ethnicity? German

    Religious Affiliation? Parents are Lutheran, but honestly Buddhism makes the most logical sense to me. I like the idea that people are responsible for their actions. It also explains why some people are born into good lives and others are born into bad lives. I do not like the Christian explanation that the life you are born into is random. That doesn't sit well with me because random distribution of fate is not fair.

    Siblings? One sister (no pics)

    Ages of Siblings? 21

    Where raised? Near Chicago

    Level and place of education? Bachelor of Science in Management Information Systems

    Occupation? Training manager / equity trader / editor

    Hobbies? Working out, playing guitar, music, airplanes, OT, surfing the net, studying wealth accumulation (one of my goals is to retire ASAP), and of course spending time with my gf.

    Sexual preference? Straight

    Measurements? wtf? I wear 32 32 pants but I have a 31" waist. However, when I wear 31" waist pants they're too tight in the crotch/legs, so I have to wear 32. I have no idea what the rest of my measurements are. I'm just a hair under 5'10", anywhere between 160 and 180 pounds (depending on how much I've been eating and if I've been sick recently), and usually under 10% bodyfat.

    Best and worst experiences with SO's?
    Best: I don't think I have one particular experience that qualifies as "best." Sorry.

    Worst: Probably my entire relationship with my most recent ex. She was manipulative and in hindsight I think she had borderline personality disorder, and it took me a long time to realize how bad things really were with her. Of course, she was a 9.5/10 physically and the sex was awesome, so that probably explains why I put up with her for so long. Sorry for being a typical guy there.

    Fantasy Date? I don't really have a Fantasy Date. I'm simple. When you're with the right person, every day is a fantasy date. It's not what you do that makes an experience good; it's who you're with. In other words, something boring and mundane like going grocery shopping with your ideal partner is infinitely more pleasurable than doing something super awesome like skydiving, rock climbing, and then going to a concert with someone who is less than a perfect match.

    Tell us about your childhood? I had a wonderful childhood with brilliant parents. My parents are probably the most level headed, logical, intelligent, and fair people I have ever met in my life. I have never seen them fight. They don't drink or do drugs. I was never abused mentally or physically. They always encouraged me in whatever I wanted to do. I rarely see them argue, and when they do, it's calm and logical and not filled with emotion like how most people argue. I think this had a strong effect on how I handle conflict, and also on the standards to which I hold other people (whether that's a good or bad thing).


    What do you think contributed to your like/dislike of women or men? Genetic code. Ohhh, that's not what this question is asking, is it. I gotcha. I never had any traumatic experiences in my childhood (at least, none that I remember), so I have no emotional scars to manifest themselves in my relationships with women.

    Best Relationship? Either my first or my current. Both of these women are brilliant, gorgeous, flexible, and giving. We get along on almost all levels (humor, music, goals, ideals, relationship standards, interests, level of intelligence, sexually, wealth management, etc.). Notice I put humor first. In all seriousness, I think having compatible senses of humor is probably one of the most important things in a relationship (based on previous experience).

    Worst Relationship? My most recent ex, for the reasons I outlined above in the "worst experience" section.

    Are your siblings like you at all in their relationships? I have no idea. lol.

    How open minded are you? Very. I also pride myself on not being hypocritical in my judgments. But let's clarify one thing here. One time someone offered me some Extasy at a party, and I declined. She accused me of "not being open minded." That is not an example of not being open minded. Hopefully I don't have to explain the error in her reasoning here.

    Have you ever been involved in a 3some? No

    What do you look for in another partner? You guys have all seen my list. If not, it's here:

    http://forums.offtopic.com/showpost.php?p=70583344&postcount=4

    Let's be real; I'm looking for someone with whom there will be life long compatibility. I don't like to waste time. I see so many people in LTRs with these huge lists of things they don't like about their partners. These people are with the wrong person. I've been in long LTRs (over 3 years) and never had any major complaints (ie. "I wish my SO would do this, I wish my SO wasn't so such-and-such, etc.") because of my initial screening criteria.

    Do you think a persons promiscuity or lack there of has to do with their childhood? Yes, sometimes. Comfort zones and such that are created during the early stages of life always have an effect on people's behavior and choices.

    Have you used online sites for the reasons of getting sex or dates or both? No, but I accidentally met my most recent ex on Myspace.

    What's your favorite body part of the opposite sex? Legs.

    Describe your type of partner? See my list above.

    What type of partner you actually date? Ones that meet most of my criteria and with whom I have extraordinary chemistry.

    Any words of advice for the Vag lurkers? No specific advice, but there is some good info in the Vag so keep reading :)
     
  2. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    if you met your ex on myspace... then u use online sites for sex/dates... dont you?
     
  3. Falconer

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    No, because I wasn't using it for a date. I randomly messaged her to comment on something in her profile and then we started talking. Since my intention was not to use myspace as a dating site, I said no.
     
  4. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    :ugh: if the net results in a date.... then that means its a dating tool.... lol. do you do that a lot to random profiles?
     
  5. Falconer

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    Not really. I go on myspace like once a month now anyway. I met my ex on there a few years ago when I first got on myspace and I was like "zomg this is cool!!1!1!!!".

    So I agree with you that myspace can be a dating tool, but I don't really use it as such, nor did I use it with the intention of doing so :dunno:
     
  6. Viper

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    Nice interview.
     
  7. Falconer

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    Can you two get a room and stop flirting all over my interview thread? :mamoru:
     
  8. Viper

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    I've got a question for you Falc.

    How did your list come about? What caused you to compile such a list?

    Was it something you did BEFORE OT or was it something you did FOR OT that you just had in the back of your mind or something?
     
  9. demosnat

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    Tell us about your new gf, and where you see that going.
     
  10. Falconer

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    My list came about in a thread called "the origin of (my) one-itis" or something like that. The basic idea was that I get one-itis because I am extremely selective in who I date and therefore therefore it's not easy to find a new gf if a previous relationship ends. Scarcity mentality. In other words, for some guys who's qualifications for a gf are "she must be female," and that's it, they can find new GFs with no problem. I'm sure you know people like that. But when I thought about it, I realized that I was quite the opposite. I've always had a ton of qualifications, I just finally decided to list them for fun. I think I may have read in a book an exercise where you were supposed to list traits you wanted in a partner. I think it said to list 10 or something, but I decided that that wouldn't be specific enough. People would put things like "physically attractive" or whatever. Well, duh! I would hope everyone wants a partner to whom they are attracted. Alright, well I guess everyone's opinion of physical attractiveness will differ (fortunately, or we'd all be after the same chicks), so I guess it was just for fun I decided to list out what I generally consider to be attractive. Now I'm rambling.

    It's funny, tho. My list probably makes me seem really uptight and stiff but I'm actually incredibly laid back for the most part. My gf and I are always laughing, making jokes, and having a good time, no matter what we are doing.

    I think my qualifications for SOs come from my longterm view of relationships. I have no desire to date a "Ms. Right Now" because I see that as a waste of time. To each his own. I have also identified things that I know would cause problems with longterm compatibility (both based on previous experience and based on me spending way too much time analyzing things). So when I seek out a gf, I try to filter for as many of these qualities as possible from the beginning so in a few months or years I'm not saying "geez, I wish my gf would do such-and-such."

    I also recognize that in the beginning, people get love blindness and allow "incompatibilities" in their SOs to slide because they're too hung up on being in love. I try to objectively qualify these traits outside of "being in love" so that when the honeymoon phase wears off, I'm not left with "geez... how could I have put up with such-and-such (dealbreaker) for so long?". In other words, I definitely get love blindness as well, but I try to make sure the person I'm with doesn't have any major red flags before I fall in love with them. So far I've been successful with this strategy 3 out of 4 times, with the 1 being my most recent ex in whom I saw a lot of red flags but was too busy being "in love" to care :hs:
     
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  11. Falconer

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    She's awesome, she's on my level intellectually and morally. And sexually :naughty: She's a good cook and she's very compassionate. I was pretty sick a few weeks ago and she completely took care of me (note: a girl not taking care of you when you're sick is an impossibly huge red flag). She's very feminine and likes when I take the lead (with occasional exceptions in bed, lol), and I think I owe my success with this to the Vag because before I was kind of a nice guy, like "oh, whatever you want to do, honey." I can completely identify with "nice guys" and I'm being more of a leader now and I'm sure I'm being awesome, but I still sometimes feel like I'm crossing into asshole territory (I assure you I'm not, it's just residual social conditioning with my calibration being off. I'm probably the nicest person you will ever meet). She told me the other day, "I'm so glad you have a backbone."

    She is naturally beautiful (ie. good looking in the morning without makeup) and low maintenance. And so far our relationship has been drama free (which is a HUGE change from my most recent ex).
     
  12. FEELSGOODMEN

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    thank you for your poignant and insightful post.
     
  14. FEELSGOODMEN

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    i had a post but someone deleted it.
     
  15. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I deleted it, stick to the fucking interview and that's it :squint:
     
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    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    How long have you and your current been dating now?
     
  17. Falconer

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    About 4 months.
     
  18. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I like how you categorize things. "Natural beauty" being a girl who looks good in the morning without makeup. :bowdown:

    However, I'm surprised that as someone who sees the flaw in that girl's reasoning (the one who called you closed-minded), you don't see the flaw in the reasoning of choosing what you believe to be true about the universe based on what you would like to be true about the universe. That is in response to your explanation of your own religious views.

    I think the reason that I'm less specific than you, in advance, about what I want from a girl is twofold.

    (1) because I find out, by virtue of being non-specific, that I want things I could not have known I wanted, had I been specific,
    (2) I'm not looking for someone to fill a monogamy by default slot, in the first place, so there's little or nothing to "specify" in advance.

    I'm too tired to take out the subjunctive contrafactual and double negatives there, so you will have to parse those sentences as they are.

    Questions

    Who are you voting for this election? Primary? Main?
    What's your physical "type" if you have one?
     
  19. Falconer

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    What an awesome response.

    There is no proof that any religion is the correct one. Therefore, I choose beliefs that make me feel the best. I'm sure my reasoning is flawed, but as it cannot be disproved logically, in this case I choose what makes me feel the most comfortable.

    I completely understand number 1.

    For number 2, all I'm looking for is monogamy, so we're coming from different perspectives here :dunno: :h5:
    I know what you meant :bigthumb:


    I have to run to a meeting in a few min but I will try to answer your questions quickly.

    Voting: Quick answer -- I usually vote democrat. Republicans are generally too influenced by religion. Democrats generally win my vote by supporting stem cell research. Medical and scientific progression should be humanity's absolute top priority, with the elimination of disease at the top of that list. That being said, republican presidents are generally better during times of war. It's funny tho because stem cell research isn't even a topic in the debates this year. I disagree with all candidates that Spanish should be accepted as an alternative to English in the US. I'm not being a stupid American here. I have studied linguistics and have more appreciation for languages than most people you will meet. The reason I think Spanish should not be allowed to replace English in any instances in the US is for reasons of efficiency and standardization.

    Physical type: do you mean my physical type like of my body, or the physical type I prefer in women?
     
  20. JohnJohnJohnson

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    Physical type you prefer in women
     
  21. Falconer

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    Brunette, 5'2" to 5'7", slim but curvy and feminine, low bodyfat and an ectomorphic tendency, hourglass figure. I like a flat stomach but I do not like ab muscle definition on women. Perky A, B, or small C cups.

    Here are some pics of women I consider attractive. Click the links that say "click me." Most of the pics of hot women I have are porn and I didn't want to post those here. It was hard to find work safe images :rofl:

    Click me (Face pic. Work safe.)

    Click me (Nice figure and ass. SNWS)

    Click me (This girl is what I would consider "thick." Probably too thick for me, but I'm including her here because her ass + legs have extremely good proportions which I find to be attractive. Note for dumbasses: "proportion" does not equal "size." Sorry, no one ever seems to understand what it means when I say a girl has good proportions).

    Click me (NWS!!!! Sung-Hi Lee. I find her to be gorgeous in most pictures and in this pic her ass and legs are perfect)

    Click me (The girl on the left in this pic has a perfect body (from what I can see in the pic))

    On the theme of proportion, the legs must be proportional to themselves. Here is an example of a girl whose legs are not proportional. Her calves are too thin for her thighs, and she has that weird inner-knee hump that I don't like (everyone has it, but it's very pronounced on some people, like this girl): Click me. (SNWS)

    Click me (NWS!! This girl has a very nice body altho I think her boobs are fake and I don't really dig that)

    Click me (NWS Nice hourglass/body/proportions/etc)



    Alright, so there's a description, some examples of women I find attractive physically, and one example of a woman with what I consider unattractive legs. Does that help?
     
  22. Yuppy

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    i think you look @ too much porn.
     
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    you seem generally preoccupied with various asain cultures. any insight why, or from where this came about?
     
  24. Falconer

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    one of the chicks i posted was asian. i also studied japanese a bit in school and i like sushi a lot :big grin: I dated a korean girl once but she was insane (she's the "most recent ex" i spoke of in this interview). but she was adopted by white people so she wasn't really asian aside from her looks. OT tends to say Korean gf = balls to the walls drama. my one experience supports this :rofl:

    sorry for any typoes and lack of capitalization. i'm posting from my blackjack.
     
  25. Falconer

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    :rofl:

    actually, now that i have a gf i hardly ever look at porn anymore. but when i dont have a gf, i def watch porn. what's ur point?

    i dont even fnd most of the 'traditional' porn stars to be atractive. many dont have nice bodies, have big nasty fake boobs, and a lot are just putting on a show and dont seem to be enjoying it. and a lot of porn stars dont seem to be able to give a good blowjob, either :dunno:

    dont get me wrong, tho. there's a lot of porn that i do enjoy :bigthumb: just not the jenna jamieson clones.
     

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