I feel like I have hit a dead end. I have dated over 20 girls this year. I had a few hopeful prospects and two of them got me into the friendzone. I am going to kinda jump around here because I have a lot on my mind. Last night I had a convo with my cousin and she made it clear to me that I was over analyzing women and my relationships with them. I have had plenty of bad things happen in my past relationships no doubt. I look and reflect on the things that have happened and try to pick out the signs. If I see someone with the same traits I cut them out. I don't really see the problem with that until now. Now background on who I have connected with most this year have been girls that just broke up with the typical douchbag. 3 of the 4 had bad breakups with the "I still love him" bullshit that I just ignore hearing. Number 4 started out normal but then went crazy after a month of dating. Calling, texting emailing and wanting to just talk all night long. I could not deal with it and had to cut that one way they hell out of my life. Two of them I was very clear with that I had that special feeling for. One of them was always telling me she was trying to figure out how to cut her ex out of her life as to not hurt his feelings. Of course a few months later that became "He is really trying now" and "Your my best friend now" Bullshit.... The other we dated for a few months and things were laid back and going pretty good. No pressure but she was happy being single yet attached to me if that makes any sense. Her Bday rolls around and bam next thing she is telling me is OMG I am so happy we are back together. WTF! With her I pretty much feel like I wasted my time and money and my feelings are hurt yes. I think I channel my feelings for her into the fact I made the sacrifice of time and money for her to make myself feel better. The other female I connected with was fun but she had the I want to fuck as many men as I can attitude. Great terrific I get my dick wet but nothing else. So I have noticed my trend as of 2008 of connecting with women that are fresh off a breakup. My last long term relationship was a girl just off a breakup and that go me nowhere. So here I am last week meeting yet another chick at a bar who tells me she just broke up. Great I get her number and for some reason go out with her. Nice girl thus far but I know I am setting myself up for fail. I have always been that approach anyone type of person and my friends have always seen that. I was with some guys from work two weeks ago at a club and two of them asked me why I was just standing around not having a good time. I was having a good time relaxing to the music and that great intoxicating beverage. As for the women I just don't want to try any more. I find myself attracted to Hot women but only hot women that are emotionally dependent or chemically imbalanced. Why are the Hot women very single women that I don't connect with not as appealing as the fresh breakup chicks? I don't think I will ever be able to have a good dating history until I figure this out. Its a trend that I seem to follow and I must break it if I am ever going to be happy. Like I said I have noticed my own trend but having it brought up by my cousin really struck it home. Even before last nights convo myself thinking about it has been making me depressed. So what does OT think? What do I need to do to change my way of thinking? Better yet what happened to me in my past that has programmed me like this? Disclaimer: This post is all random things going on in my head. Some or None of it may make any sense. Also no spell check or grammar police. I am sure this is full of typing errors.