Update on my situation...

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  1. forgotmyname

    forgotmyname Active Member

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    About this girl I was interested in my class. I sat next to her, and then yesterday, I added her on facebook (bad move? :hsugh:)

    Anyways, I am talking about this with a girl friend and she told me to invite her out on a group date, so she is not pressured. Is this a good or bad idea, knowing that I don't intend to be her friend, but rather something more?
     
  2. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Eh. In my eyes if she isn't comfortable going out with just you then hanging out with a group first isn't really going to change that. If it were me, I'd just ask her for coffee.
     
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    I know a lot of girls prefer to go out as a group first. They want their friends opinions, there is potentially less awkwardness, etc.
     
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    did you talk to her when you sat next to her? If you did, seems like you are doing fine.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Yeah, I don't fuck with chicks like that. I mean if I meet a girl in a group setting, I'll get to know her in that setting before I ask her on a date, but if I meet a girl somewhere random, I don't play around.
     
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    Depends on the person, can be good or bad.

    If you dont know her at all and aren't really friends with her, a group date can go either way. Either shes going to like the fact that its not a odd situation and there are others around, or shes going to feel out of place around all your friends.

    Won't know til you ask her out regardless. Ask her before class if she wants to grab a coffee, never hurts.
     
  7. forgotmyname

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    Of course, I often talk to her. That's the reason I sat next to her. :)
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    I think if you guys talk regularly that it's safe to ask her for coffee after class someday. In fact, I would encourage exactly that.
     
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    How old are you guys exactly?
     
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    College, so safe to say, 19-23?
     
  11. forgotmyname

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    Yeah...
     
  12. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Sooooo you still haven't even asked her for coffee?
     
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    Maybe he should ask her for tea just to be on the safe side
     
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    They cancelled class that day because of snow. :sad2:
     
  15. D7

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    Go 1 on 1

    Isn't there high risk of friendzone in group dating?
     
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    not really.. just when you go out with a group of friends there is a high chance

    two "couples" going out isnt bad though
     
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    why group date, why not make your intentions known and ask for a 1 on 1 date. Let her ask for the group date.
     
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    FUCK THAT
     
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    Group date = fail. She might think its a 'hang out' thing. Let her know you want to date her, and if she says no, move on.
     
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    and"hanging out" with a girl is step one to friendzone
     
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    :rofl::rofl::rofl:

    Unfortunately its true in Salt Lake. Some LDS parents let their girls start dating at 15 if its in a group so I think its just what they're used to. 16 is the offical dating age.

    They herd to the bathroom in huge groups too. Can't stand that ... girl friend asks me if I need to go and I'm like "uh, I know how to go by myself. Do you need halp?"
     
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    Yeah, maybe it is just a product of where I grew up.

    The first time I asked my ex on a date, I made it a double date. She was alone at my house the next night though.
     
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    First dates as double dates are so high school
     
  24. forgotmyname

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    I haven't invited her out yet but today I did spent a few minutes outside of class talking to her. Seems like a cool girl.

    Anyways, what do you think about replying to Facebook comments? Seems like she is kinda sick and I thought about putting "what can i do to make you better?"
    Is it too direct? :hs:
     
  25. hardlywaiting

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    Ask her to do something, like maybe bowling or coffee. Stop stalking her facebook because that's just going to make you obsess about her more. Did you seriously add her as a friend on facebook without even talking to her? That's freaking weird and borderline creepy, but I suppose I've been guilty of similar at one point or another.

    Why do you like this girl? Is she super cute or something? You seem to be worrying way too much about a girl you hardly know.

    I always feel better when I ask a girl out to actually do something, regardless of the answer. If they are up for hanging out, great. If not, great, because then I don't worry about that particular girl anymore and move on to the next pretty face.
     

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