Alright so our relationship is fine, all is well, 'cept for one thing. We're both in college, and she's pretty active (her mom got her started early; now it comes naturally to her with no problem). She's so active (president of Rotaract, etc) that she got invited to a "Women as Global Leaders" seminar. In fucking Abu Dhabi. Intellectually, I can accept that Abu Dhabi is a modern city full of relatively western people -- failing that, people there are generally said to not be hostile to western culture (and, more importantly, people) like so many other countries in the neighborhood. And I'm thrilled that she's got such a fantastic opportunity. On the other hand, the thought of her hopping on-board an airplane and flying to the fuckin' Middle East with a bunch of other college girls ... just sounds like a set-up for a seriously disgusting tragedy. Part of the problem, I think, is with the way my mind unfortunately works: quickly, violently, and full of really sick images and ideas. On one hand she's got a great opportunity -- on the other, I'm making a LONG list of all the terribly tragic, hateful, repulsive shit that could theoretically happen. It rubs off. I can't help but think about this BAD shit when the topic of this trip comes up in conversation. And it ruins my day. I can't help but thinking about all these awful things; I get all pissed off, can't hold together the conversation. And actually find myself getting angry with her. I do NOT express that, though she can tell I'm upset at something. That drags her down, and then we're both pissed off for no rational reason. So what do I hope will come of this post? First of all, I'm hoping someone can say something positive about the UAE. It'd really help to hear from someone who's in or has been to Abu Dhabi, and can say "it's cool here, don't worry." (Fucking don't lie to me though.) Second, can someone advise me as to how to cope with all these terrifically negative thoughts that come up involuntarily? Is there some way to beat back an overactive imagination? This is pissing me off REAL bad. Her plane leaves in under a week, and I don't want her next several days here to be miserable because mine are. Thanks in advance, OT Asylum.