Um... I think I'm easy/ a slut

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  1. chicken leg

    chicken leg New Member

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    Ok let me explain, I'm very new here but this is the main reason I joined...
    A seriously good friend of mine suggested this site to me because I've been having some odd issues in my love life.

    I've never had a "real" bf but i've dated a few guys. What happened is when i returned to my home country during the holidays I was asked out by one of my old crushes, someone who made my head spin by just hearing his name:mamoru: . The date was awesome and i had a great time but I did something i shouldn't have done and that was nearly sleep with him.
    He started it and we just kept going through the bases, I wanted to say stop or no but for some reason i couldn't bring myself to... i just wasn't thinking straight at all as well, luckily i managed to pull on the breaks just before i made the mistake of my life. I thought i would have learned from that but i didn't and i've had the same issue with a different person recently who i was hoping to date...

    I know people tend to think that a slut is a person that sleeps around and i'm a virgin so i can't be one, but i feel myself heading that way but when i try to say no, the words stick in my mouth.

    please if anyone has advice give it too me :hs:

    Thanks.
     
  2. ACLdestroyer

    ACLdestroyer OT Supporter

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    So you cant say no eh? Wanna hang out sometime? ;)
     
  3. HouseLing

    HouseLing When masturbations lost its fun you'r fucking lazy

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    how old are you?

    and its natural to want to have sex.
     
  4. The Saggin' Nutz

    The Saggin' Nutz New Member

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    why would you think your a slut?
     
  5. The Saggin' Nutz

    The Saggin' Nutz New Member

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    :roflw:
     
  6. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    :rofl:

    Sex is normal, feels great and it's fun. What's so "wrong" with doing it?
     
  7. audrey

    audrey New Member

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    Virginity is so over rated
     
  8. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    How old are you?

    Depending on how old you are, you could be getting the urge for that but thats normal.

    You can't be a slut if you haven't slept with anyone...
     
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    BigC New Member

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    when i returned to my home country? Russia?
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    You're not a slut, and you will only become a slut if you allow yourself to give in and have sex with these guys....numerous times. So far you have been strong enought to stop not only once but twice. That kind of willpower is exemplary! You sound either young, or an older virgin with high morals. Morals are always good of course. All I have to say is I wish I had waited longer, not saying that you should feel the same but more to choose wisely. If you've held off this long you should choose wisely what guy you really want to lose it too since most first times are silly and with someone unimportant.
     
  11. chicken leg

    chicken leg New Member

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    OK i feel a lot better about that then. I was just worried that it was the reason guys didn't go for me, cos they seem more than happy to try and get into my pants but none that want a relationship. i want to hold off until the right time but it's not easy, at all.
    I felt really slutty at the time, first date and i haven't seen the guy in over a year...

    My home country is in South Africa btw.
     
  12. demosnat

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    SA??? You guys are my freaking heroes. Legalization of gay marriage for the motherfucking win. :wavey:

    I know you know this, but if you do decide to have sex be insanely careful, every single time especially when going home. You only have to fuck up once to get AIDS.
     
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    Hmmmmm, this type of issue is perceived differently in different parts of the world.

    Here in the US it is widely acceptable to have quite a few more sexual partners before marriage than in other countries.

    Is it how you were raised to think? Something your parents instilled in your mind or that your culture instilled?
     
  14. Falconer

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    You're not a slut.

    But you seem to not feel comfortable saying "no." But be careful of the signals you give off.
     
  15. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    That's not being a slut but it is a sign of low self-esteem (which most if not all sluts have). You are probably afraid that if you say no the guy won't like you anymore so you go against your beliefs to try to please him. I would consider that a pretty serious problem. You should never let someone talk you into doing something that you don't really want to do. If the guy doesn't want to talk to you anymore because you wouldn't fool around with him then he isn't worth your time anyway.
     
  16. As you think, you shall become.
     
  17. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    well shit, if you are going to have the guilt, you may as well have the sex!
     
  18. BedBunny

    BedBunny Guest

    404 slut not found
     
  19. chicken leg

    chicken leg New Member

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    Try sticking something else in your mouth... :coolugh:

    You can be physical/sexual with a guy without actually having sex. Of let me more clearly define...intercourse. Thanks to Bill Clinton "sex" doesn't mean intercourse anymore. Anyway...

    If you lead the guy to believe that you are going to sleep with him and you stop at the last minute you aren't a slut, you are a cock tease. However, if you make it known that you don't mind kissing/touching/whatever you like, but won't actually have intercourse...and you make that known from the beginning, then what is the problem? You're still a virgin. You still have a good time and the guy shouldn't be pissed because he wasn't mislead.
     
  21. DvBoard

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    Just wait till you find a guy interested in more than just sex. They exist abit rareir these days it seems. Then the sex will still happen, but not first off, and it will be somethign you both want.

    why the hurry or the worry?
     
  22. YourMomOnRyeBun

    YourMomOnRyeBun New Member

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    What 16 year old guy doesn't want sex?
     
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    niSssEanR OT Supporter

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    For rizel...
     
  24. nish81

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    she's a girl
     
  25. jonno

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    ...... girls like sex too dude
     

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