Ugh, what do i do?

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  1. AlcHemiE

    AlcHemiE Guest

    I've been going with my G/F for 2.5 years now, and i come home from work on monday and shes not home. Thinking shes at a friends house, i thought nothing of it. A friend of hers calls me and asks me if i am doing okay. I was like of course i am, wtf are you talking about. Well come to find out my G/F has feelings for this other guy and went up to his house, 150 miles north, just to try and sort her feelings out. So i was a little upset. I havent been to work since monday.. I found out who he was, and got his addresss, and drove up to see her. After i got there we talked and she explained to me that she had feelings for him, but still loves me. She assures me that nothing has happened between to two of them, and i believed her. Long story short, i drive home, and she calls me wanting me to pick her back up. So after 600 miles in one day, she comes home. She is at her sisters house now, still trying to figure things out. I had already bought a ring and planned on proposing in August on our cruise. I really want things to work out in my favor, but im worried that every guy she meets now and has a crush on, she is going to put our relationship on the line. Now im having seconds thoughts about the proposal... What do you guys (and gals) think about all this? Im so damn confused..
     
  2. Snowballer

    Snowballer - Blissfully Insane -

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    I'd say relax and let things happen. She isn't serious in your relationship and you should take note of that.
     
  3. TankedOutSuicide

    TankedOutSuicide These aren't the DJs were looking for...

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    thats not the girl you want to marry man.....if this girl has "feelings" for this other guy, it will never work out between you guys. iam sure you guys had a happy 2.5 year relationship yet shes prolly the kind of girl who wants to explore a lil more an not settle down. 2.5 years imo isn't that long to purpose to a girl....i say your best bet is to either send her on her way because she WILL cheat on you seeing that shes alrdy having feelings for this other guy or really sit down with her an explain how you feel.
     
  4. Jeff Merr

    Jeff Merr Elite Member

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    Return the ring, she obviously isnt stable enough to make that kind of commitment. Think about it man, if after 2.5 years she still cant decide who she has feelings for, would you really take the risk and try to wed her? no, you wouldnt. I honestly would break up with her, history repeats itself, if she cannot be satisfied off of her feelings from you, whats to keep her for searching and getting emotionaly involved with someone else again? Its a huge red flag and an accident waiting to happen, she also doesnt respect you or your feelings for her, because if she did then she wouldnt have skipped out leaving you in the dust. Break it off, or you will be heartbroken again in the future.
     
  5. TankedOutSuicide

    TankedOutSuicide These aren't the DJs were looking for...

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    bravo!:mamoru:
     
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    TankedOutSuicide These aren't the DJs were looking for...

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    gtfo :squint:
     
  7. CyberBullets

    CyberBullets I reach to the sky, and call out your name. If I c

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    agrreed
     
  8. evolution

    evolution New Member

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    WTH forget her. Bah, women.
     
  9. Lad

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    like they said,.... If she doesnt know what she wants after that long, then she probably doesnt want a long term relationship. Or maybe she knows, and she is trying to break it off letting you know that she isnt ready.
     
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    Ok, maybe she is just like 'wow, i might marry this guy' and is a little nervouse about it? all you people ever say is break up, and what you say really shouldnt matter that much because he didnt give us much info at all. It is possible she just freaked out for a second there, and it isnt as bad as you all are trying to say.
     
  11. BTA

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    We say break up pretty often because these are the same people who will end up heartbroken and broken up later anyway.

    We're just trying to save them the trouble.

    Ignore the early warning signs all you want, it doesnt make them go away.
     
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    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Time to cut your losses.
     
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    idk about dumping her yet, 2 1/2 years is hard to just throw away, but you might as well forget about marriage right now. i think you know its not the right thing to do.
     
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    Did this girl have a history with this dude before she met you? If so, then she is being good, I guess, for making sure that she is with the person she should be with.
    Also, wtf did you guys talk about the whole entire ride back? Did you not address these issues 150 miles gives two people plenty of time to talk.
     
  15. andymodem

    andymodem Ambitious, but rubbish.

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  16. Crazie

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    Yeah man I'm going to say much of what most of these guys have already said, because I just got out of a 2.5 year relationship myself dealing with basically the same thing. Man move on for real. It's going to be one of the hardest things you ever had to do but the fact remains that it is in your best interest to do so.
     
  17. sugarnspice19

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    My guess is that she's seeing the reality of a lifelong relationship with you, and that it might be scaring her. After 2.5 years, maybe she just needs to get perspective, and make sure that this the relationship with you is really what she wants for the rest of her life. Having the other guy in the picture complicates things a little bit, but odds are it's nothing. Heck, he might even be more of a friend that she could go to, just so she could have some peace and quiet to think. Just see where things go, after 2.5 years, she's bound to need a reality check, just to make sure her life's heading where she wants it to go.
     

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