Ok so my sister has always kind of ignored the family. She usually just comes around when she wants something. Well 2 weeks ago my mom gets a call from my sister's boyfriend (my sister is 33 and so is he by the way). He says my sister is in the hospital and is going to have a baby but she has preeclampsia. He also then admits that he and my sister have been using coke. My sister for 2 years and him for God knows how long. Well now my sister is staying with my parents. I understand she needs support right now but she has only ever come around when she needs something. I'm getting married in February and my mom has said that she was paying for the plane tickets and hotel room to Vegas. Well now it seems the baby is expensive. OK yes I'm slightly, I guess you would call it jealous. But how is it that I can be the one that gets screwed when my sister is the screwed up one. I'm 23 years old and have 10x the maturity of my sister. I just don't know what to do. My mom has been hurt so many times by my sister. Now she comes around and pretends to be the most loving daughter. I'm sure as soon as she can be with her boyfriend again and she gets custody of the baby, it will go back to her not talking to us. OK sorry I had to vent! This is the email I have written out to my mom, now do you think I should send it? "Sorry I didn't mean to take my frustrations out on you. It just really pisses me off that she can all of a sudden be such a wonderful daughter when she needs something. She can't talk to us for years, even when she was with Rich because we're not good enough. But as soon as she gets herself into some trouble, she comes running back. I know I'm not always the most loving daughter either but you know I had a great teacher. Maybe that's the so called blame game talking but I guess sometimes you have to play that game when it's the truth. She was a sister to me when I went to ASU and I love her for that. She was supportive and came to visit but it's really sad that, that's the only time I can think of when I thought she cared about me. For years she made fun of me, I was the nerd who's face was always in a book. Yeah well maybe that was true but I stayed off the drugs. I respect her for having good jobs in the past but now I think it hurts so much because she has lost that respect from me. She can sit there and tell me to take my medicine and take good care of myself, well for what? You know I can't have kids but she has one and doesn't even know she's pregnant? That just feels like she's spitting in my face. You can let her read this if you want. These are all of my feelings and I can't tell this to her face because it will come out angry and right now it's even hard to type because of the tears rolling down my face. I just feel like I was deserted by her and all of a sudden I'm supposed to welcome her back with loving arms and support her through this. Well I guess it will just take some time for me to forgive. I'm sorry if it seems I don't care about the baby. I'm glad one of us was able to have a baby at least. But I just don't want to get to excited about the whole situation because any time I think I'm getting a sister back she disappoints me. I don't know what else to say, I'm scared I guess."