FRK Trying to figure this out...

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  1. f1manoz

    f1manoz Guest

    Hello fellow F/S,

    I'm a 22 year old male with a small problem (so I think anyway).

    I'm in a fabulous relationship with a girl who I'm deeply in love with. We are very close, get on tremendously, the sex is great and we're even moving in together on Wednesday.

    But I have this nagging thing that she doesn't know about.

    My obsession with pre-op transexuals (shemales if you will).

    I absolutely adore them. I can think of nothing sexier than a fit woman with a beautiful face, lovely set a tits with a nice hard cock between her legs.

    I have a massive porn collection on the computer (that she couldn't possibly find) - pictures and videos. Gigabytes worth that I constantly drool over and masturbate too often. Hell, I can rattle off a bunch of names that I love to watch in movies...

    But it doesn't end there - I haven't cheated on her (and never will), but prior to us meeting and starting our relationship, I was constantly meeting transexuals for sex. The first couple of times were nerve-racking but once I was into the swing, I was enjoying it. Swallowing transexual cock was great but when I started taking it up the ass, WOW! It as an entirely new sensation...

    So, I guess the question is, if there is one, I'm not trying to look for a label for me or call it a problem... I'm just wondering if I should tell my girlfriend or if this should be a secret? I really don't know if she'd understand. I know I'm not gay, as I'm not attracted to men... I'm just confused...
     
  2. _syn

    _syn New Member

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    Uhm-- tell her. :ugh:
     
  3. xxx

    xxx New Member

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    obviously talk to her about it
     
  4. dangerHV

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    delete all the porn and be hard on yourself. don't tell her before she said yes to marry you.
     
  5. xxx

    xxx New Member

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    not good advice since he has both and obsession and addiction
     
  6. BedBunny

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    tell her! she'll find out one way or another, and it's better to be by you!
     
  7. Sam Gamgee

    Sam Gamgee Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. OT Supporter

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    She had a swing? Naughty-naughty...













    (I'm kidding, I know what you meant)









    Communication, baby...
     
  8. R6EXTERRA

    R6EXTERRA New Member

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    don't hide stuff..... the day it does come out....You will have detsroyed a better part of her life...especially if she is not into it.

    be true to her and yourself.
     
  9. GeekDrew

    GeekDrew aka DataDrew

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    One of my brothers is bi... and he still hasn't told his wife. They've been married almost 8 years. He recently had a same sex encounter though... he's been beating himself up about it, cause he realizes it's wrong to cheat on her (especially with someone of the same sex... and this person is rather close to both of them). I feel kinda bad about it tpp... I had something to do with letting it happen :(

    I think that you should tell her. I know my brother certainly wishes that he had before they got married. He's beside himself, now. Cheating is one thing... but this has an entirely new depth to it.
     
  10. 12xalt

    12xalt petrolsexual

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    you need to be honest with her and tell her
     
  11. Sionell89

    Sionell89 I grew up when I wasn't looking

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    I have mixed feelings about this.

    I think it depends on your partner, their open-mindedness, the security of the relationship, confidence in self, just to name a few. What is acceptable early in a relationship is often not so later on and visa versa.

    Case in point, the other night, I found my hubby had logged onto a big-tittie news group. Ten years ago, this would have put me in a tail spin about the relationship, how happy he was with me, what was wrong, etc. Yesterday? I gave him hell for keeping the good porn to himself.

    Your actual encounters are nothing different than your old girlfriends. Is it her business? Well, maybe. Maybe not. I'm sure that she hasn't told you everything she's done or everything that is in her mind. Completely honest people are very few and far between. But just because we think something doesn't mean we're going to do something, even if we did 'do' in the past.

    Still, my mother always said timing is everything. If you have a sense that she's open to different things and the opportunity to talk presents itself, then you might serve well to take a deep breath and tell her. Who knows, maybe she'll go out and get a harness and you can have the best of both worlds?

    Last thing....GO GET TESTED!!!
     
  12. mkevaldz

    mkevaldz New Member

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    I smell a sitcom!

    kidding.

    We all have deep dark sexual secrets we are afraid to tell the signifigant other about, in fear of their reaction, being judged, labeled, etc. You need to take consideration what the pros and cons of telling her this would be. You said you never intend to cheat on her, right? and she will never find your porno right? so what good could possibly come from her knowing? with the exception of you sharing everything about yourself to her.

    I'm sure she's a great person and all, but that's a lot to take in from the person you assumed you knew up until now.

    My suggestion to keep your relationship healthy, remove the porn from your computer, and don't tell her, if you can deal with it, which we all can do.

    However, if you must tell her, go for the gold and do it on springer.
     
  13. contactone

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    I say tell her. I used to date T-girls before I met my current girlfriend(genetic girl). I told her 6 months into our relationship. I'm pretty sure I could of kept it a secret, but the thought of it all was just weighting on my shoulders. She was shocked, but in the end took it well and was not judgemental. She brings it up now and then, but I think only cause she wants to know more about me and my sexual life.(we are both freaky)

    Now for sneaky contactone's response.

    Don't tell her if you can hide all that porn and keep your old life(I hope it's old) a secret. However, be prepared if she ever finds the porn or you fuck up and cheat.

    Now that I think of it it's kinda funny. She probably wouldn't give a flying fuck if you dated regualr girls and did the things 'regular' people do. Too many, a history of dating T-girls is a must know.


    FYI
    The chicks in my av are trannies.:o
     
  14. mkevaldz

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    sneaky mike here, if she catches the porn, look astonished and disgusted at it, and say it's a virus that uploads sick porn to your computer (which to exist)
     
  15. Sionell89

    Sionell89 I grew up when I wasn't looking

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    :bowrofl:
     
  16. liquidPoop

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    this is kinda off the topic, but where are ya'll meeting all these trannies? I've never met one :confused:
     
  17. contactone

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    Well, if I was in Austin, like yourself, I would probably go to bout'time or charlies. Bout time is like 'Cheers' for gays. Charlies is a sporty/cluby kinda bar right in view of the capital building. The forum was another place I would go to meet t-girls, but it lost soem luster over the years. The last too bars are great for when you're staying downtown.:o
     
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  18. Geliebter Vampir

    Geliebter Vampir New Member

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    i think that you should tell her and explain the way you did here (but not so graffic) .. .. i also think you should have time to think about what you want and what will make you completely happy .. .. i went through something (i wasnt in a serious relationship like you) like this but what i did was i explored different sexual orientations to see what really made happy .. .. so maybe that is what you need .. .. but one thing i do know is that you definantly need to talk to your girl before your relationship goes farther than where it all ready is .. .. good luck with this and any decisions you make .. .. i wish you the best
     
  19. TampaGirl813

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    I agree....very nicely put. If she loves you , then she should accept you for who you are.....LYING on the other hand is not a good thing to do.:nono: It will come out some way or another, and she will have more respect for you if you are honest.

    From a female's point of view!!:)
     
  20. Tell Her.
     
  21. JustaMeThang

    JustaMeThang New Member

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    Tell her either way, but I have a question, If you tell her, and she is NOT interested in this.... are you goin to be able to live your life happily without havin any more encounters with Trani's?
     
  22. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Confused, you are. You should definately tell your GF...You need to be honest in a relationship. If she loves you like you think she does then she will find a way to over come this...obstacle.

    If she returns, then you will know she is yours [THE ONE]
    If she doesn't, then she never was yours


     
  23. Nafin

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    if she dumps you for it move to Thailand, plenty of tranny's there!
     
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    well if you know you aren't gonna cheat on her, then forget about that part of your life, and live a happy life with your gf
     
  25. 007

    007 Riden, sliden, whipin and dippin, my chrome strips

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    NEVER tell her.
     

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