Alright, so I never make these threads, but I've been drinking tonight so why the fuck not. I think I finally figured out why it is nearly impossible for me to make a move on a girl I actually have a romantic interest in and could see myself dating for an extended period of time. I have no problem hooking up with random broads because I know that I don't have any feelings for them and if I wanted to I could never talk to them for the rest of my life and feel find about it. However, recently I have found a girl that I have actually taken a genuine interest in, and no matter how much I tell myself she's just another girl, I always get nervous/anxious and I can never bring myself to make a move on her. I have never had an opportunity to hang out with her alone, other than driving from point A to point B in my car and whenever we say goodbye its only a hug and I cant seem to bring myself to go any further. I've only had about 3 "dates" with her in public places so far. I think this is because I'm afraid that if I let myself fall for a girl again, and devote time into her, that I could just get hurt again and end up feeling like all women are whores. (I got cheated on in my last relationship, the breakup was rough.) Everyone I talk to just says "Grow a pair and go for it" otherwise I'll never be able to get over this 'hump'. But it's a whole lot easier said than done. I've contemplated just calling this new girl up and showing my hand (we've def been playing games for the past few weeks) and letting her know what I'm thinking. But everything this forum and life has taught me about hooking up with girls is exactly the opposite and to never show my hand too early. I guess I'm just looking for advice other than "grow a pair" because I know that's what I need to do... but some positive reinforcement might be nice. I'm just afraid that I'm going to blow this (if I havent already), and that I need to find a way to be able to open up and trust women again. cliffs: cheated on in past afraid of making a move on someone I actually have feelings for because I'm afraid I'm just gonna get fucked over again. this is keeping me from having legitimate relationships with women.