SRS Trust Issues?

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  1. JickSon

    JickSon New Member

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    It became apparent in my first serious relationship that I can have trust issues. It didn't help that my dad was an asshole and at one point stole money from me as a kid. I'm sure it didn't help either that the ~1 year long relationship was long distance, and even better, with a young immature girl.

    That was a while ago, at least 6 months have gone by. I've become a lot more easy going and less controlling, but I still believe I have a problem trusting. Just started recently going out with a very open girl, shes awesome. :bigthumb:

    I guess what I'm concerned about is alcohol. We both drink on occasion, her maybe more than me, but when she drinks she gets very drunk even if she hasn't had much. I first found that out when I had her over and made her a drink, had to carry her into my room and make her go to sleep. Back when she was dating an asshole a few months ago (when I first met her), she got somewhat drunk when I was with her and her then bf. She seemed farily flirty with me, sort of led me to believe she wanted to do something. So now we're going out, and she's mentioned she's never cheated and never will. I believe her, but when she gets alcohol in her system I feel like this might not hold true.

    I think the problem is just the alcohol and maybe not me, I'm not sure, but I think I'm going to ask her to not drink anymore unless with me, and I'll do the same. Is this smart? Any opinions on anything? All advice is welcome, thanks. :)

    PS: I'm 16, she's 18.
     
  2. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    You both need a reality check.
    A 16-year old shouldn't be drinking.
    It is obvious she cannot hold her booze very well.
    Trouble, it's going to be nothing but trouble swirling around in an alcohol induced haze.
    The empty nothing.
     
  3. Darketernal

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    My stand on this is 'innocent' until proven guilty.

    My thoughts however are, is that she is most likely lying to you on not cheating, however its a 'thing of the past'

    Trust takes time, if she proves trustworthy over time, then as a reward you can give some of your trust to her, although there should always be a little bit suspicion, i advice you not to become a victim of the paranoid.Because not everyone is like your dad.
     
  4. DiggityDogg

    DiggityDogg Guest

    To be fair, 16 year olds and 18 year olds ARE going to drink, even if they shouldn't. I personally don't think you shoudl at all because people that age simply aren't mature enough with it. I was a big partier when I was younger so I guess that makes me a hypocrite, but it also makes me an experienced hypocrite, and I can tell you that 9 out of 10 of my friends back then where NO WHERE NEAR mature enough to go drinking. Hell, I am 26 now and I still don't think half of my friends are mature enough.

    Secondly, you are young, and neither of you are going to be in a mature of a relationship as an adult couple would. You should really work on relaxing and enjoying your life without getting bent up out of shape about such things. Chances are, you are not going to be marrying this girl, and even if you did, chances are it would end in divorce. Take this period of your life as a learning experience, have fun, but don't keep partners around who are cheaters, or commit any number of other deal breakers. ALWAYS maintain your self respect.
     
  5. JickSon

    JickSon New Member

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    :rofl:

    thank you both. ill relax and cut back on drinking :)
     

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