True/false - using a vibrator can make it harder to have orgasms naturally?

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  1. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    An ex told me this a few years ago. She had one of those little vibrators that look like the little eggs or whatever (ie. not a dildo kind). She said she stopped using it because it was killing her sensitivity and making it harder to have normal orgasms from like fingers and my tongue.

    Has anyone else heard/experienced this?
     
  2. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    depends on the woman. masturbation can make it easier to orgasm, however relying on a vibrator can condition a woman to make that the only way she can cum
     
  3. JustaMeThang

    JustaMeThang New Member

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    It can desensitize you, therefore making it harder to cum from less friction/vibration/direct guided stimulation.
     
  4. demosnat

    demosnat New Member

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    I had a friend with this problem.
    Its never happened to me, but I don't use my toys that often
     
  5. giapia

    giapia Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you re

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    i use toys all the time but it doesn't prevent me (or make it difficult) for me to cum the more "natural" way
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    If a girl uses hers very frequently, of course.
     
  7. Amanda Ann

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    I never noticed a difference.
     
  8. TrailerParkMark

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    Stop using vibrators... The last thing I want to worry about is having to kickstart my bionic penis.
     
  9. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Yes vibrators can cause the clit to become desensitized.
     
  10. Dreams2Reality

    Dreams2Reality saywhat

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    :rofl::rofl:
     
  11. Madigan

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    LOL! See, that's what I always expected guys to say - but none of the guys I've known have EVER said it - hell, they like to watch their girls go at it themseleves and even use their toys on them

    As for me, I've been using toys since the day I discovered masturbation (over 10 years ago) and I really haven't noticed any decrese, but then I don't use mine every day much less several times every day
     
  12. Viper

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    I picked the wrong thread on the wrong day. lol
     
  13. lauren

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    i found that some vibrators are more prone to desensitizing me than others.


    those bullet ones, while awesome, are very powerful and very direct.... and if i use it regularly sometimes it makes the real thing harder. other vibes (lager ones, even when used just on the clit) i can use 5x a day and they wont desensitize me at all. a squishy buffer between the motor and my body, and larger dispersement area, helps.


    really though, they've never made it impossible for me to cum, but i have this mentality that if i cant get off in 3 min, it's too much work for the guy, and i tell him it's not going to happen to save him the effort. i feel like 5-10 min is asking too much, and would be a burden on my partner. :o
     
  14. Madigan

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    Oh I hear ya here. But on the bright side, at least some guys like the challenge lol. Though when they start glaring at their battery-operated "competition" it's kinda sad - yet somehow funny lol
     
  15. Falconer

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    Even during sex? Or you mean during oral sex?
     
  16. lauren

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    during anything where he's dedicated to getting me off?
     
  17. Falconer

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    So do you ever have long sex sessions then?
     
  18. lauren

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    of course. just cause i can come quickly, doesn't mean i do. if we have sex for 40 min, it's not much fun for me to get off in the first 10. so i'll have sex for a long time without cumming... but when i try to cum i do what i know works, and if i doesn't happen quickly then i get frustrated, or think i'm being a burden.

    there are two ways of getting off. directly, and indirectly. directly is when he or i are are making a concerted effort and do thing that we know work and that work quickly. indirectly is when it just happens during sex when neither of us are trying.


    think of it like lock picking. when you use a pick, you don't know how long it's going to take, or if it's even going to happen at all. when you open it with the pick, it's awesome. badass. but say the lock you're practicing on is something you actually need to get into, and you cant waste anymore time practicing. so, you break out the key. you'd expect the key to open it instantly, right? but if you jammed one of the tumblers during practice, it might take some time to open it even with your failsafe. that would frustrate anyone.
     
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    What if someone were to obtain the MASTER KEY though. How awesome would that be.
     
  20. lauren

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    keeping with the analogy, a master key would open multiple locks, not open the same lock multiple ways.


    i don't want my bf doing that. :mad:
     
  21. Viper

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    :rofl:

    Touche. Some things are meant to be exit only I guess.
     
  22. lauren

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    oh, anal? :rofl:

    i was thinking he'd be able to do other girls with his key...... that's what i would object to.

    i've had really good orgasms through anal/oral. :o
     
  23. Viper

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    Monagomy is just too cruel a rule! :mamoru:

    I tried anal once and I couldn't get it in. :o
     
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    can make clitoral orgasms more difficult to achieve, imo
     
  25. Falconer

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    Yail!
     

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