Torn between wanting to keep her as a friend or GF

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  1. uwofrost

    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    I met a girl and we get along way too well. same humor and all that. I find her attractive as well, but i also wonder if it would be better to just keep her as a good friend and not do anything physical with her. Does anyone think its better to sometimes just stay friends with someone? Or is staying friends possible? I never end up friend zoned so i dont know what its like to do this.
     
  2. UrbanKnight

    UrbanKnight Good, Bad, I'm the guy with the gun

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    SO you like her, she fits your personality, and she you are attracted to her?? Isn't that what everyone is looking for in a mate?

    If you don't pursue it, there will always be that uncomfortable tension in the friend relationship. However, being that the relationship hasn;t gone anywhere, I have to wonder if she feels the same about you.....

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    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    I havent known her that long. I know she likes me she out right told me. Its just that i dont know if it would be better to have her as a good friend over a GF. Everyone knows sex changes shit.
     
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    vodkacollins New Member

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    but would it be worse to always have that sexual tension and never have a end to that? i mean, it could be fun for a while, but eventually its not
     
  5. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    can you watch her date another guy, or would that tear you up inside ?
     
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    you're an idiot. If you like a single woman, and are single yourself, you pursue her.

    Don't you dare think you would be fine as just being friends...the minute she started going out with other guys, you would get insanely jealous.

    Not to mention, if she likes you, and you shoot her down, she's not gonna come back if you change your mind.
     
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    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    IDK.... she is in the kinda sorta dating some guy but she told me she is sick of that. I have joked with her to hook me up with her friends... and she will if i want her to. I didnt shoot her down either. We kinda talked about this and its a see where it goes thing. we are going to hang out friday. so i guess i will see then.
     
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    I went out on a date with a girl, I discovered I wasn't attracted to her but she'd be cool to hang out with. I guess that's a friend for me right there... :hs:
     
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    oh look...another "she says she has a shitty bf, so I will just wait around until they break up" situation.

    You have two options: Become just friends with her, probably end up falling hard for her, then having her stay with the bf, or "just see you as a friend". Or, you can cut off contact with her and hang around single women.

    I have a guess as to what you're going to say/do, but we'll see what happens.
     
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    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    I dont need to wait i can get her now if i want. I know i can i had the change to kiss her last night i just chose not to. I still dont know if i want her as a friend and to get with one of her hot friends. I guess i just need to wait and see.
     
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    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    side note... her friends that i have met are cool as hell and hot.... so that is where the problem is.... i dont want to put myself in a corner and wish i would have gone for the hot friend. Done that before...

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  12. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    you misread the situation, see post #10 below yours
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    don't put yourself in the corner then. leave things undefined if you don't want to define them
     
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    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    Yeah thats what i think i will do. I just need to keep things on the up and up. Avoid that drunk hook up....
     
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    Your post is vague, and you also want us to answer a question for you that has entirely to do with your ideas/decisions wants and desires, are you fucking stupid? stop making threads.
     
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    he is creating a challenge for her

    good job
     
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    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    I guess if she trys for it im going to give.... pussy = kryptonite
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    man, not everyone is as frigging square as the vaginarium crew. he may not be the insecure jealous-wretch type...
     
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    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    LULZ..... I guess im in the 5% that know they can get a girl and are not worried about what they are doing all the time.

    Im guessing JJJ is one that knows how to talk to women.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    no, i knew how to talk to women, but i've been doing passive / lame social circle game for a while now. you can always get it back though, right?

    right???
     
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    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    Anyone that has the skills to pick up women can jump back in. Sometimes it takes a bit to shake the "rust" off. but once you find your game again:buttsex::69::buk::bj::OP::cuddle::idhitit::tagteam:

    whatever floats your boat.......
     
  22. Falconer

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    If you're not positive she's GF material, then she's friend material.
     
  23. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    If you are picking from the handful of labels available in order to define your relationships, and you're not positive she's "girlfriend" material, then she's "friend" material.
     
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    More or less im going to do the wait and see, need to see what the options are
     
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    Do you intentionally go out of your way to be a tool, or are you completely oblivious to it?
     

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