SRS too sad and destraught to cry.

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  1. plutonicshore

    plutonicshore no name no slogan

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    Houston, we have a problem.
    I don't know what to do. I need help.
    I love my fiance more than .. scratch that.. love is an understatement, that statement in an understatment.
    He just, hurts me so bad.
    We've gotten thru so many things together, even an abortion except one thing.
    There is one thing that I can't get over and it seems neither can he; his past.
    There are things that make up the chemistry of him and I would think thru true love and reality, these things would diminish but no.
    Everything that has built him up to the point at which I met him, is complete filth and to me very disturbing and disgusting.
    The love I hold for him within my heart is not returned and everyday it gets harder and harder. Every week I find something else to comdemn our relationship and it's not even like I'm looking at all.
    There is some cosmic force that doesn't want us to be, some karma. He fights to keep me and he tells me he loves me and he isn't violent to me but I feel... an absence, like it's routine.
    I feel like my chest is being crushed and that there is a long flow of tears locked away inside of me and all he can do is tell me how little the things in his past mean, but to me it means so much.
    I don't know why these other girls matter to him, I don't know why I'm not mentioned to these girls who are "just friends."
    Please help OT, I fear the worst for our relationship.
    I need some real advice.
     
  2. Devilish

    Devilish Remind me AGAIN

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    If he loves you then he'll give up the past. If he won't then you need to tell yourself you're better than that and move on. You may think you love him, but it may just be the idea of him being your perfect man, IF ONLY he could change.
     
  3. Demon Of Dreams

    Demon Of Dreams Feed me with lies and hate, and from that, I will

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    thing is... I've given up my past completely, I don't dwell on it, nor do I feel it necessary to bring the past back to the present ... I've dealt with it and moved on, and I've made some major strides as far as keeping my past in the past is concerned. I have no contact with any girl in my past, including a few past friends, which hurt me to do but I did it and continued onward.
     
  4. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    These people here have given you some clear advice, therefore if you see that this ship is heading towards the cliffs to crash, i suggest you jump out before its too late.

    His bad past are the rotten fruits of his behaviour, you have received many warning signs, however remember that love makes 'blind' i want you to open your eyes in this relationship and stop ignoring the facts and get out if its unhealthy, because he'll only drag you along in his dark mud pool of misery.
     
  5. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    All men suck
     
  6. DiggityDogg

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    PuppyCat, stupid comments like that are not helpful. If that is your true outlook on the situation then perhaps the problem does not lie with men, but with you.
     
  7. johan

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    She knows that, I think. She's just in a funk.
     
  8. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    You are right of course, I should not post inane comments about how I personally feel in the moment.

    I apologize if I have offended anyone.
     
  9. dave steel

    dave steel My Kung Fu is the best.

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    When people are married they build a foundation. The foundation may prove to be good or bad. You two aren't even married yet and you already have a foundational relationship that is ready to collapse. You know in your heart that this relationship is on a collision course for disaster. You need a fresh start, it isn't going to work with this guy.
     

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