Tobacco AND Kegels AND Sex

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  1. Abomb

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    Howdy Vag

    Been a little while since I have posted.... finally generated enough questions to warrant myself a post. (PS I am 20 and a sophomore in college)

    Here we go:

    I started using copehagen when I was about 15 and due to the nature of nicotine over the next 5 years my use of it went from casual to going through a can every 2-3 days. Realizing that this will obviously kill me, I have just quit a week ago and am trying to hold strong. My question about this "dipping", what negative sexual side effects have I most likely been experiencing as a result of this tobacco use? On top of that, if I stay true to my commitment about quitting, will all of the negative side effects leave?

    Question #2 :

    Kegels: I want to be able to last until I WANT to cum for oral and intercourse. If I practice kegels regularly, will I be able to achieve the stamina and control I desire? Are there any negatives to doing kegels? If kegels is definitely worth practicing, could someone please post a link to a *detailed* website that will explain everything I need to know to do kegels properly. Thank you in advance

    Question #3:

    Sex and relationships: I had been dating my ex girlfriend for about 3 years and from the start to finish have gone from practically tons of sex (oral/intercourse) to maybe just oral sex once a week at most.. She has been working about 40-50 hours a week (2 jobs) and I realize she has to be very tired. She never initiates any type of sex or ever seems in the mood to do anything while I am still very interested in sex with her. When I ask her for oral then if she doesnt feel like having sex with me she will usually get pissed off at me for asking. This situation had been going on for a month or two so i broke it off a week ago because I want to have sex more than once a week at most, and im not the cheating type, I am 20 for christsakes in my sexual prime is the way I view it. my question being: whats enough sex? whats too little sex? Was I right or wrong for breaking it up with this girl? I like her very much but I also feel like I want more sex than what I am currently getting..

    I know this was a long post guys but I tried to format it nicely. Thanks for the read.
     
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    Maybe this will help a little with question one. You are doing the exact right thing by quitting chewing tobacco. You are awesome, and I hope that you stay with it.
     
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    i dont know if there are any negative sexual side effects that come from dipping, tho it is unattractive and smells etc, but quitting is definatley good...its just a bad and nasty habbit..

    and for #3 id like to hear some responses as wel...my gf works a lot too and is always tired and we do something usually 1 time a week, whether its sex or oral or otherwise, sometimes its 2x usually 1..i always feel like i could go for more than that...im 21 and been with the girl for a year...dont really know what to do to change it tho...we talked about it a few times cuz i brought it up and then things changed for a little while, but were back to 1 time a week again...it sucks
     
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    Tobacco doesn't have any negative sexual side effects, The FAQ in this forum will describe kegals well enough (it's not rocket science), and anybody who has a lot of stress in their life will let it effect their sex life.

    If you want more sex, take away more of her stress...do things for her, set aside evenings focused on her, make dinner, offer massages, whatever will help her relax. Make sure she's got a whole evening free, set up a really nice bubble bath, and leave her to enjoy it. Come back in half an hour with other relaxing things, like massage, chocolate, whatever.

    good luck!
     
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    would dipping tobacco shrink blood vessels shrinking erections?

    will kegels be a solution to last longer in bed?

    i've gone from lots of sex in the past to none and i used to last a long time but now i am very unconfident in the sack
     
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    #1- I dont know(and searched) for any neg. side effects of quitting. Congrats. I am battling quittin smokin myself. Gone from a pack a day to 2 at night...Im gettin there.

    #2- My BF has taken advantage of kegels and let me tell you, he can hold his load til I say shoot. Be it an hour, 3 mins, etc. Cumming on command is wonderful thing. I would def. say invest in some readin on the subject. Check out the sticky at teh top of the page.

    #3- Tricky. Personally, sex is very important to me adn I need it whenever time allows. I see my BF only on weekends, so from the moment he wakes til the time we fall asleep, Im always tryin to "stock up". There was a time when my BF wasnt interested in sex, for 3 months, he has money issues, stress, depressed, you name it. I didnt get laid, at all, and rarely even any play. Coming from a highly sexual person....I didnt leave him. 1-I loved him, and 2- I knew it was a funk and he'd get out of it. We waited til we knew he could/wanted to/felt comfy with the notion, then began to fuck like rabbits again. I would say perhaphs you dont feel strongly enough for her, to leave her after only a month of little to no play. If you had great sex before, you can have great sex again. If she is not worth the potential wait, or if you feel that you are at teh point of possibly cheatin to get laid, then walk away. It would be best for both of you. BUT, if you stay....get some great lube, some filthy porn and hang in there, take it from me. Good luck.
     

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