To stay or not to stay?

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  1. Srdjan

    Srdjan Guest

    Backstory:

    Been seeing this girl for a couple months now (known her for a little longer, but I was involved with her friend at the time).

    I'm 21, she's 22. Everything was great at the start, no pressure, just having fun. We started sleeping together and still somehow managed to keep it fun and casual.

    Lately however, she hasn't been putting out as much as she used to (last time was 2 weeks ago). I bonded strongly with this girl, and we see each other basically every day since we both work for the college. We even did E at a festival together, which was awesome.

    Am I being selfish for wanting to "just be friends" again with her, since she's not taking care of my sexual needs? I make the moves and the plans, but either she gets tired and passes out from partying or something comes up.

    She does have some health issues which is why I let it slide the first week or so. But now, I don't see the point in being this thing in between - not exactly friends, but not exactly fuckbuddies/bf-gf either. We do makeout everyday, but where's the fun in that? We're not in highschool anymore.

    I did fuck up one night and told her that I loved her and would take care of her forever (sounded a lot better in my head). I guess she's getting comfortable now.

    Any advice appreciated.
     
  2. Dargone

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  3. Srdjan

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    :hsd:
     
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    i'd say it's too early to make a decision. see what happens :dunno:
     
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    If you just want to be friends with this girl, and you know that if you saw her with other people and it wouldn't bother you, then stick around and be friends.

    Otherwise cut off all contact.
     
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    you love her and will take care of her... so after you promised that she should put out why? :rofl:

    shot yourself in the foot, dude.
     
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    Friendzone her chief.
     
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    Let her know how you feel.
     
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    Cut her loose
     
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    whats the health issue?
     
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    I think the general rule is if you don't know whether or not to stay in a relationship, you should end it. There are certainly exceptions, but I think on the whole that's a pretty safe bet.
     
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  16. Ashley

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    you don't want to be bf-gf though? so just friends or fwb are the options?
     
  17. Srdjan

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    I don't want to be just friends with her, but if we're not sexing on the regular then that puts me in a very tight spot because I'll have to look elsewhere for it and I know that would hurt her.
     
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  18. Srdjan

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    Agreed. :hs:
     
  19. Srdjan

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    She had surgery that the doctors performed to check for ovarian cancer about a month ago, while I was in Europe. She was also born upside down, and that led to a plethora of problems ranging from her ankles being too weak to her body not producing enough calcium.
     
  20. Srdjan

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    That's what I'm leaning towards. But the way I feel towards her isn't the typical "omg-im-head-over-heels-luv-u-forever" love, it feels a lot more natural and I truly enjoy spending time with her and not feeling pressured.
     
  21. Srdjan

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    She got out of a relationship just before we started dating, which ended pretty badly. I wasn't looking for anything serious either so we both agreed to just go casual. If it ain't broke, why fix it? I don't think asking her to be my "official" gf will change her sexual attitude.
     
  22. outlaws

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    dont girls like being whores and have sex too
     
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    and the sex has been non-existent since then? cut her some slack or break it off completely. having ovarian cancer is a major thing and she is probably freaked out, not to mention possibly still healing from the surgery. if you cant support her and stick by her side through this, then do her the favor by breaking it off before you cheat on her
     
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    Getting pissed at a broad for health issues totally out of her control is dumb. If you can't handle it cut it off and move on.
     
  25. Srdjan

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    No, we actually had sex many times after her surgery, it just gradually faded away. She does keep going back to the doctor though, and doesn't like to talk about it. Whenever I prod her about it, she tells me she's 100% fine but now I'm starting to think she might be hiding something from me.
     
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