FRK To Much Porn

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  1. niSssEanR

    niSssEanR OT Supporter

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    Not sure where to post this, but i think people here would respond best.

    My g/f gets really really pissed when she finds out i have looked at porn on the comp.

    I really dont see why, when she will very rarely watch some with me and also we both have been to porn shops.

    She asked why i look at it, and i just say i dont know. It always seems like i have no reason, which i cant think of one besides i wanna nut. But, dont get me wrong, my gurl gets me to nut alot. So, its not lack of her.

    Does any one have some advice. or what to do.

    Also, i think i might be a lil addicted to porn. I will not look at it for a while, but then i just end up back at porn sites.

    Thanks to everyone in advance who has some suggestion. Thanks!
     
  2. ally

    ally awh kittah

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    Seems to me that she might be thinking that she isn't good enough for you (sexually)?

    I can understand how she might get upset if she thinks that you would rather look at porn than her. Even though this isn't the case and you find yourself attracted to her she might not feel that way?

    *shrug* just sounds like good ol' insecurities to me :hs:

    Try suggesting taking photos together? a possible movie? just something to show her how much you are into her? dunno man : / hope everything works out!
     
  3. niSssEanR

    niSssEanR OT Supporter

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    Just made a lil vid of us the other day.. pics have been done... I am very attracted to her... LOVE her with all my heart
     
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    have you talked to her about this and told her what you're telling us?
     
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  5. niSssEanR

    niSssEanR OT Supporter

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    Yes i have, more than once
     
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    talk to my wife....lol she used to get a bit annoyed at the porn...I think she doesn't mind as much anymore...I dunno...LOVELY???
     
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    There's no such thing as too much porn, only too little room on your hard drive.
     
  8. Lovely Atlantis

    Lovely Atlantis Luscious Lovely Lady!

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    ummm I don't really know what to say. It did bother me quite a bit at first... But I don't know what changed so that it doesn't bother me now. Maybe just him reassuring me of how much he loves me and how sexy he thinks I am and how he would choose me any day over one of those porn stars because of my personality and how he actually has a relationship with me. But mainly I think I just try to forget about it and pretend that he doesn't look at it or have it on there... ignorance is bliss
     
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    Thats funny...and i am gettin low..
     
  10. niSssEanR

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    I tell her i love her. and i also say, i guess its a lil fantasy... But everything i look at we do. Well somewhat..
     
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    Acesn8s The Deadman's Hand

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    Sometimes (okay, maybe a lot of times) guys just want to be selfish and rub one out in 5 minutes. It has nothing to due with being bored with our partners, we just have an itch to scratch and porn makes it easier.

    Or you could tell her your doing research for later. :dunno:
     
  12. niSssEanR

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    I dont want to lie to her, but i really dont have an answer for her when she does find out.
     
  13. Blair

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    look at it together?
     
  14. OoOlAlA

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    Well I dont have a problem with my boyfriend doing this, I do ask him why he jacks off so much though lol and he just simply says well because it feels good which should be enough. She probly does think that you enjoy looking at that more than her. If you are paying more attention to porn than her, then its probably a problem. Just like some girls watch chick flicks, kids watch cartoons, guys watch porn. Its normal to an extent. If you think you have a problem then cut back a little but if you think its being normal than continue as is. Just make sure your not neglecting her and make sure she knows that she pleases you more than these films.
     
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    Well, the problem she has with it is probably that you're looking, in a sexual way, and getting off on other women and what fantasies you may or may not have about them. And she probably feels like you shouldn't be looking at anybody but her in that sexual/lustful way. Even though it seems entirely different and seperate for you, she'll have trouble seeing the difference. If my boyfriend were into that sort of thing, I know I would have trouble with it and be a bit unnerved as well.

    I don't think it's so much of an insecurity thinking you want to cheat on her, but rather that when you're.. pleasing yourself... to images of other women, it scares her that you're not thinking of her instead. Because when she does it, she's probably thinking of you.

    My advice would be unsavory (stop looking at it) but that's just a female's perspective and I guess if a guy has a need to look "around" I suppose he has to. But the best thing to do would be to keep lines of communication open, so she knows you do it, and what you think about when you do, so you're not sneaking around or feel any guilt from it.
     
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    my lady d/l more porn then i do lol ..I asked her if it was a tool for her 'alone' time.. and she said she finds most of it funny, but she likes to imagine us in the scenarios.. :woot:
     
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    I like to look at it more than the hubby, but as long as he was being open with me about it... I could live with it. I assume she isn't worried about kids finding it?
     
  18. The Secretary

    The Secretary My domestic skills will rock your socks off!

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    Well while I dont like the idea of my bf surfing the net for porn. I do however have made enough naughty pics and a couple of short 2 min vids for him to have when he wants to rub one out without me. Which unfortunatley now is becoming I think a little bit more than often.

    I wish I could give you some advice other than to talk to her about her issue with it. For myself I know that there are prettier girls than me out there. But my bf is able to show me that he desires only me and wants to be with no one else.
     
  19. The Fugue

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    Its strange, my SO and I watch porn together, or we did before we had our son.

    I really dont think she is into me dling porn on the net, she knows I do it, but doesnt really care too much I suppose.

    She knows I am ridculously insatiable though, and knows she/we cant keep up with my sex drive.
     

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