SRS to friendzone, or not to friendzone?

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  1. big 1

    big 1 New Member

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    Ive been "online dating" this guy for a few weeks now. We "meet" online at specific times and chat for hours. I want to meet him in person because he sounds really nice. We have alot in common. I am hesitant to tell my friends about my "online bf" because none of my friends have tried online dating. He asks me things like what i want in a partner, and hes flirty with me, buit hes also educated and sweet.
    He has a job that he works 4 days on, 4 days off and so sometimes he is sporadically online/offline. I want to continute our realitonship further, but if hes not really online unless we "plan" to chat, there isnt much opportunity for me to "ask him" out.
    1. Should i just friendzone him and move on, cus online dating is unconventional?
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    2. should I casually ask him for us to meet in person? if so, what do i say?

    PS. im a female and ive never met a guy from offline, and ive never had to "ask a guy out" that ive never met???
     
  2. SovietRussia

    SovietRussia What? You pooped in the refrigerator? OT Supporter

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    ill put it this way to answer part of your question. if it werent for aggressive girls, i would never have had sex, and maybe never had a girlfriend. :o
     
  3. dave steel

    dave steel My Kung Fu is the best.

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    big1, meet him as a friend for now. generally online expectations aren't realistic, but one never knows. I wouldn't tell anyone until you see what comes of it.
     
  4. big 1

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    I think you should give your ex a real chance. He seems like he really loves you and although he fucked up in the past, he wants to make it up to you :bowdown: :wiggle: :hsd:
     
  5. OhFourTwoThree

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    You don't have anything to lose. Who cares what your friend thinks. I would joke around about it to see what he says...if he seems open to the idea, I would be straightforward and ask if he wants to meet up for lunch/drinks/dinner/whatever.
     
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    go for it. meet up with him. won't hurt.
     
  7. big 1

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    :) :eek3d: okay im asking him
     
  8. SovietRussia

    SovietRussia What? You pooped in the refrigerator? OT Supporter

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    huh??
     
  9. SovietRussia

    SovietRussia What? You pooped in the refrigerator? OT Supporter

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    DOOOOO EEEEETt!!!!
     
  10. teo

    teo . => ? => !

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    The girl and her ex (or maybe it's the guy and his ex) both use the big 1 account to post on OT. Why they don't get separate accounts - especially now, since they've broken up - is beyond me. You two realize it's free to sign up and that you're confusing people with the status quo, right? Why not send Fazle an email and have him push a new account for one of you through initiation?

    With respect to online dating, if you do meet in person play it safe and meet somewhere public and populated, like a coffee shop. There's no reason to friendzone *just* because you met him online.
     
  11. big 1

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    okie i asked him out... were going out this weekend!:)
    and yea im looking into changing my account....my ex boyfriend can keep this account.
     

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