I'll describe the situation and then pose the request. Any responses that do not relate to the request will be ignored. Relationship status: my gf of 7.5 months is now a freshman at a college 6 hours from mine. She and I are now seeing people, as opposed to being bf/gf. This redefinition means that in addition to whoever else, we also each happen to be seeing each other. The seriousness of the relationship has thus been lightened. Visits are logistically possible once in a while. Maybe once a month. Phone conversation is almost always logistically possible on a daily basis. Agreements: We are dating and hooking up with people in our particular colleges if so desired. Neither of us is obliged to "report back" to the other. Similarly, neither of us is forbidden to ask about current romantic or sexual interests - but neither of us is obliged to answer. We have a trip to Jamaica planned in January, which is about 4.5 months from now. Edit: Additionally, neither of us intends to seek a committed relationship in the next few months with other people, although the possibility is of course there. I want to be able to reconnect when that time comes. Does anyone have any tips on how to make this happen? Again, "dump that bitch," "it's doomed," "why spend energy on one person," and other similar responses will be ignored. If you wish to express yourself despite this fact then suit yourself.