Tips for female masturbation?

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  1. Dont Go Away

    Dont Go Away New Member

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    I love doing the whole mutual masturbation thing with my boyfriend, I get off almost every time. When I'm alone however, it's very much harder to finish...it almost never happens. I have a vibrator and sometimes even that doesn't work when I'm alone. So do any women in here have any tips/tricks about how to get off?
     
  2. lauren

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    could be a horemonal thing. also, you probably aren naturally aurosed like you are with the boy.

    im taking zoloft right now, and find it next to impossible to climax, even by myself. i just give up bc its too much work. the boy is putting in overtime for me right now. you taking any med? that can hinder.
     
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    Zemo n00b of the year

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    Dude here, but a knowledgable one....

    It surprises me how often women don't understand their own bodies and emotions. As I'm sure you're aware, girls take an emotional stimulation in additional to physical, generally, to climax. but too often, masturbation isn't seen as an emotional engagement, and so you're missing a portion of what you need. Try setting the mood...take a nice long warm shower or bath, indulge in your favorite food...don't know what your living arrangements are, but lounge around in your undies/robe...be comfortable.

    Then, when the mood strikes, let your hands do the walking. explore yourself...it's not dirty or wrong, so whatever you do, don't turn yourself off by thinking so. Many women find it easiest to climax from direct clitoral stimulation, so try that. Use lube if you need do, and use a sensative and fast motion..light....right on your clit. Of course, try different things...more pressure, slower, faster, circles, lines, whatever, and find what you like best. Use your other hand to spread your outer labia, and pull up towards your belly button. This pulls back the clitoral hood, allowing for more direct stimulation. When using the vibe, spread in the same manner, so the vibe comes in direct contact.

    If you have a dildo or something long and preferably arched, you can try for self g-spot stimulation. knees up, feet flat; this shortens the vaginal canal, making things more accessible. Press your toy into the front (bellybutton side) of your vaginal wall....with LOTS of pressure. Move it very slowly back and forth and try to find where it feels best. It's a lot easier for a guy to find the right spot, but you can do it on your own too.

    The biggest thing is that you can experiment, try all kinds of things, and find out what feels best to you.

    And most of all, enjoy it! That's the best part.

    Thought just crossed my mind....depends on how comfy you are with your guy, but have him watch....just watch, no touching. That might get your emotional mojo working, possibly overtime, and you should be able to climax from that....just a thought.
     
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    I personally can't think of anything hotter than watching my gf masturbate. Not sure if "being" watched would have the same effect on you though. But it would be worth a shot. The act of being watched might further enhance the eperience when you're alone.
     
  5. Crystal80

    Crystal80 Guest

    Sometimes it's easier said then done having bf watching you masterbate. If you are insecure with the feelings your bf has for you or if you are worried he will be looking at your 'fat' or 'stretchmarks' you will not enjoy masterbating as much. You will be worried more about if he is watching you or looking at you.

    I enjoy masterbating with my SO watching. I know it turns him on. Usually it turns into a mutual masterbation session. I love when I can make him hard and see how turned on he is. If he isn't in the 'mood' I usually start rubbing my clit and a slight moan here and there and I have his full attention.

    Just enjoy it.
     
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    Dealing with a females' insecurities is a whole other topic, but know this; if you're naked and touching yourself, we aren't scanning your body for imperfections ;) But yes, I understand how a bad self-image would hinder your ability to strip and masturbate for anyone, be it a bf or husband.
     
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    bad self image is a big issue.....which sucks sometimes.
     
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    It sucks ALL THE TIME! :) I've got a HOT gf, not just by my standards, but every guy that's ever met her; but she has such a bad self-image that she's uncomfortable even in a bikini.

    Anyway, none of this is really helping super_freak87 with her problem of getting off on her own. Have you tried pornography? It might sound "dirty" depending on your own background, but porn can definitely help you get more in the mood. Try masturbating near an open window where someone "might" see you. You might just have to think "out of the box" (no pun intended).
     
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    Haha, I live with my grandparents and my dad and they are almost always home...so I don't have much freedom in my own house. I tried again last night but I was also afraid of making too much noise as my dad was in the room next to mine...:ugh:
     
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    Take a horny mood (porn, toys, whatever you like best) and make sure you massage enough to get alot of bloodflow to your clit.
    Then, if you're like me..Insert, & push up on your g-spot a few times, & ooooh yessss...

    ...Shit, just read your last post in here...Looks like you need to find some "free" freaky time.
     
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    I know what you mean. I lived with my aunt for a few years and it was tough staying quiet during my "personal time". Try the shower maybe. I ended up jerking off in the shower a lot, as no one thought anything of me taking a long hot shower.
     
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    Hehe, you people are great.
     
  13. DesignerAddic71

    DesignerAddic71 RIP Luther Vandross 1951-2005

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    werd on the shower suggestion. if u have one of those shower heads that isnt attached directly to the wall (i know there is a name for them, i just cant think of it right now), put the water to a pulsating pace and put that between ur legs. the sensation is pretty damn good.

    i also watch porn when i need to get off, but from the sounds of it that isnt a real good option for you. just fantasize about all the things you want done to you (or all the things you want to do to others) and you should be fine.

    but the shower def sounds like ur best bet
     
  14. Let me tell you this and think about it before you go "no way". I got my clitoral hood pierced, and the ball on the barbell that is located right over the clit, combined with my vibrator is great. You will never know a better climax than that. It will hurt for one second, just long enough for the needle to go through sensitive tissue. But as god is my witness, it does not hurt afterward. Walking is great if you are ultrasensitive, but sex is greatly more heightened. Trust me. I had to take mine out for surgery, but am soon to get it redone as soon as the area heals.
     
  15. Amen to the shower head and the clitoral piercing.
     
  16. Valdeezy

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    everyone gots somthin like that in some shape errr form.
     
  17. SkyLeach

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    If you don't feel like you need to do it, why do it? If you feel like you need to do it, call your boyfriend. If your boyfriend can't help you do it and you have to do it yourself... perhaps you need to look a bit further than sex and find the true source of gratification.
     

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