FRK Threesomes in a relationship

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  1. Savage

    Savage New Member

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    My gf and I are both very sexually open-minded and we are always looking for new and fun things. She has brought up the possibility of another girl, and believe it or not, I'm the one that is somewhat against it. I've known of many relationships that have failed with a third person involved. Whether the relationship was in trouble before that or if the second party was the cause, I don't know.

    Does anyone have any positive experience to share? Suggestions?
     
  2. RougeOgre

    RougeOgre FS Librarian and MOD

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    There are lots of older threads on this subject. The main theme is : Talk everthing out first! Set ground rule and expectations from the very beginning. I personally, love them (mine are more often a combination of FMF) and have had no problems.
     
  3. PocoDiablo

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    Yeah, set the ground rules.

    I like to point out that every relatioship I've been in which invovled threesomes have failed.

    But every relationship that I have been in WITHOUT a threesome has also failed. :rofl:

    Me, now, sure I'll do it. One thing I have learned, however, is to let the lady and whoever else play first, and only join in once invited.

    Set ground rules, and consider not doing it in your bed. Maybe in the living room, get a hotel, something like that so that your bed is always "yours."
     
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    XTaInTeDXRuCaX New Member

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    I have never had a problem with a 3 sum in the relay. Just it can cause some fighting if you dont talk it over! :rolleyes: So you want to talk about it. But We have our first 3 sum about 2 years ago and we are still good, and still doing it. *this is a womens point of veiw on the Topic* lol It will be fun if you both know the bounderies.
     
  5. beautiful disaster

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    i'm scared to have one with my current SO... i think i would cry watching him with another female.

    i have had one before...but my ex made me because he was an physically/verbally/sexually abusing asshole. so needless to say i didn't enjoy it. i felt violated, raped, etc

    but if you both feel comfortable doin so, like everyone else said...set ground rules. maybe doing so with someone you don't know as well as some others... for me, i'd be afraid my relationship with said person would get weird...i dunno.

    i'm rambling lol
     
  6. MissKitty

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    I couldn't do it but it would be due to the kind of personality I am.

    You need to set rules and make sure everyone agrees with them. A threesome is no time to play coy or to give in to please the other person. You both have to be brutally honest with each other and if someone isn't 100% comfortable then it shouldn't be done.
     
  7. Savage

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    Yeah, I think we'll just leave it as a fantasy for now. We talked about it and she isn't sure how she would feel about me being with another chick, and then I asked if she just wanted to fool around with another girl, and of that she wasn't even sure, and we both pretty much realized it was fun to think about but not pursue for now.

    Perhaps we'll do it if we're still together way down the line and are tired of fucking each other, haha.
     
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    First of all, what that heck is that in your av? That's just nasty. :mamoru:

    Secondly.. why is your SO suggesting a threesome if she isn't sure how she would feel about you being with another chick, and if she doesn't really want to fool around with another chick? Is she just trying to play mind games and see what you would say or what? Not trying to be rude or anything. It just seems wierd.

    Oh wait... do you think she wants a MMF?

    Lastly, don't have a threesome because you are tired of fucking one another. That's the very last reason you would do a threesome with someone you are in a relationship with. That will be a surefire way to snap that relationship right in half.
     
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    :bowrofl: Hehehahaha that's funny and cute.

    These are really good pieces of advice :)
     
  10. Savage

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    I'm assuming you're talking about my old AV, haha. And that's a secret. ;)

    She's not playing mind games, I'm not reading that from her. What I'm thinking is more like curiousity mixed with uncertainty. And that's what I am feeling as well.
     
  11. NCS

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    my gf is very attatched to me and slightly curious about girls... it will take the right girl to make her even think about a 3some. but she doesnt want to "share" me. has anyone been in this situation before and what have you done?

    im wondering if asking her to do a girl/girl and just have me watch would be a good baby step
     
  12. naughtie

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    That would be the perfect next step! And when you talk to her about it... here are a couple of suggestions that might help her be more open to it...

    Kind of start fantasizing about it and tell her what about it will turn you on that focus on her like

    "Mmm. Just thinking about another woman pleasuring you makes my cock rock hard.''

    "I would love to watch you and another girl play with each other. Imagining the smile on your face as she sucks gently on your nipples makes me want to take you right now."

    "I would love to be part of your first experience with a woman. Just watching you with your legs spread out, and her moaning into your pussy with her ass up in the air... I would die from happiness."

    etc. That way she will know that it's all about her.
     
  13. naughtie

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    Yes. I was talking about your old av. Hehehe.

    And read my last post in this thread... you could also try that. Maybe that could help open up the doors
     
  14. Savage

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    This strikes me as being borderling manipulative.
     
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    Only if she REALLY didn't want to do it. Otherwise, it's encouragement!
     
  16. Cobber

    Cobber Wanna touch my bunny hole?

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    Maybe I'm the only one who thinks this way but ...


    Me, being a guy, would not last 30 seconds in the sac with 2 chicks. They'd get nakid and I'd blast all over myself thus ending the night.:hs:
     
  17. naughtie

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    Huh. You know I never thought of it that way. I guess it just depends on the person who is saying it. If you know them and trust them and love them, then it's innocent foreplay.

    If it's somebody who you know has a history of using you and wanting what is best for them, then maybe it could be seen as manipulation.

    I know that I am always asking aphoric to whisper naughty threesome things in my ear while we are doing the dirty.

    :dunno: I guess it just depends on who it is coming from eh?
    Yeah, that too
     
  18. Savage

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    I am very aware of how charming and influential I can be, and one of my fears is that I take it to far and use it in a bad way, so I am very careful about doing things like this with people I care about :hs:
     
  19. naughtie

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    Well in that case... :bowdown: It takes a mature person to know themselves that well and to not abuse such power.
     
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    Youre underestimating yourself if you think you can only cum once a day. :nono:
     
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    Learn how to pinch it off so you don't cum and you can go and go and go.... :naughty:
     
  22. Esp69st

    Esp69st Who's talking about OIL... bitch you cooking

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    just like every guys fanstasy I want to have a 3sum as well.. but in the other hand I not interested in having sex with the other chick. maybe oral and alot of touching, I just want to see my SO go at it.
     
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    blablamaniuplationblabla . everyone is a master of their own decisions, manipulation does not exist.
     
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    My girl and I have talked this over in the last few months. We've been together for almost a year at that point and it just kind of came up. She said some female celeb on TV was hot and I make the joke that all women would be willing to do another. She then came right out and said that she would. Of course this lead to talking about a threesome.

    She has one friend that she works with that she would be willing to do it with and knows would be willing to join us, problem is, she is scared of watching me with another woman. At this point we're just leaving it out there as something for the future. After watching some hot strap-on porn, she's more willing to have a FF (M watching) type deal.

    The main point that I make to her everytime this comes up is that for men, it's just the sex act. Women become "attached" with a guy once they make love so watching him with another woman gives them the instant feeling of loosing the guy to the other woman. Because of this, one of our simple ground rules is that there would be no kissing between myself and the other woman. Another one in the works is that my girl would "control" my actions towards the other girl. Kind of a "Put your penis in her and thrust like a beast" or "Allow her to suck you off", etc. Allowing her to have the control over what I'll be doing makes her feel like we're still connected as a pair, I'll just be an extension of sorts.
     
  25. Savage

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    lol
     

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