thoughts on this breakup

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  1. purebad

    purebad I don't need your approval, right?

    Aug 25, 2006
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    Smyrna, GA
    preface: we had known each other since 7th grade, I moved away in 9th, and am still in a different state, I went to see her for new years are we started to date:

    after I went up for my spring break she cut it short because she was sick, after I returned home, she said she couldnt do this anymore because of the distance, and she thought we were going different ways in life, which I took to mean locationally.... a few weeks later we chatted up.

    chat log is in the format of : who sent it to whom:

    3/30/2007 8:10:33 PM Her Me hey
    3/30/2007 8:13:48 PM Me Her hi
    3/30/2007 8:15:00 PM Her Me i got your voicemail yesterday
    3/30/2007 8:15:12 PM Her Me sorry i was sooooo swamped with school work all week
    3/30/2007 8:15:25 PM Me Her i see, thats ok
    3/30/2007 8:15:30 PM Her Me so whats up
    3/30/2007 8:15:35 PM Her Me you said that you wanted to talk
    3/30/2007 8:15:51 PM Me Her well yeah
    3/30/2007 8:16:02 PM Me Her this past week had been really hard
    3/30/2007 8:16:13 PM Me Her I guess I hit the wall
    3/30/2007 8:16:18 PM Her Me what do you mean
    3/30/2007 8:16:44 PM Me Her missing you, and not being able to go an hour without thinking about you
    3/30/2007 8:18:12 PM Her Me all of a sudden this week?
    3/30/2007 8:18:25 PM Me Her well it had been building
    3/30/2007 8:18:49 PM Me Her I think it is because I never really said much back when you talked to me on the computer after I left
    3/30/2007 8:19:11 PM Me Her because I didnt know how I really felt, and after a week I was better knowing how I felt
    3/30/2007 8:19:36 PM Me Her and it was eating me up not having said anything at that time
    3/30/2007 8:20:33 PM Me Her so I just wanted to say that it might be too hard for you to do the long distance thing, but its equally hard for me to not be able to talk to you like I used to
    3/30/2007 8:21:30 PM Her Me i dont know whta you want me to say
    3/30/2007 8:21:40 PM Me Her i dotn want you to say anything
    3/30/2007 8:22:38 PM Me Her I just wanted you to know thats how I feel, and that I did want to fight you, but I felt like I should respect how you felt
    3/30/2007 8:25:34 PM Her Me i think that it is good that respected me bc things wouldnt changed and fighting me wouldnt have helped
    3/30/2007 8:29:42 PM Me Her i see
    3/30/2007 8:32:06 PM Me Her so the distance was the only thing right?
    3/30/2007 8:32:57 PM Her Me well it was at the time
    3/30/2007 8:33:41 PM Me Her does that mean something else came up?
    3/30/2007 8:39:45 PM Her Me well thats not really important
    3/30/2007 8:39:54 PM Her Me things just would not have worked out with uus
    3/30/2007 8:42:15 PM Me Her soley based on location? if you dont want to tell me thats fine
    3/30/2007 8:42:37 PM Her Me there were other factors too that are not important, distance was a HUGE factor
    3/30/2007 8:45:06 PM Me Her other factors between us, or of just one of us
    3/30/2007 8:45:15 PM Me Her im sorry, but curiousity has me
    3/30/2007 8:47:07 PM Her Me here is the thing, i think that while things were good for awhile, i got bored with the relationship, the distance was too much and i didnt want to deal with it and i just felt like we were clicking, i mean i didnt feel comfortable around you and i felt like you were uncomfortable around me as well, so those being the main things that is why it wasnt working out
    3/30/2007 8:47:19 PM Her Me werent clicking*
    3/30/2007 8:47:49 PM Me Her well, the only time I felt that way was the last weekend
    3/30/2007 8:48:01 PM Me Her and I chalked that up to your sickness
    3/30/2007 8:49:07 PM Me Her I guess I dont understand how you could feel the way you just said, but while you were here, say you think you are falling in love
    3/30/2007 8:50:47 PM Me Her and if thats the case then you surely didnt just realize it after dropping me off at the airport
    3/30/2007 8:50:53 PM Me Her like you said
    3/30/2007 8:51:39 PM Her Me right and i understand where you could be confused, the thing is that the beginning of the relationship is always happy go lucky and i think that that can blindfold pepole to what the realtionship will really be like and after awhile i lost interest bc we are just too different, you are still figuring out who you are and what you want
    3/30/2007 8:52:04 PM Her Me you are still trying to figure out the whole relationship concept and i am past that, i think that we are just at different parts of our lives
    3/30/2007 8:52:10 PM Her Me and that created conflict
    3/30/2007 8:52:24 PM Me Her wow....I guess I was completly on the wrong level
    3/30/2007 8:52:37 PM Her Me and i shouldnt have said that i was fallign for you that soon bc maybe i was being too hopeful
    3/30/2007 8:53:06 PM Me Her well I will tell you right now I was going to tell you I was ATLEAST in love with you
    3/30/2007 8:53:15 PM Me Her but apparently that isnt how it is from your end
    3/30/2007 8:53:32 PM Me Her thats what I really wanted to talk about
    3/30/2007 8:54:58 PM Her Me its hard for you to say that you are really in love bc we only knew each other for a month and you have never been in a realtionship or kissed someone or had sex so it is normal to feel strong feelings but i think htat it wouldve been very hard to fall in love, real love, that quickly
    3/30/2007 8:55:33 PM Me Her hard is not impossible.
    3/30/2007 8:56:19 PM Me Her I guess it isnt love then that makes me not want to look at another girl because she isnt you
    3/30/2007 8:56:37 PM Me Her that wont let me go an hour without thinking about
    3/30/2007 8:57:12 PM Me Her was I afraid to say it, sure, I think the worst thing you can do is say it and not mean it
    3/30/2007 8:57:13 PM Her Me im sorry that you feel that way, it will get better i can promise you that
    3/30/2007 8:57:28 PM Her Me that is why i didnt say it
    3/30/2007 8:57:35 PM Me Her oh thats not fair
    3/30/2007 8:57:41 PM Me Her you might as well have
    3/30/2007 8:57:51 PM Her Me but i didnt
    3/30/2007 8:58:58 PM Her Me i dont what else i can say
    3/30/2007 8:59:17 PM Me Her well looking at what you just told me, im completly blindsided
    3/30/2007 8:59:43 PM Me Her like I had no idea
    3/30/2007 8:59:52 PM Me Her this whole time I thought you were hurting as bad as I was
    3/30/2007 9:00:01 PM Her Me how can you be, i mean we broke up a month ago,, i mean how can you think that things are still the way that they were
    3/30/2007 9:00:07 PM Me Her I dont
    3/30/2007 9:00:33 PM Me Her excuse me, I think I need to go drink even more alcohol
    3/30/2007 9:00:55 PM Her Me yes bc that will solve all of your problems
    3/30/2007 9:01:11 PM Me Her well im sorry, but im feeling pretty shitty right now
    3/30/2007 9:01:24 PM Her Me well i am sorry that you are feeling that way
    3/30/2007 9:01:25 PM Me Her and I was looking for some comfort from you, but I didnt find much :(
    3/30/2007 9:04:38 PM Her Me im sorry
    3/30/2007 9:14:49 PM Me Her well from my view I feel like you just led me on, and Im curious about these differences, the only ones I had noticed were eating habits...
    3/30/2007 9:16:38 PM Me Her im also curious when you noticed it wouldnt work
  2. bs2100

    bs2100 New Member

    Jan 2, 2007
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    You really need to just drop it and move on. She's expressed that it's over, so that's it. Dwelling on it even more will just annoy and anger you more.
  3. otherlank

    otherlank New Member OT Supporter

    Oct 11, 2006
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