Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by Rellik, Apr 16, 2010.
how true no personal experience with the last part tho
If you want a SUCCESSFUL relationship you shouldn't approach it from the standpoint of hiding things from your partner.
If you're hiding disappointment in a relationship then I would say you jumped into a relationship too early before you or the other person was ready. And the last part makes no fucking sense.
I think you pulled a quote from some Hollywood movie that was made up to sound good intelligent, but really isn't...
I know some people hide their true selves when they first meet people... I never do, anyone who meets me gets the real thing from the beginning.
While these shouldn't be standards or goals, I think a large number of people live their lives like this (regardless of their intent).
yail boores quote more or less, women come to the first date with dyed hair, extended eyelashes, makeup covering their blemishes, wonderbra shoving the tiny floppy tits into awesome cleavage, etc..... then complain because the guy isn't honest.
Disagree entirely. Sure there are people like that, but I sure as Hell wouldn't say that's what all relationships are like. If your relationships are all like that then I'd tell you to take a long, hard look at yourself and figure out why that is.
its pretty self loathing
Whose ass are you trying to blow this smoke up?
You don't try to make the best first impression on a first date? Show you best side? Put your best foot forward? etc
exactly. everyone does this. to what degree is the important thing.
sure.. also brings in the issue of reachers/settlers that was in another thread here I think... people are rarely equal, one persons usually in a relationship above their station, one person is usually settling... both have reasons to be disappointed in the situation
what about actually getting your shit together to the point where you don't have any glarring flaws?
The only thing i think I hide for a while is the fact that I hate children. Other than that, I'm happy to put the real me out there.
I don't try to hide any part of my personality, but I definitely try to lead with the best side of my personality.
It's like a job interview, you don't go in saying you might surf offtopic now and then, and take the odd smoke break. You explain why hiring you would be the best choice they could make. That's not lying, or trying to hide anything, it's just showing the best possible side of you.
not quite... Honestly, im not the best employee. I'm a pretty dope boyfriend so i can be honest about that.
I see where you're going with this... but think of it this way:
If you're not the best employee, but are going out for a job and you lie about how good of an employee you are to get hired, they'll eventually figure out you lied and fire your ass.
By the same token, if you're not the best boyfriend, but are going out with a girl and you lie about how you are as a boyfriend to get her to be your girlfriend, she'll eventually figure out you lied and dump your ass.
Hence why it pays not to hide things. Granted, the fact that you don't mention your flaws right up front in either case could be termed a lie of omission, but still you don't go into an interview (for example) saying "I never take breaks or do personal business while on the clock" if you know that's not what will actually happen once you have the job.
forgive me father for I have sinned....
The only person who voted yes was the thread starter, haha.
I actually thought it was a good quote
i never voted, asshole
At one time I might have agreed but now I will say that's for people who are content with never being completely happy.
Yeah, that's the part that gets me every time.