SRS This girl....

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  1. shawshank

    shawshank New Member

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    I am having trouble with this girl I know who has a pretty big thing for me. We go to college together and have hooked up quiet a few times. I am pretty sure she wants to start dating. The thing is I am not clicking with her.

    She is a great person, very smart and intersting, but I just dont feel a click that I have felt with other girls.

    I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice on how to tell her I just wana be friends. I really dont want her to run home crying but I also dont want to be in this postion anymore.
     
  2. gkremian

    gkremian New Member

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    IMO: bite the bullet and tell you you may not feel the same way that she does. It's the only thing that will work.
     
  3. Isaac

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    There's really no way out of it but to say so. If I were you I'd say the friendship works a lot better than a relationship would, and you'd be ruining a good thing if you did that. At that point it's not really the coolest thing to keep having sex though.
     
  4. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    I've been in that situation before. I told the girl that "I wasn't ready for a relationship right now because I was busy with work (new job) and I had just gotten out of another long term relationship (which was true) and blah blah blah excuse." Had I clicked with her better, I would have wanted to persue a relationship.

    Most evidence to support that "I'm not ready for a relationship right now" really means "I don't want a relationship with YOU right now."
     
  5. civicmon

    civicmon got all my game from the streets of california.

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    agreed, you have no choice right now.

    Better now than never man.
     

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