SRS This girl......ugh.....

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  1. rebel

    rebel Manchester United > All

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    Ok first of all background on her, 6 months ago we were kind of "talking." She had broken up with her ex-boyfriend and I met her a week after and we hit it off. Went on a date and that went insanely well. Somehow things didn't work out, we quit talking for about 6 months. About a week or two ago she calls me up out of the blue and we start talking off and on calling each other back. Anyways 3 days ago or so I took her to this really badass party and stuff and we got drunk, she was all over me. Wouldn't even leave my side constantly hitting on me, hugging me etc. When other guys would try to flirt with her or what not she would shut them down and come back to me. Later than night when she was leaving I walked her to her car and was talking to her with the window rolled down and she was kissing my hand and looking at me and stuff. All body language signs that shows she likes me. So yesterday, I come home from work and get a phonecall from her.

    Her: What are you doing tonight?
    Me: No idea.... All of my friends have to work
    Her: I don't have to work.........
    Me: Alright, let me take a shower and I'll come pick u up I'll take you somewhere its a surprise.

    Anyways, she got all excited and was like omg u already know were you are going to take me blah blah. Anyways, I took her to starbucks ( she loves that place). On the drive over there she was still hitting on me alot and always close to me, body language signs i noticed. Anyways, I took her to the beach since it was like 10:00 or so and we were laying on my hood and she was pulling the I'm cold bullshit, yea I went for it. Anyways, somehow she had this great idea to get in our underwear and go swimming, so we did. Then she had another great idea to go back to the car to "dry off." So I'm thinkin alright, time to get laid or something. Anyways, we get in the car and it's really quiet and I asked her straight up if she was attracted to me. She replied with Yes I am alot, when we go out your the most badass and fun person to hang out with we do the coolest things and your so cute. Thats why I really want to be good friends with you. WTF :Owned: how the fuck? Ugh. Anyways, I was kinda quiet after that, kinda mad, I don't usually do shit like this for girls I'm normally an asshole. So she starts kind of noticeing that and asking me if I'm mad and I just tell her no. Somehow we got into some drama stuff that happened to her awhile back and she got all worked up about it and I think might of cried about remembering what had happened (apparently some guy took advantage of her :dunno:).

    Anyways, fastforward to this morning. She calls me up and says she just woke up and wanted to talk to me. Said she was sorry for how she acted last night and she wasn't mad and wants to hang out again sometime.

    Any ideas? What the hell do I do? I actually like her :(
     
  2. Peyomp

    Peyomp New Member

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    Wait and see. Issues, but maybe worth it. If the friend thing sticks... involvement with her will cause you both nothing but anxiety. Unless its with benefits. Actually, offer that to her... friends with benefits. Depends on how you feel.

    Look at the thread I just posted about the brain studies :)
     
  3. johan

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    Play much football?

    Next time you're running full speed downfield, and look up and see that hail mary pass sailing over your shoulder, do you stop running and stand there admiring it?

    No, you keep running, and stretch out your arms and catch it just as you're falling into the end zone.
     
  4. rebel

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    I can't tell if your saying move on and get another girl or keep trying with her. She's so fucking beautifull too.
     
  5. johan

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    Don't ask if she's attracted to you. She was saying that with her body.

    Next time you're in that situation where you and a girl are in your underwear, and you're both kissing and petting, don't stop like a deer in the headlights and ask if she likes you.

    Keep going until you're in the endzone. If she says NO, then STOP.

    Otherwise, read her body language. You're not disrespecting her by wanting her, given that she appears to be really into you.
    You want her. She wants you. Make the move.

    Call her and set something up for Friday night.
     
  6. veonake

    veonake OnT poster, OT lurker

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    Yep, your mistake was asking if she was into you. Just go for it.
     
  7. rebel

    rebel Manchester United > All

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    See thats the thing, she was into me the whole time, then once we got into the car and were in a position to do something, there was like no flirting, no body language no nothing, it was awkward as fuck. She wasn't doing anything. I don't know what to do now. I called her today and asked if she wanted to do something tonight, she said she was going to the mall but would call me if she had time after. No phonecall yet :dunno:. She quit iming me on aim, she used to im me instantly. I'm not sure if we are still going to a party tmw or not. Any ideas?
     
  8. the ground folds

    the ground folds rest your trigger on my finger

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    let her come to you. if you make yourself too easy for her she will be turned off.
     
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    Go with what Peyomp said and ask if she wants to be FWB.
     
  10. adam007

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    ignore her and she will come.then you will come.etc
     
  11. the ground folds

    the ground folds rest your trigger on my finger

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  12. Peyomp

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    I agree. Ignore her for a week, if you don't go to the party. Then invite her for lunch, or something. Then some anal stroking in Einstein's bathroom.
     
  13. rebel

    rebel Manchester United > All

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    Alright I'm just not going to call her till next week, then I'll ask her to do something.
     
  14. chica&buddies

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    :mad: grr.... i wish guys didn't act this way. :sad2: i know, i know... i don't act like the other girls, but it still sucks having to play these stupid games because of the vast majority :rolleyes:.

    to be honest, some girls would love to be friends with a guy before dating them. i'm one of them. in fact, all the guys that i've dated/been with have been friends prior. :dunno: i seem to become more infatuated with people the more time i get to know them. :) the littlest things will turn me on. that said, technically you're not out... yet ;)

    if it's hard for you to communicate (which doesn't seem to be the case)... but you can't seem to get the reaction out of the girl that you were looking for, actions sometimes speak louder. :rofl: what johan tried to depict was you actually going for you want in order to see if it's obtainable. now, 99.9999% of the time i don't give out this "advice" because of those out there that abuse it. :slap: don't do that to someone you have no interest in besides the fact that you have this undeniable urge to get laid. i'm sorry, but NO... the end does not justify the means. :nono: /rant :o...

    anyways... if going for a kiss (or more, what have you) is what you want, try it. what's cool with this method is that either way you can communicate about the actions immediately after. :mamoru: i had sex with a guy and immediately it spawned the idea (from him) of us pursuing an exclusive relationship. :)
     
  15. Peyomp

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    He's going to a party with her this weekend. HE SHOULD GO. He should hit that shit.

    But if she backs off... then so should he.

    The Tao of Steve tells us that in order to win a Woman's heart you must Display excellence, and then pull away.
     
  16. Toasty

    Toasty Naked people have little or no influence on societ

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    grrr....you know guys to through these complex rituals because of the mind games played by girls right? :)

    It's Nature 101....one day we're the pigeon bobbing our head, fluffing our feathers, flying all over creation after this one gorgeous female chick of our dreams. She's chirpin and burpin eating dirty earth worms.

    She sees me!

    She's raising her feathers every now and again...staying just within range but every so often flops away a few feet down the way. Always a few feet ahead. Makes us chase her a bit, never quite within reach. But we put up with that....it's what guy pigeons do, we work for what we want. We help her get that wormie every once in a while and she feigns pleasure and excitement. Keeps us happy but wondering.....

    Then one day a fuckin' bald eagle flaps his ass over, rips his chest muscles and our slutty whore pigeon flies away after him.

    Now all we have left is a sore neck.

    Morale of the story? Damn if I know. I need my coffee.
     
  17. chica&buddies

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    :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

    that was hilarious... thanks for the laugh ;)
     
  18. JordanClarkson

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    Less talk more stab. Why did you bore her with talk when you could've kissed her before you even got in the car. She wanted you to take control. She wanted to be seduced. Next time you see her just grab her and kiss her. You can even use some cheesy line like "before we go out there's something I need to do..."
     
  19. Darketernal

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    Welcome to the 'friends' zone :noes:

    Anyway no use of trying to beat a dead horse,she's history and only if she pursuedes you, you could try to reach for the sky and give it another attempt to see if you can get more out of this relationship then ''just being friends' by giving her sublte hints that you want more out of this between you and her.
     

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