Thinking about trying the online dating game

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  1. focalBlur

    focalBlur your does not equal you're

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    I have been toying with the idea of online dating for some time now. I have a profile but I don't pay and I don't think I ever will pay(I do not really like the idea of paying to meet someone, but if it's free why not). Up to this point I have not seen anyone who really stood out to me, at least stood out enough that I would make an effort to contact them. Anyways cut to the chase, I saw someone who looks interesting, they are not a paying member but hid their email address in their profile. I would like to contact them but I have no idea where to start.
    What does one say in their email beyond hello.

    I hope those who have done this can lend me some advice. :wavey:

    I am not just looking for a hookup either
     
  2. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    are you male or female? hetero?
     
  3. focalBlur

    focalBlur your does not equal you're

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    I am male and heterosexual
     
  4. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    not trying to talk you out of it

    the fact is even the most average looking women get dozens of responses per day. If you are going to be be successful, you have to find a way to differentiate yourself from all the other guys. If you don't, your message won't even be heard by her, it'll be filtered out like noise.
     
  5. focalBlur

    focalBlur your does not equal you're

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    I have no doubts about that
     
  6. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    Good. Most of the guys sending the messages never take that into consideration, so they send basically the same message all the other guys send.
     
  7. eljefedetonto

    eljefedetonto OT Supporter

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    I had a couple of cute girls quickmatch me on okcupid, then I just sent them a "hey, how's life etc etc" or whatever, nothing really interesting. Then I saw they checked out my profile and never replied :mamoru: whoops
     
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    black jesus OT Supporter

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    there are going to be 1000 other guys going after the same girls. I thought I was better off going to a bar because there are only say 10 guys in the room, rather than 1000 with the same opener as myself.
     
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    Online dating is likely the worst place to find someone, although success does happen it is generally between extremely socially inept/reserved and regressive individuals.

    It's worse than a meat-market, and yes you will be filtered out before you even finish typing your e-mail. Now imagine typing out all these e-mails; and they don't even get looked at, based maybe on your profile pic?

    Most important things for online dating: PROFILE PICS and secondly: What you say, that is all. The first has 85% weight.
     
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    The chances you are going to find somebody online are slim to none. Just like everybody else said, its like a feeding pond. You have to be either 1: very very attractive to that specific woman or 2: able to somehow differ from every other guy that sent a message to her that hour. Go to a coffee shop, a book store, common places that a girl would not think to be hit on.
     
  11. focalBlur

    focalBlur your does not equal you're

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    WOW I have to say i was not expecting all negative responses. I have know a few normal people who have had success using sites like match.com

    Is it really that bad?
     
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    Try it, don't take our word for it.
     
  13. enfiniti

    enfiniti How firm thy friendship ... OHIO!

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    more women than men. Have to pay a handy sum though.
     
  14. BradUF

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    When you meet someone online it is like skipping over all those little things that make you not want to date them and jump right into a date.
     
  15. antihero

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    yeah, but how many waste of time are you going to pursue before you get a face to face date with a reasonably attractive woman?
     
  16. doubleb23

    doubleb23 Ooooo

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    It can't be any more ridiculous/trashy/absurd/ineffective than trying to meet decent women through nightlife.
     
  17. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    :rolleyes:
     
  18. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    have had some success. use the free ones like okcupid.com

    Met everything from one really fucking crazy girl, to 3 really great ones. One is a friend, one I dated for a bit, one i'm talking to now.

    and I have no problem admitting that I am not hot. :hs:


    catch their attention in the email or you will never hear from them, well unless you are hot enough that they message you.
     
  19. JordanClarkson

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    nah, picking up women in nightclubs is easy. just pay me $2300 and i will PM you all of my secrets.
     
  20. The Green Bastard

    The Green Bastard Click click click bang

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    It works. I'm a proven example. I had a few dates here and there, then finally found one girl. Caring. Sexy. Funny. Fun. Beautiful. Great job. Awesome sex drive. The complete package. We're living together now, too.


    And the great thing about this type of dating (online) is that you can block the ones that scare you lol. I've had to block 3 or 4.
     
  21. Kinks

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  22. doubleb23

    doubleb23 Ooooo

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    I'm not saying that it's that hard. But, what is it based on? Token conversation, you paying for her drinks which may or may not be possible for you depending on your finances at the time...

    I'm a bartender. I watch it happen all the time and it's stupid - meeting people while either you are drunk or they are drunk is a recipe for failure.
     
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    i have been using cupid.com for a short time. Have a date lined up for this sunday :dunno:
     

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