Discussion in 'On Topic' started by the ground folds, Oct 13, 2005.
any thoughts or feelings on this saying?
....it's difficult to straddle the line....
thats what im figuring out right now.
I dont believe in this theory because sometimes you do hateful acts out of love.
I absolutely believe that it's true.
ya i think its true.... being in love can make you insane. Well, it can make me insane as much as I wish it didnt...
sometimes i feel like i love her, other times i feel like i hate her.
In the sense that love does not include possession, the two are completely unrelated. They are opposites, and only relate in that way. In the sense that loving relationships often include 'ownership,' or possesion of our partners... hate is only one betrayal away from 'love.'
From a psychological perspective, the opposite of love and hate aren't each other. It's indifference.
Love and hate are both high arousal states.
Seems kind of like saying, left and right aren't the inverse of each other: they both leave from the middle.
You have to travel far away from apathy to reach either hatred or love. What you're ignoring is that you are traveling in opposite directions.
Indifference can be glacial.
I'd prefer to be hated rather than be treated with indifference.
seems like a lot of interesting points in here
No, actually love and hate aren't in opposite directions. They are both high arousal states.
It's actually much easier to go from love to hate to love to hate, than to try and spark either of those from total indifference.
Try it sometime. It really works.
I see what you mean. You get a "." I hope you're happy.
My mother in law always said that you hurt the ones you love the most. It's very true.
Hopefully not as a justification for hurting the ones she loved?
nothing could be more true then that. my ex and i go back and fourth like that..such as one day we were screaming in each others faces about how we hate each other and 5 minutes later we were kissing and then 10 minutes later we went to dinner and talked fine all night at dinner. I think a lot of times when you love a person so much and something happens and you get lost, you do hateful acts out of love..out of not knowing how to handle your feelings. I know I have. I still struggle with this everyday when it comes to the ex and i.
that doesnt sound to healthy.
i can assure you, we do not have a healthy relationship. that is why he is the ex and i have recently broken contact with him. i dont need his bullshit in my life anymore
good for you, now just stick to it.
easier said then done. however i am being strong. even though he still calls, im's..and we have a class together at school (not intentional)
In line with what Johan has said, they are both very powerful feelings. It's like being so happy that you burst into tears.