Ok, I've been in this relationship going on for over 3 years and we've been married for 1 of those years. She has 2 kids of her own and we just recently had a kid together, which is my first. I love her with all my heart and would, and have, done anything for her and the kids. I treat them as if they were my own flesh and blood. Even better then their dads who are hardly there for them. The problem lies in, regardless of all that I do for her, she harps on the one thing that I do, but not as often as she would like and all that is is give her a massage everytime she wants it. The reason this doesn't happen as often as she would like is cause I work long hours and am tired 9 times out of 10 when I get home. I'm the only one working cause I want her to finish college and just focus on that so I watch the kids at night after I get off. She has been without a job for about a year and has been off and on about school for the past 3 years. I try and talk to her about it but she still acts like I'm the one in the wrong. It just makes me feel like no matter what I do, she'll find the one thing I don't and forget about all the good things and sacrifices I do to make things work.