SRS The results from criticism

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  1. brianpsx

    brianpsx Life's a Peach

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    Some background about my life, I used to be very skinny, hunched over, insecure, introverted, looked angry all the time. Im 23 now and in the recent year, I started eating healthier, lifting weights, sociable, just improving my confidence in being an adult.
    I have a cousin whos about 10 years older, and throughout my life he would always criticize me about being skinny and not sociable, all the negative things about me. I know he means well, but it always bothered me greatly. Fast forward to now, and I had a family gathering this past week and he was treating me differently and just giving me compliments on how I changed. I am proud of myself for taking big steps, but at the same time it bothers me how just because I improved outwardly, he would think of me any differently. I am still the same person on the inside. I am just venting, but I feel people should treat people the same, not because of all the superficial stuff. Anyone ever had similar situations where you made a big change and people reacted to it? Thanks.
     
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    Dreams2Reality saywhat

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  3. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    Tough love.
     
  4. Kirbys Autumn

    Kirbys Autumn Mrs. Kirby McSpic

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    :werd: You said it yourself, he only meant well. Now that you've changed he has no reason to criticize you.
     
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    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    you are a different person on the inside now too. and it shows on the outside.
     
  6. Malic

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    The same sort of thing happened with me. But it wasn't with a cousin it was a brother and it was to do with my size and socialising.
     

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