The guy i'm dating likes going to strip clubs

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  1. joyceebabe

    joyceebabe New Member

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    he goes like every fucking week. should i stop seeing him OR should i just get breast implants? :mamoru:


    idk that seems like a red flag to me
     
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    if it bothers you, stop dating him. but don't expect him to change.
     
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    Go with him. I bet he'll be really turned on by it.
     
  4. DatacomGuy

    DatacomGuy is moving to Canada

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    I love going to strip clubs with the girl I'm dating at that time. It's a lot of fun.

    But like lauren said - if it bothers you, leave now.
     
  5. MattThom01

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    Once again, we seem to have someone who can't think for themselves.

    Yes, it sounds harsh, but why the heck are you asking us?

    If it bothers you too much, don't date him. If you think it can be worked out, talk to him about it.
     
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    joyceebabe New Member

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    yeah it bothers me but i like him a LOT though
     
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    DatacomGuy is moving to Canada

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    Talk to him.
     
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    joyceebabe New Member

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    whats with guys and strip clubs anyway? i mean you guys don't fuck the strippers right?
     
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    yeah he actually asked me to go with him some time if i want to
     
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    depends on the guy :mamoru:
     
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    i would say no big deal, but once a week? I enjoy the strip club if its a bachelor party/special occasion/whatever, but once a week is a bit strange.

    once a week means hes probably talking to the strippers and stuff like that, which is creepy...
     
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    If it bugs you, break up with him, but you won't, because by the sound of this thread you dont want to.

    Accept that he goes, or go with him, or leave him.

    On a side note ill agree that once a week is very creepy.
     
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    Why does it bother you?
     
  14. joyceebabe

    joyceebabe New Member

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    going to a tittybar every week is kinda...well...odd. we've been dating for 2 months now and i don't know if i'm in the position to talk to him about it. i mean i'm not his gf yet and i don't want to appear like a clingy psycho (which i'm starting to become actually lol)
     
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    I personally don't see it as odd. I used to frequent the strip club just as often (if not more). My friends and I enjoyed the atmosphere. Most of the time we wouldn't even pay attention to the dancers. :dunno:
     
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    I don't care if my boyfriend goes to the strip club every once in a while (which he doesn't) but every week would not be okay with me. That seems obessive. Ask him to not go as much. If he gets all defensive about it, leave him. I wouldn't date someone that went that often.
     
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    it's a weird (and bad) habit IMO. i would be uncomfortable with my bf going to a strip club even once (but i could deal with it if it was a bachelor party or something) but if he went a) by himself and b) that often i'd be like :ugh: i wouldn't tolerate it.
     
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    I think I'm the only guy who doesn't like going to strip clubs. Why would I want to pay a woman to tease me?
     
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    My first boyfriend, who I date from the time I was 15 to almost 19, went to them all of the time. I asked why, and I guess his friends friend owned the joint, so they got free/cheap drinks, etc.
    I'll be honest though, it bothered me that he made it a lifestyle, I brought it up 'you going there all of the time bothers me' and he quit going. :dunno:
     
  20. verdiocchi

    verdiocchi Oh snap!

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    :werd: My bf went with his friends about once every six months or so when he was single, and doesn't go at all now. I'd be a little freaked out by a guy that went that often, single or not. I'd just keep thinking to myself, "You seriously can't find anything else to do or anyone else to hang out with?" Every weekend just seems like it would be numbing after a while...
     
  21. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Umm once a week? Yeah...that's weird in my opinion. Have you even tried talking to him about how you feel about this? Because obviously it makes you feel inadequate. If you have told him how you feel what has he said about it?

    I can understand going with him once or twice; I know I'd go with my boyfriend. But if my boyfriend wanted to go all the time that seems like a big ass red flag to me. If he won't compromise for you then you need to find another guy who is not obsessed with wasting his money when he can get pussy from his own girlfriend.
     
  22. verdiocchi

    verdiocchi Oh snap!

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    Telling someone that something makes you uncomfortable isn't a demand. It's letting him know that it bothers her because even after just two months the other person should care somewhat about the person's comfort. It's her choice whether or not to stay with him if he continues to go. It's one thing for her to say, "Stop going or we're over!" It's another for her to say, "It makes me uncomfortable that go so frequently." and then decide that she can't continue to date him if he keeps going as often. At that point she can say, "I'm sorry but your lifestyle isn't for me and I don't think I can date someone with your habits/priorities." and then stop seeing him. She shouldn't keep dating the guy if he frequently does something that bothers her.
     
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    This is just ignorant IMO.
     
  24. sportsjunkie

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    it's like a guy watching porn. it's purely a form of entertainment.

    if you don't like it, talk to him about it and like Lauren said, go with him sometime. It's fun, I like it and I'm a chick.

    I can understand you not liking it and he goes and spends an abundance in money, but other than that I wouldn't worry too much. Guys will have their "hobbies", like going out golfing, etc. I think of it like that. but that's just me
     
  25. Nev

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    I'd say he's better off going to strip clubs where it's really harmless than it is for him to go out to bars and be trying to pick girls up and take them home.
     

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