THE girl....going crazy here.

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  1. Gibles

    Gibles the funny thing about my back is....

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    Ok, this is going to be so jumbled it may not make sense so bear with me. I meet this girl through some friends and we hit it off better than I've ever experienced, so much chemistry it's insane. She's everything I'm looking for in a girl and I know exactly what I want it's scary (1.5 years out of 7.5 year relationshit). So obviously there is a slight problem....she moved back home from NYC after a 2 year relationship ended back in August so she has this huge wall up. Add to the fact she's going to graduate school out of state sometime next year. I know for a fact she's interested but in the back of her mind I think she's probably thinking it's a lost cause because she'll be leaving. I KNOW I need to give her time and be patient with this because it would all be worth it. All I'm looking for here is some sound advice on how to handle this if anyone's experienced something like this. If you have any other questions just ask.
     
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    vodkacollins New Member

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    how long have you known her?
     
  3. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Why are you being patient? If time is the largest factor in this problem why not seize the moment and enjoy it while it lasts?

    You might not even make it a year, so why not just make a move now because it's what you want to do?
     
  4. Gibles

    Gibles the funny thing about my back is....

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    We've been talking and hanging out for the last month or so. I think part of it she doesn't want to get attached if she's leaving.
     
  5. Gibles

    Gibles the funny thing about my back is....

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    Well because I know how if feels getting out of a long relationship and don't want to take the chance of pushing her away.
     
  6. vodkacollins

    vodkacollins New Member

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    so tell her you like her and are open to see where this goes. even without her getting out of a long relationship, she is still moving and that would cause issues too. it doesnt have to be a high pressure thing, just tell her you are interested in seeing where it takes you guys
     
  7. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    So then what? Wait practically until she leaves before you say anything?

    If she really likes you she'll try something with you. If it works out it woks out. If it doesn't it doesn't :dunno:
     
  8. Gibles

    Gibles the funny thing about my back is....

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    I have and she has said the same thing. I think the moving thing is the big issue.
     
  9. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :ugh: So then why the fuck aren't you dating if she agrees to date you??
     
  10. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    well if things go really well between you then you could always move too :dunno:
     
  11. Gibles

    Gibles the funny thing about my back is....

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    No, dating hasn't been discussed. It's almost like dating without the title though. She's a runner.
     
  12. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    when you focus on one woman you make yourself way too nervous and too needy

    oneitis = fail
     
  13. Viper

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    This:

    is why you feel like this:

    She didn't reveall too much too quickly and she's a challenge, so she's got your full attention and thus you've built her up in you head as more than she likely is.

    You said it yourself: she has this huge wall up. What's BEHIND that wall? And will she still seem so perfect when that wall comes down.

    Basically, you are infatuated, and it's causing you to put her up on some pedastal, but your gut feeling is slowly whispering in the background that this isn't right. That you don't TRULY know her. Etc.
     
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  15. BlackIce72

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    whoa calm down it's been a month
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :mamoru: Pretty sure she means a year from now.
     
  17. Abomb

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    honestly id say dump her it sounds like shes cheating on you
     
  18. Gibles

    Gibles the funny thing about my back is....

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    This could be a possibility.
    This not so much.
     
  19. Viper

    Viper OT Supporter

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    If she ended her relationship in August, that means you came into the picture sometime after that, right?

    So you've know her for 3 months. Trust me, you don't TRULY know her. Come down out of la-la land and get real.
     
  20. Gibles

    Gibles the funny thing about my back is....

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    I know you like to be right about everything and all, especially because of what you've been through. Well, I've been through a lot too and can see through people fairly easily. Of course I don't know her as if I'd known her for years but I know enough.
    I'm a firm believer no one ever TRULY knows their SO.
     
  21. Abomb

    Abomb New Member

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    yeah you dont know what you are talking about
     
  22. BlackIce72

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    yeah and to turn it back around do we ever really know ourselves?

    not trying to get philosophical but it's not common to REALLY understand the root of our actions
     
  23. Gibles

    Gibles the funny thing about my back is....

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    Why? Is that too far fetched? Can you read minds?
    You may think you know and after a long time together you probably know them pretty well, but not truly.
     
  24. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rofl:
     
  25. Abomb

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    reading minds and knowing someone are two different things. reading minds is knowing what they are THINKING. Like every little individual thought.

    knowing someone is having a grasp on their morality, their belief system, their fears, what makes them happy etc which is obviously very possible to learn and know about your SO.
     

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