SRS the gf being weird. v. wtf? or something

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  1. trev.the.enemy

    trev.the.enemy New Member

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    my girlfriend overanalyzes a lot. like.. a lot. sometimes she'll ask me if i did something that is completely out of the blue to me. like. she just asked me if i'd deleted comments on my myspace from my best friend jake(he's in iraq right meow), because one of mine looked like a reply to him. i get like 50 comments/day.. and the "reply to him" one was posted on april 2nd.


    this makes me think she's trying to hide something since she's always assuming i'm hiding shit from her, which i'm not.

    btw i've been out of town working for the past 2 weeks, but she still does this when i'm there(albeit in much smaller doses)

    :hs:
     
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    and i just told her it makes me think she's hiding shit from me, and she says 'no i'm not, how about you?'

    seems like a generic reply. i dunno, maybe her over-analyzing is rubbing off on me :|
     
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    most likely she's either hiding stuff or is just insanely insecure. has she been like this the whole time youve been together.. or just recently?
     
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    Doesn't sound like you guys trust each other very much.
     
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    no she hasn't really been like this the whole time, just the past 3-4 weeks(and a lot since i've been gone these past 2 weeks).

    since i've been gone, she's been trying to pin me somehow hiding something from her(whether it be me deleting comments on myspace that were never there, or being short when i'm holding my nephew.. my boss = my brother, wife came to visit blah blah blah).
     
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    i trusted her a ton up until about a month ago, then she started acting shady all of a sudden. now she's being more shady. :ugh:
     
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    to me, it sounds like she's trying to catch you in a lie so that she can feel better about what she did while you were gone, orrr what she wants to do next time youre gone.

    or she honestly might just be insanely insecure.

    but i know for me with my ex, he lied to me A LOT and hid things a lot. and he would pick apart everything i did just to make me seem like a bad person, when he was the one doing far worse things than i could ever imagine.
     
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    Sit down and have a talk with her.

    You'll never know til you hear it from her mouth.

    Maybe it is just the distance between you two making her paranoid, but if you don't talk about things then that distance will be there even when youre together.
     
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    that makes sense. i had an ex who did the same, which is why my first assumption was "she's trying to hide shit wtf nigga". she accuses me of being distant all the time as well, which isn't really the case. i am, yes.. but the main reason i get distant is she'll be a bitch sometimes when I open up, so i'm like fuck it i won't talk to you about that.


    like just now, she was like 'i wish i wouldn't have brought it up 'cause you're making a huge deal about it'.

    just trying to figure out the miscommunication. :hs:
     
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    i just asked her straight up about the paranoia thing :o
     
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    her reply:

    "Id rather not cry before prom cuz i don't want a puffy face in pictures. Can we talk about this when you get back, or tomorrow?"

    yes i'm missing her senior prom and i already feel like a shitty bf for it. :\
     
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    good luck! :hs:

    for me, i get kinda paranoid about my current boy.. but we havent been together that long and i honest to god adore the heck out of him. so maybe it's just she's scared of losing you.. ? but i dont think i'd ever do the whole e-stalking thing to him that she does to you. .. maybe.

    doesnt always have to be negative though. although her change in behavior about it all (not being so paranoid.. and now) makes me wonder if she has done anything. change in behavior is #1 sign. keep us posted!
     
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    who is she going to prom with?
     
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    i said "yeah that's fine" to her crying thing
    her reply:
    "Ok fine be distant if thats what you really want. Its not gonna help anything and may result in a break up, but obviously u dont care"


    i'm what the fucking out loud atm
     
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    a mutual friend named taylor. he's tall & fat, lol
     
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    i hate to say it, but i see this relationship going downhill fast. :hsd: she is putting up the defensive walls and pushing you away, while blaming it on you.
     
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    .. it's not always about looks.

    but if you trust him then good.
     
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    yeah i do. him and i met 'cause he threatened my little cousin and i scared the piss outta him, lol
     
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    yeah.. that's what i'm seeing, too.

    how does one fix? :\ i'm trying.
     
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    in my experience, you cant really fix things.

    you could always just sit her down and completely open up with her about how YOU feel about her. sometimes girls start looking elsewhere when they start to feel neglected and unloved. and since you have been away for a while, she might just be craving attention. not saying she's a bad attention craving whore, but it's natural. if someone in the relationship isn't feeling like they are needed or even wanted, then they start to look elsewhere for that feeling.

    all you really can do is put everything youre feeling out there and hope that she changes her ways/feels the same.
     
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    thank you. i shall do that and see what happens.

    thanks again.
     
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    no problem. let me know how everything works out!
     
  23. She's cheating on you, time to move on.
     
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    doesn't seem like you scared him very much.
     
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    Why are you missing her prom?

    Hate to say it, but the relationship is just about over. She resents you for not going to her prom with her (at least on some level). When you asked her what was wrong, she wanted you (at least on some level) to push the issue, to keep trying to find out what was wrong. When you just let it drop, it seemed like you didn't really care that much.
     

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