the 'flame' has left the building

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  1. PISO

    PISO New Member

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    This seems like an appropriate place to post my problems.

    I would have lots of erections [at least 10 a day] and masterbate everyday from age 12/13 to 17. It felt great, my sex drive was high and i was really really horny. The orgams were great.

    Then at around 17/18 i noticed the quality in my orgasms droped.... droped a lot, almost to the point where i would ejaculate with very little little feeling. If i were to put my orgasms at the age of 14 on a scale of one to ten- they would be a nine or ten, if i were to put my current orgasms on a scale of one to ten- they would be a one or two, they honestly done feel plesurable anymore, just a mild sensation.

    Over this period my sexual "tastes" would remain the same but my sex drive became very very low- to the point i was rarely interested in sex at all.

    My sexual prefernces haven't changed, they've simply being minimized to the point its very difficult to get a strong reaction from my body. I met a girl this year [finally] and failed to maintain an erection for more than 5 minutes with her.

    This 'decay' has been a slow process over the last year or so, it didn't happen over night. I am still phyiscally able to get an erection [wake up every morning with one] and can arouse myself after a long time of stimulating my penis and watching hard core porn. But its becoming a problem that has taken the fun out of my sexuality

    what has happened? and what can i do to get back to normal?
     
  2. Isamu

    Isamu New Member

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    Do you have anything in your life that is particularly stressful? failing in school? parents getting a divorce?
     
  3. PISO

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    yea, i guess so- self esteem/apperance mostly.
    I thought about that being the culprit-
    I mean it makes sense when im with a partner [not enjoying it], but how exactly would that affect my masterbation/sex drive/orgasm?
    Its hard to make that kinda connection.
     
  4. bandwagon

    bandwagon Copy/Paste

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    Stop wacking it. :slap:
     
  5. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    Another reality apparently
    It is all psycological.

    You have also entered a phase in your life where your sex drive isnt necessarily a constant thing. You may go months without any sex drive, and then all of the sudden feel like a 13yo hitting puberty again. Its just how it works for most men entering their 20's as they pass their sexual peak.

    Try to clear out the stress in your life. I know you said you sexual preferences havent changed, but try something different. If you dont try, you never know what you are missing out on that may really turn you on.

    The best way to keep your sex drive going as you age is to get kinky and stay kinky :)
     
  6. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    do you exercise?
     
  7. PISO

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    thank you. That was most helpfull.

    i just started weight lifting 3 weeks ago.
    But now that you mention it, my sex drive did begin to go down hill when i stoped playing sport upon entering highschool to prep for exams.
     
  8. Ronald McFondle

    Ronald McFondle Hey gook, just listen

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    supposedly zinc helps your sex drive
     
  9. MattThom01

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    OK...sounds like most of the problems with the women are psychological.

    Plain and simple, stop masturbating for awhile! My guess is that your body has gotten so used to getting an orgasm through that method that it is hard for you to do it any other way. You've basically trained your body to cum in only one way.

    Also, as you get older, your sex drive tends to stabilize a little bit...expecting to feel the same way at 17 or 18 as you did at 14 isn't realistic.

    Just take a break from it all, and don't worry about it....it will return to normal, I bet.
     

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