The 5 Love Languages

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  1. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    So for those of you who either didn't read it or have forgotten, there was a book brought up the other day in another thread called "The 5 Love Languages." To simplify, the concept explains that everyone tends to feel loved by their SO in one of five ways (sometimes you can be even with 2 options):
    *Words of affirmation
    *Quality time
    *Receiving gifts
    *Acts of service
    *Physical contact

    I personally found this really interesting and looked into it further. SO and I have a lot in common, but we do definitely differ in what makes us feel loved/need/wanted/etc.

    Well, I took the test last night and wasn't surprised at all by the answer. I was dead even with 2 "languages"-receiving gifts & acts of service. Probably has a lot to do with the fact that I grew up with a mom who literally bought/made me little gifts on a daily basis. I've always done this exact thing with people I care about. I love making gifts for people and put sooooo much thought into gifts that I buy for them. Same thing goes with acts of service; if you help me clean the house one day or take the dogs on a walk....oh man, I love you so much. Interesting thing is my need of physical contact and words of affirmation scores were a hell of a lot lower

    Anywho, I thought this was fascinating and couldn't wait to see my SO's answer, so I had him take the test and WOW. Even though it's not some mind-blowing realization, it's so strange to see it laid out in black and white. For him, "quality time" ruled by far. He's perfectly content just sitting on the couch with me or walking around Targe; as long as we're togethert. The thing I found hilarious was he had a 0% on "receiving gifts," which is funny because it has always hurt me a bit that he has never been super grateful for the gifts I give him. Yes, there have been a few that he lost it over, but for the most part the small things I've made or bought because I thought of him just got a "ohhhh cool....thanks :hs:" Somehow seeing that getting gifts just does nothing for him just makes so much sense now.

    Now that we both know what works for the other we made a pact to really try to nurture that need :) You all should try the test, takes like 10 minutes. Try and get your SO to try it as well (if you have one).

    http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/personal-profiles/
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    :bowrofl: I got like a three way tie between words, time and touch and basically nothing in gifts and service.
     
  3. Memopad

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    Your Scores

    8 Words of Affirmation
    11 Quality Time
    6 Receiving Gifts
    0 Acts of Service
    5 Physical Touch

    Interesting... I disliked alot of the questions. It was like trying to decide between two awesome things, how the hell can i do that!
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Whoa! I read it say being even on 2 can be very normal, but 3? You just feel loved by everything except women taking action for you :mamoru:

    :h5: Way to post, I hope everyone does it this way.

    And yeah, I go frustrated as well for the exact same reasons :mamoru:
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    inorite? :rofl: My reaction was "damn I sound demanding". :mamoru: I don't just want time or touch or words, I want all three damn it! :hsugh:
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    It's interesting too because when this was mentioned the other day didn't you ask if there was a "sex language?" You clearly respond best to feeling over action. I think it's kind of cool to know that though. I almost feel this weird sense of "wow, I really don't have to try so hard to make him little things."
     
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    10 Words of Affirmation
    8 Quality Time
    2 Receiving Gifts
    1 Acts of Service
    9 Physical Touch

    I think I pretty much agree with this.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    It's funny because I thought I liked gifts and service, but apparently not. :mamoru:
     
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    JoJoBee Hanging out with my chicks! OT Supporter

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    this is a great book if you have not read it. i have it and have read it many times...

    no doubt in my mind what mine were.... i already knew!!!


    6 Words of Affirmation
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    0 Receiving Gifts
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    God I'm needy

    8 Words of Affirmation
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    3 Receiving Gifts
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    8 Words of Affirmation
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    2 Receiving Gifts
    4 Acts of Service
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    Sounds right to me.
     
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    8Words of Affirmation
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    7 Acts of Service
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    Damn i feel really needy.
     
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    6 Words of Affirmation
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    5 Receiving Gifts
    1 Acts of Service
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    I would say that's spot on for me
     
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    I was just thinking about this concept the other day while I was browsing through some of the things that AK sent me for Valentine's Day.

    A little oragimi craft here...a letter there...each gift, each expression is a physical manifestation of a feeling that was felt in the moment it was created. And it's been captured for as long as those objects exist in their state. A little physical manifestation of a fleeting feeling in a fleeting moment that is but a speck in the grand existance of humanity.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    ditto

    wonder if there's a gender correlation. Emily and I, if we differ anywhere, differ on service. we do both prioritize the top 3 you mentioned though.
     
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    I had my SO take it too and his was:

    6 Words of Affirmation
    10 Quality Time
    0 Receiving Gifts
    6 Acts of Service
    8 Physical Touch

    I thought it was pretty cool how our scores were a bit similar. We both enjoy quality time together and receiving gifts was the lowest.
     
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    I was expecting a tie between words or affirmation and physical touch
     
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    Meat Popsicle What's that smell? OT Supporter

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    :hsd:
     
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    not in a million years would i have thought anyone gives a shit about gifts as much as this test seems to think possible.

    If i want some "thing" ill buy it. If you want to do something nice, give me a backrub or make me a meal i like.
     
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    ditto, but for service instead of gifts.
     
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    I knew women were like that. oldest sex excuse in the book. He didn't help me vacuum so of course i don't want to have sex with him :wtf:


    if i want the yard raked, ill rake the yard. I mostly just ask not to be asked to take care of the things i don't care if they get taken care of or not.
     
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    Is this that guy that has interviewed thousands of couples and can predict within 5 minutes with 95%+ accuracy if they will get a divorce within a year?
     
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